Whether it’s heart disease misdiagnosed as anxiety, an autoimmune disorder attributed to depression, or ovarian cysts labeled as “normal period pain,” too many women know how it feels to be dismissed by a doctor. The scientific studies back up the fact that it’s not all just in your head. For example, this study from Academic Emergency Medicine discovered that women who went to the ER with severe stomach pain had to wait for a whopping 33% longer than male patients with the same symptoms.
This woman who shared a horrifying experience she had in the ER on the subreddit r/TwoXChromosomes is one of many female patients who have been gaslighted. Coming in with incredibly alarming symptoms, the author u/anon2217 said her male doctor not only completely dismissed her, he was very reluctant to do relevant tests as the woman pushed to be tested. Read her full story below.
Many women in the thread found it a safe place to speak up and share their own stories of being gaslighted by male doctors. It seems like there’s a serious health risk of being a woman in the ER, as if there weren't enough things we were told to suck up and carry on in this paternal society. It’s time to be heard.
This woman has recently shared a harrowing story of how a male ER doctor dismissed her alarming symptoms and was reluctant to test her









#21
A lady gp told me I was exaggerating how bad my periods were. After a year or more of getting know where I made yet another appointment. I could hardly walk and had no energy. Different lady gp, couldn’t see anything wrong with me but took a blood test to check for anaemia. Within an hour of being home the hospital sent a medic to collect me, I needed a massive blood transfusion, by rights I should have been dead.
I was lucky she did the test.
I was lucky she did the test.
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#22
I went to the ER with a migraine and critically high blood pressure. I was given medication for nausea (??) and pushed out the door….
I have a history of brain tumor and stroke. It’s garbage how women are dismissed
I have a history of brain tumor and stroke. It’s garbage how women are dismissed
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#23

Started peeing blood one day. Was asked by more than one person if I was sure I wasn’t on my period. They know we can check for that right? Like it doesn’t take much to prove where the blood is coming from. Luckily for me I just had a uti that was quickly fixed, but seriously folks, we aren’t that dumb.
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#24
Be vigilant because this can happen with female doctors too. I was having severe abdominal pain and NOTHING was helping. I tried yoga, I tried going for walks, I took gas pills, I tried a hot water bottle. Nothing. I could barely eat for days. I ended up calling out from a job interview to see a doctor because it was so bad. The only doctor available wasn’t my primary but was another female doctor. She said I was too young for it to be anything serious and it was just gas, but I kept pushing her that it was not just gas. She said if it would make me feel better, she would order an ultrasound. I said f*cking do it. Anyway, next day it got so bad that I went to the ER and surprise! My gallbladder was f*cked! It was full of stones. When they took it out, they said it was purple and it was a mess. I got a call the next week from my doctors office saying I actually did have gallstones and would need to get my gallbladder removed, and I said, yeah thanks but you’re a little late. That already happened.
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#25

I had a hemorrhoid rupture and bleeding and pain after a bought of IBS flare up. It was alot of blood and wouldnt stop and I was soaking through tissue. Told the nurse what was up and she out me in a room immediately. The doctor comes in "are you sure it's not just your cycle". F*ck man look at my chart I had a partial hysterectomy in 2004 I literally havent had a period in almost 20 years. Not it's not my f*cking period. He did an exam and sure enough a ruptured Fisher on the inside of my rectal area. They sedated me he did something dont really remember and gave me a suppository that costed $200 to fill. And when my IBS acts up it still bleed a little but not like that. I mean it was heavy and scary. Once you have had a hysterectomy any blood from anywhere down there is a concern. And I have had too many complications at this point to ignore it
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#26

Without checking my chart I had a doctor tell me that my nonstop nausea and vomiting was normal and caused by anxiety because it was my first pregnancy, and that were wasn’t anything they could give me unless I was willing to terminate. This was my second pregnancy.
I left and went to another hospital. There I was given IV fluids and offered IV zofran before the doctor came in, because they wanted to try to get me to be more comfortable immediately. When the doctor came in and after he listened to me, I was diagnosed with hyperemesis and not sent home until I’d had two bags of fluids and given an rx of zofran to tide me over until I could speak to my midwife
I left and went to another hospital. There I was given IV fluids and offered IV zofran before the doctor came in, because they wanted to try to get me to be more comfortable immediately. When the doctor came in and after he listened to me, I was diagnosed with hyperemesis and not sent home until I’d had two bags of fluids and given an rx of zofran to tide me over until I could speak to my midwife
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#27

Took three trips to the er before they finally took my pain seriously.
I had a bad gallbladder. FOUR trips for them to actually care enough to find it.
Go to the surgeon. He goes on a long explanation about weight loss surgery. And goes to leave the room.
I said “ok but what about my gallbladder?”
HE HADNT EVEN LOOKED AT MY CHART AND JUST ASSUMED I WAS THERE FOR WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY.
At my after care I brought up the weight loss surgery (as he impressed that it was VITAL that I have it to keep living) and he was dismissive.
So I asked him flat out if my insurance wouldn’t cover it and he confirmed.
I wonder how many people he convinced to get unneeded surgery so he could over charge their insurance.
I had a bad gallbladder. FOUR trips for them to actually care enough to find it.
Go to the surgeon. He goes on a long explanation about weight loss surgery. And goes to leave the room.
I said “ok but what about my gallbladder?”
HE HADNT EVEN LOOKED AT MY CHART AND JUST ASSUMED I WAS THERE FOR WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY.
At my after care I brought up the weight loss surgery (as he impressed that it was VITAL that I have it to keep living) and he was dismissive.
So I asked him flat out if my insurance wouldn’t cover it and he confirmed.
I wonder how many people he convinced to get unneeded surgery so he could over charge their insurance.
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#28

I was peeing what looked like pure blood. ER was pretty sure I was mixing period blood into the sample. I was not having a period. Urologist then told me it was probably bladder cancer. It was not. It was a lupus attack, but still took awhile to get the right doctor to figure it out.
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#29

I had an abscess and had to go in four times before they took an X-ray. My whole neck was so swollen, I was drooling, everything tasted like cigarette ashes, and I wasn't able to swallow. I brought in a printout of symptoms and said, 'This, all of this.' They finally believed me — still, no pain meds, though. I didn't want them but found it odd that I was in so much pain I couldn't swallow, yet they didn't offer anything. Anytime my SO goes in for anything, he walks out with a prescription for pain meds and antibiotics. Talk about double standards. Now, a lot of the times, I walk into a hospital and say, 'This has been going on this long. I think this is what's going on.' I don't even care if they call me a 'Google doctor.' It's how I found out I had gallstones, a hernia, an infected salivary gland, and this abscess.
Two of those four times, I was sent home only to go back less than 24 hours later with more pain. The hernia didn't need an operation, but I was put on bed rest with a band around my stomach.
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#30

Yep, got swipped by a car and knocked down while walking, told trauma dr I broke my arm. He said no, I told him to check again- yep I had broken my wrist, so bad I needed a plate and screws to fix!
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