Narcissists will destroy your life and erode your self esteem and do it with such stealth as to make you feel as if you're the one that's letting them down.
You will go from being the perfect love of their life to nothing you do is ever good enough. You will give your everything and they will take it all and give you less and less in return. You will end up depleted emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and probably financially, and then get blamed for it. Narcissists are excellent actors. They really know how to give a performance, and people are mesmerized by their fake charm and innocence. It leaves the victim feeling deflated, bewildered, and confused. It's hard to change people's perception of the narcissist, because they are so convincing in playing victim, and tainting you as the abuser.
Most narcissists replace their exes within weeks if not days of breaking up, often from a stable they've kept full throughout your relationship. Remember, they must have a source of energy to feed on at all times. You are an arrangement that ceased to be convenient when you stopped accepting abuse. With a narcissist you never know where you stand. You walk on eggshells. He makes you feel worthless. The lies, the cheating, the abuse. It's all done on purpose to keep you feeling insecure about yourself and feeling like you are not worthy of being loved. It hurts to walk away from the man you gave your heart to and often times you rely on false hope to keep holding on even if holding on hurts you in the process.
...and that's why we stay longer than we should. Because it hurts to watch something you love transform into something you should hate. We sit and wait for it to return to it's original state, in denial as we ignore the fact that what we see was always there and what is now, will always be. Over time you start noticing that some people just aren't worth it anymore. The best feeling in the world is when you realize you just don't care anymore.
