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Bored Panda got in touch with relationship coach and writer Silvy Khoucasian to discuss long-term relationships and some important things to consider before diving in headfirst. After all, love can be blinding, and sometimes not in good ways.
“A few questions that are really important for someone to ask themselves before entering a relationship are: What is the relationship vision you are seeking to create? Taking some intentional time to get clear about what you envision in a relationship can help you not waste your time when someone is not on the same page.”
“You would be amazed at how many people don’t really think about what they are actually looking for in a relationship before they start dating. It’s also okay to not know what you are looking for yet as you may be in an exploratory stage of dating and still getting to know yourself. You can be honest and upfront about that in a way that honors your current stage,” she added.
“What relationship needs are most significant for you? An example of this might be someone who needs a high level of communication or depth. Everyone has certain needs that are significant to them and it’s important to get to know what those things are,” she shared. Even in a perfect relationship, it’s only possible to avoid conflict if both parties are honest and understand boundaries.
She also suggested some other questions to keep in mind if you want your relationship to work. “What are your core vulnerabilities that you want to express (early on) to see if the person you’re dating can be sensitive to them? How might you also be curious and sensitive towards the vulnerabilities of those you date?”
We also wanted to hear her opinion on sharing relationship stories and experiences and if she believes it’s important. “I do! I think there is a tendency for some people to only share the highlight reel stuff - And I get that because we all want to impress and be liked. People who have more avoidant tendencies tend to be less vulnerable and transparent in general.”
“They tend to present the more socially ‘acceptable’ parts of themselves. People with more anxious tendencies can get stuck sharing the really intense and vulnerable stuff a bit too soon because they try to ensure acceptance and want to feel chosen (and not abandoned). Having a balanced approach is being able to share the positive relationship milestones as well as the challenging ones — the range of life experiences makes people who they are!”
