In 1995, Cindy Cashman published a book under the pen name Dr. Alan Francis and titled it Everything Men Know About Women. In reality, the book was a gag – all 150 pages of the book were blank, insinuating that men know absolutely nothing about women.
While today, the implication might seem a tad misandrist, it holds a certain amount of truth. In our society, boys grow up socializing with boys, and girls grow up socializing with girls, so, it's natural that one side doesn't know everything about the other.
There's no shame in asking the opposite s*x about their experiences. So, when one netizen asked: "Men of Reddit, what's something you've always wanted to ask a woman but thought it would be too embarrassing to ask them?", many guys came to find the answers to questions that have been bothering them for a long time. From how periods and peeing outside work to how women like to be comforted – the gals finally explained the particulars of being a woman.
#1
Does it appear weird that I have pads and stuff ready, even though I dont need any? My mother once said that would be very nice when I have people over and periods just happens. I agreed to that thought, so I have some in the bathroom.
COVID_KISSES: Nah that might be a lifesaver.
zladuric: Also, clearly mark them in your bathroom. "Spare hygiene products for emergencies". Someone may need it but not know you well enough to ask.
COVID_KISSES: Nah that might be a lifesaver.
zladuric: Also, clearly mark them in your bathroom. "Spare hygiene products for emergencies". Someone may need it but not know you well enough to ask.
130points
#2
Do you really like men that knows how to cook? 👩🍳.
[deleted]: Absolutely
[deleted]: Of course! It shows you are independent and not relying on me to cook for you.
[deleted]: Absolutely
[deleted]: Of course! It shows you are independent and not relying on me to cook for you.
121points
#3
I always assumed periods were a constant stream of blood (like a cut, as another redditor put it). Apparently this is wrong, so how does it work? Small gushes?
takethetrainpls: Imagine you've got some runny jam that has a few bits of strawberry. Put it in a funnel and move it around.
sterlingrose: And if you’ve been sitting or lying down for a while and you stand up, it’s like a jam tsunami.
takethetrainpls: Imagine you've got some runny jam that has a few bits of strawberry. Put it in a funnel and move it around.
sterlingrose: And if you’ve been sitting or lying down for a while and you stand up, it’s like a jam tsunami.
115points
#4
Oh boy here we go.
***ahem***
HOW DO YOU LIVE WITHOUT DEEP POCKETS IN YOUR PANTS??
BookWormBookStorm: IT'S HORRIBLE AND IT MAKES US SAD!
And we have to spend money on handbags!
***ahem***
HOW DO YOU LIVE WITHOUT DEEP POCKETS IN YOUR PANTS??
BookWormBookStorm: IT'S HORRIBLE AND IT MAKES US SAD!
And we have to spend money on handbags!
113points
#5
What should I do to not make you feel threatened when I walk behind you at night? Cross the street?
iiredgm: Try not to walk fast and definitely not directly behind us. Crossing the street sounds like a safe bet in any situation. It'd also help if you took out your phone to play some game or call someone to chat, show you're casual and not a threat
iiredgm: Try not to walk fast and definitely not directly behind us. Crossing the street sounds like a safe bet in any situation. It'd also help if you took out your phone to play some game or call someone to chat, show you're casual and not a threat
100points
#6
Other than the obvious (lying, cheating, rude to you or your friends)what’s the quickest way for your S.O, or someone you’re interested in, to lose your respect?
[deleted]: How they act towards strangers and animals
sopranobanjo: Being unkind to people you aren’t attracted to, especially other women
tired-students-club: Not contributing to household things to the point of having to remind you to do basic tasks. I’m your partner, not your mother.
[deleted]: How they act towards strangers and animals
sopranobanjo: Being unkind to people you aren’t attracted to, especially other women
tired-students-club: Not contributing to household things to the point of having to remind you to do basic tasks. I’m your partner, not your mother.
99points
#7
Do you really like it when men roll up their sleeves?
LJGHunter: Yes. Can't really tell you why. Something about the forearms. It's important to note that it's a phenomenon specific to having long sleeves that are rolled up; a shirt with three quarter sleeves does not produce the same effect.
zoeydoey: Roll up sleeves, lift something, reach for something, whatever. Just show me those forearms.
LJGHunter: Yes. Can't really tell you why. Something about the forearms. It's important to note that it's a phenomenon specific to having long sleeves that are rolled up; a shirt with three quarter sleeves does not produce the same effect.
zoeydoey: Roll up sleeves, lift something, reach for something, whatever. Just show me those forearms.
97points
#8
What's a good vibe/attitude that makes you feel good?
[deleted]: I can’t speak for every woman, but be yourself. Don’t make everything sexual, actually engage in conversation about something. One thing that just kills the vibe for me, is trying to make everything sexual.
LisaFrankTattoo: Piggybacking on this. Dudes, we know if you’re talking to us, you’re probably interested. You don’t have to sexual innuendo the f**k out of us.
[deleted]: I can’t speak for every woman, but be yourself. Don’t make everything sexual, actually engage in conversation about something. One thing that just kills the vibe for me, is trying to make everything sexual.
LisaFrankTattoo: Piggybacking on this. Dudes, we know if you’re talking to us, you’re probably interested. You don’t have to sexual innuendo the f**k out of us.
96points
#9
When you are really upset, how would you like your partner to respond or comfort you?
MelanisticCrow: Be empathetic, hold her(if she's comfortable with that), listen, and ask if she wants your advice. If she doesn't, just be a good listener and don't make her feel like she's to blame or that her feelings aren't valid.
[deleted]: “Do you want me to listen or are you looking for advice?” has been a game changer in my relationships.
MelanisticCrow: Be empathetic, hold her(if she's comfortable with that), listen, and ask if she wants your advice. If she doesn't, just be a good listener and don't make her feel like she's to blame or that her feelings aren't valid.
[deleted]: “Do you want me to listen or are you looking for advice?” has been a game changer in my relationships.
93points
#10
Have heard what not to do on a date mostly but what are the top things a guy can do on a date? Without coming off as awkward or weird?
LJGHunter:
Your looks will count for a little more in the beginning because I don't know you very well. But if you come across as decent, charming and confident, looks start to fade into the background.
My husband is never going to win any 'hot guy' awards. He's a bit overweight, going grey, wears glasses and has more hair on his back than on his head. But I immediately fell in love with his personality; he's everything I've ever wanted in a man on the inside, so I honestly don't care what the outside looks like.
LJGHunter:
Your looks will count for a little more in the beginning because I don't know you very well. But if you come across as decent, charming and confident, looks start to fade into the background.
My husband is never going to win any 'hot guy' awards. He's a bit overweight, going grey, wears glasses and has more hair on his back than on his head. But I immediately fell in love with his personality; he's everything I've ever wanted in a man on the inside, so I honestly don't care what the outside looks like.
89points
#11
What is the obsession with m****r? The whole serial k****r book/podcast industry seems largely female oriented. Ironically many females I know who love this stuff also hate fake violence in fictional movies?
Glowingrose: I’m taking notes so I don’t make the mistakes they made that got them caught.
Honestly though, it’s a combination of the psychological aspect (why did they do it, what was going on in their head, what made them the way they are) and the forensic/investigation side of things. I also know some women who watch them in part to learn in some way how not to be the victim of crimes likes those featured.
Glowingrose: I’m taking notes so I don’t make the mistakes they made that got them caught.
Honestly though, it’s a combination of the psychological aspect (why did they do it, what was going on in their head, what made them the way they are) and the forensic/investigation side of things. I also know some women who watch them in part to learn in some way how not to be the victim of crimes likes those featured.
88points
#12
Would you like to build Lego Star Wars sets with me.
[deleted]: Damn you must be rich
[deleted]: Damn you must be rich
82points
#13
How do you do the math and physics for when you pee outside ? Some of my female friends took postures straight out of a yoga book and never made a mess.
Enragedfrog: Squat making sure your feet are not down hill or in any low points. Pee
The_Nice_Marmot: Make sure the back waistband of your pants isn’t in the line of fire. Learned that the hard way.
Enragedfrog: Squat making sure your feet are not down hill or in any low points. Pee
The_Nice_Marmot: Make sure the back waistband of your pants isn’t in the line of fire. Learned that the hard way.
81points
#14
Do you pee every time you poop too?
1jooper: I pee before I poo, then poo, then do a little finishing up post poo pee
1jooper: I pee before I poo, then poo, then do a little finishing up post poo pee
80points
#15
What do period pains feel like?
happyjeep_beep_beep: A Charlie horse cramp but in your lower abdomen.
QueenOfSleeping: Differs from person to person, but they feel like someone is grabbing the inside of your stomach and squeezing it to a pulp inside their fist, while also shoving a knife in and out of your gut. And you can’t forget about the random back pains throughout. Really fun times 😅
happyjeep_beep_beep: A Charlie horse cramp but in your lower abdomen.
QueenOfSleeping: Differs from person to person, but they feel like someone is grabbing the inside of your stomach and squeezing it to a pulp inside their fist, while also shoving a knife in and out of your gut. And you can’t forget about the random back pains throughout. Really fun times 😅
79points
#16
According to popular culture girls want the bad boys and they want to "fix" them.
How true is this and granted that there is any truth to it. What success rate do you have?
suspicious_succubus: Ages 14-18 it's pretty true
Above 18 ( unless mentally stupid or still childish) not true at all.
As young girls we get the feeling ( from books and movies) that any bad boy will change for you cause they love you so much.
When you grow up reality hits you and you know that most people stay the same. So once a bad boy always a shitty a*****e. And we do not need a shitty a*****e as our partner
How true is this and granted that there is any truth to it. What success rate do you have?
suspicious_succubus: Ages 14-18 it's pretty true
Above 18 ( unless mentally stupid or still childish) not true at all.
As young girls we get the feeling ( from books and movies) that any bad boy will change for you cause they love you so much.
When you grow up reality hits you and you know that most people stay the same. So once a bad boy always a shitty a*****e. And we do not need a shitty a*****e as our partner
76points
#17
What’s the deal with peeing together?
thickthighs20: Do you remember in Harry Potter when Hermione went by herself and got attacked by a TROLL.
DI93: Safety in numbers. Also we like to reapply make up or have a little gossip by ourselves, sometimes it just nice to go with someone else and continue whatever conversation you were previously having.
thickthighs20: Do you remember in Harry Potter when Hermione went by herself and got attacked by a TROLL.
DI93: Safety in numbers. Also we like to reapply make up or have a little gossip by ourselves, sometimes it just nice to go with someone else and continue whatever conversation you were previously having.
75points
#18
If bras give support then why does it feel good when you take them off? Would it feel good to never wear a bra?
Extension_Drummer_85: Have you ever worn really tight jeans? They hold everything in place but the firm contact all day gets a bit much. Not wearing a bra if you have larger breasts can be pretty uncomfortable. It hurts your back (bras help a little by holding everything in centre so your gravity isn’t too funky), your breast hurt if you move too much, you get sweat under your b***s where they touch your skin. Not fun for everyone. Also it can be uncomfortable when your nipples rub against your clothes from excess movement.
Extension_Drummer_85: Have you ever worn really tight jeans? They hold everything in place but the firm contact all day gets a bit much. Not wearing a bra if you have larger breasts can be pretty uncomfortable. It hurts your back (bras help a little by holding everything in centre so your gravity isn’t too funky), your breast hurt if you move too much, you get sweat under your b***s where they touch your skin. Not fun for everyone. Also it can be uncomfortable when your nipples rub against your clothes from excess movement.
69points
#19
If a man offered you a fresh ham, instead of flowers, how would you feel? Would you stop dating him?
raptor_of_truth: Would prefer a fresh rotisserie chicken.
raptor_of_truth: Would prefer a fresh rotisserie chicken.
67points
#20
If I were a woman, I think I'd hate having men try to flatter me by referring to my beauty. Would you rather have men talk about your intellect, personality, and accomplishments before your beauty?
hannahrichter: on a surface level interaction, you should compliment things they CHOSE. like, hey cool shirt, sick shoes, awesome tattoo. don't use creepy adjectives like hot, sexy, I had some guy refer to me as nubile. don't do that stuff.
hannahrichter: on a surface level interaction, you should compliment things they CHOSE. like, hey cool shirt, sick shoes, awesome tattoo. don't use creepy adjectives like hot, sexy, I had some guy refer to me as nubile. don't do that stuff.
65points