Someone Asks Lesbian Parents How They Decided Who Would Get Pregnant, 28 Give Honest Answers

L&D Nurse Holly explained to Bored Panda that the bond between a birthing parent and their child "starts to grow immensely" during pregnancy.

"Feeling baby kicks and movements for the first time tends to solidify the growth of a little person for some birthing persons and those movements can’t always be shared with the other parent because those movements are spontaneous," she shared.

"In my experience in Labor and Delivery, most times in a delivery room you see the non-birthing parent have an 'aha!' moment, like a light bulb turning on when the baby starts to deliver. They are able to physically see and touch what they have been anticipating for weeks/months prior.

"I believe it is a significant moment when that bond between the parent grows significantly. It’s always such a beautiful moment to watch. It is filled with many tears, smiles, laughing, and just pure amazement between the two parents."

According to Medical News Today, lesbians have access to the same paths to parenthood as different-sex couples do. The best approach would be to have a talk with your GP or fertility doctor to talk about your options.

Some options include using a sperm donor, whether it’s from someone the couple knows or trusts, or via a sperm bank. The mom-to-be can use the donated sperm to inseminate herself or go to a fertility clinic for the procedure.

One option that makes both partners feel as included as possible (and something that a few redditors drew attention to in the thread) is using the egg of one partner and the uterus of another. Of course, this decision does require the assistance of doctors.

Unfortunately, some couples can have difficulty conceiving. Sometimes, they have to rely on techniques like in vitro fertilization (IVF) to get pregnant. Another option is embryo adoption.

There are also non-pregnancy options available to couples. For example, they can decide to adopt or foster a child.

Despite the fact that we’re living in a far more tolerant time than before, there are still challenges that same-sex couples face. Lesbian couples may find themselves discriminated against. This, in turn, can make parenthood more difficult for them.

There is also the financial cost to consider. Some fertility treatments can cost thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars.