Men Are Sharing Their 'Reverse The Genders' Moments To Raise Awareness Of The Double-Standard

Had a girl literally grab my d**k when I was on stage singing karaoke. I pushed her off of me, the bartender did nothing, tje security did nothing. I had to complain to the manager and had to point out SA is SA regardless of gender.

Had a bunch of female co-workers at one job. Really enjoyed working with them, and they used to tease me about some things, or ask my about my GF etc and a lot of behavior that if I had done it - would have got me fired.

Honestly - I did not mind - because I knew it was in good fun, but one day I did point out - "look, I am fine with it, but if the roles were reversed here - I would be written up for sexual harassment' They looked shocked and said 'but we are just having fun...".

The missed the point.... the staggering double standard.

I'm a tall guy, 6'5, so I have to bend over to drink from the fountain at work. Got my a*s slapped a few times by some of the women I work with.

Earlier today there was a thread in /r/bisexual where a woman was asking how to ask out a waitress and several people chimed in about how she should keep going back to the restaurant alone until she got that server, then to flirt with her on the job and leave a big tip with her phone number attached.

I don't even need to spell it out, it's so obvious. What they were recommending her to do contradicts so many common pieces of dating advice given to men. As soon as the inherent assumption that the person doing it is some kind of evil, perverted a****r (i.e, a *man*) all that goes out the window.

My girlfriend forgets our anniversary about half the time. I always applaud her on not conforming to gender stereotypes 😂.

Oh I've had so many by now. I go to raves often with my friends. I've been kissed without asking for it, my butt has been grabbed and smacked without asking for it, p**s drunk girls have casually come near me and wrapped their floppy arms around me swaying to the music, one time this cougar asked me if I had any sniff sniff and that she would suck my you-know-what for it, I s**t you not! Yay girl power! Y'all fought for the equal right to behave the same ugly way those men who you complain about do.

I worked at a law firm as a paralegal and a partner there was a great mentor to me. She was an absolute genius, and a very kind person. Super patient with my mistakes and a great teacher unlike many high performing lawyers. In our weekly meetings we opened with a few slides about recommendations/likes on a topic like movies, music or books. The person chairing would add some pics to go with answers and when it was her turn she used a photo of a jacked dude in an adaptation of an Austen novel with a wet shirt that was sticking to his body. She said in front of the whole firm that she "had to include that photo because wow, I mean look at THAT am I right?".



Nobody said anything, but I'd bet anything if that was a male colleague, let alone a partner who was mentoring a female paralegal, the entire meeting would have come to a screeching halt.

Long time ago. How I lost my virginity. This was the 1980s.

I have no memory of it. I was black out drunk. We were dating, and were going to do it soon anyway. And in her defense, she didn’t know I was that drunk. But we left a high school party and walked the two blocks to her house, snuck into her bedroom, had apparently lousy s*x where we lost our virginities together. I was blackout drunk. She was sober. A couple hours later I wake up and she fills me in! If the roles were reversed, it would totally have been date r**e. As it was, we just blew it off as an oopsy. A week later I got a repeat sober and I was apparently a much better lover!

I’m single and one night about 11 pm, my bedroom door opened and someone came in and closed the door. It was pitch black. Then this female voice, said, “mind if I sit down ?” I leaned over and turned the the lamp on the nightstand. I knew her as we went on a couple of dates. I asked what she was doing ? She started talking and said she needed someone to talk to. After a few minutes she stood up and undid her pants and started to get undressed. Again, I asked her what she was doing. She replied that she thought she would get into bed with me as it would be better to talk. Fack no. I told her to get dressed and get outta my house. She was mad at me because what kind of a guy kicks a 1/2 naked girl out of his bed ! I told her a tired guy that has morals. She didn’t speak to me for a long time. I couldn’t help but wonder if I walked into a girl’s house at 11 pm and did the same thing if she would have yelled r**e and called the police.

Twice in college I had girls try to force themselves on me. Both times I just pushed them off and that was that. They weren’t happy about it, but I was bigger and stronger than them so there’s nothing they could really do about it. I didn’t even realize until years later that that’s technically sexual a*****t. I didn’t think much of it at the time.

I'm a guy with shoulder-length hair. I was once rejected from a pizza place during a job interview because my "my hair was too long." My hair was in a bun at the time, the uniform would require a hat, and my entire head of hair fits under one, which I demonstrated during the interview. Across the room, a girl was making pizza in the kitchen with untied, back length hair. There was also another girl on the register with a pixie cut.

If women can have their hair however they want and be professional, why can't men?

I went to a florist’s shop with my 6yo son. The lady behind the counter told my son how handsome he was, and how he should come back and see her when he turned 16. She was 50ish.

Female teachers having relationships with male students and the reactions to it.

Public bathrooms. Women coming into the men's room at sports events or festivals is pretty much normal - who wants to deal with those extra long lines, after all?

I attended a music festival years ago where one woman, after finishing her business in one of the stalls, actually walked down the row of men standing at the urinals and looked over everyone's shoulder. When another woman asked her what she was doing, she replied, "Just checking to see if there's something I like.".

It was end of year cleaning at the factory I used to work at, there were fair amount of women who used to work there. So regarding the cleaning thing the women were against it saying they don’t want to get their hands dirty and it’s a man’s job. I mentioned gender equality and one of them said “Yes but not in all the things.”.

My ex assaulted me, and on the final court hearing, she didn't show up cos she fled the state, but she got a doctors note. It's been 3 years, and the case is still going.

If I assaulted her and fled the state, I'd have cops at my door in 10 minutes.

I’ve had two HR reps, **both** women, tell me that I should ‘*smile more*’.

I was 19 at a bar with friends.

While standing at the bar waiting to order a drink, a lady I guess to be in her 40s approached me and asked me to dance. I politely declined. She grabbed my hand and tried to pull me away from the bar. I resisted and asked her to leave me alone.

She proceeded to start loudly swearing at me and telling people to "look at this *Insert homophobic slur*". Everybody around was staring at me as if I was at fault. Nobody told her to stop, they were just looking at me.

If a guy grabbed a woman like that and tried to pull her away there is a good chance he'd be punched. At the very least someone would say something to him.

The amount of times i’ve been openly groped/s*xually a*saulted by women is a really high number. A*s grabbed, junk grabbed, stolen kisses. It’s really wild.

Bout a year or so back a 25ish year old woman made a post on this sub and was talking about how men lose their "sweetness" as they age and started talking about how she was only interested in barely legal men.

Several people responded talking about how much s**t we go through and to be fair they were right. but I took the route instead of point out how she was sounding alarmingly like a groomer/pedophile in the making. If any one of us started talking about only being interested in only 18 year olds and their "sweetness" which let's be honest is pretty code for naitivity we'd be nailed to the cross and rightfully so.

Some of the men on this sub defended her, some agreed with me, became a pretty controversial comment, some people started to harp on me about she's only ~25 but my point was that she was going to keep aging, and her interest seemed to be squarely aimed at men who didnt know any better and were just barely legal, and my guess is that if the age of consent was lower, she would have aimed lower too. It's like Chris rocks joke about your boss and minimum wage. "I'd pay you less if I could, but it's against the law."

The last point I want to make is honestly I'm not sure I'd have an issue with an 18 year old organically starting a relationship with a 25 year old, but there's a difference between "I'm dating this person and they just so happen to be barely above the age of consent." Vs "I'm dating this person because they're barely above the age of consent.".