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'Nobody's perfect!' the character of the classic old comedy declared, and you know - it's damn fair. After all, what we may consider to be an undoubted shortcoming in another person, other people may well consider to be a virtue. Even if the other person doesn't like dogs...
Imagine - this does happen, although in my personal opinion, doggos are among the best creatures that ever existed... But let's not get distracted. So, the user u/CheapBeautiful6357, the author of this our story today, really doesn't like dogs, and this is only recently seems to have cost him many years of friendship. Okay, now let's talk about everything in order.
The author of the post, as he himself admits, is not a dog person at all
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Moreover, some of the guy's previous relationships even ended because of this reason
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However, the author's current fiancee shares his beliefs - but their friends have a doggo and are huge dog lovers
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Recently, after seeing that the friends brought their dog to their joint dinner, the author even stormed out of the restaurant - and got called a jerk for doing so
Meet the Original Poster (OP) - a 27 Y.O. guy who, in his own words, can't stand dogs at all. Yes, this is the truth - he's absolutely not a dog person. Moreover, the author admits that in the past, several of his relationships even ended for this particular reason. But now the man has found himself a girlfriend who completely shares his attitude towards dogs.
At the same time, the OP and his fiancee have a couple of friends who, in turn, are devoted dog owners. They got a dog over COVID, and since then they have literally doted on her. However, friendship is friendship, and they, respecting the original poster's beliefs, try to hire a dog-sitter when they go to hang out somewhere together.
This time, however, it turned out differently. The friends agreed to meet in one restaurant, from the pet-friendly category, where there is a patio with tables for dog owners. However, the OP, as always, asked his friends in advance not to take their pet with him. Imagine the surprise, disappointment and indignation of the author and his fiancee when, upon entering the bar, they found their friends at a table on the patio - along with their dog.
According to one of the dog owners, the petsitter was unable to come this time, so they took the dog with them. But the original poster had already seen red and, not wanting to 'share his lunch with an animal,' he first looked for other places in the bar, and when he couldn’t find them, just announced that he and his fiancee were leaving.
And so they left. Of course, the author’s friend was no less indignant, and wrote several angry texts about how rudely he acted. To this, the original poster replied that he did not want to spend time with his dog. However, the OP’s unshakable confidence in his rightness seems to have cracked a bit - otherwise he probably wouldn’t have asked the question “AITA?”
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Before we begin to make any judgments, let's first ask ourselves a completely logical question - do people really have reasonable motives not to like dogs? No, not an allergy, but mainly psychological reasons. And the experts confidently answer us: “Yes!”
For example, according to this material on the Holiday Barn pet resort website, there are four main reasons why people may avoid dogs in everyday life:
• lack of association with dogs,
• the belief that dogs are dirty and should be left outside,
• aversion to dog odor,
• bad past experience.
• the belief that dogs are dirty and should be left outside,
• aversion to dog odor,
• bad past experience.
Moreover, according to this study, conducted back in 2012, some people even have genetic preconditions for hostility towards dogs (or cats). In other words, some of us, even despite our upbringing, seem really predisposed to seek out the company of pets.
As we can see from the title of this study, the age category in which the research was conducted was middle-aged men - and the original poster, at the age of 27, is confidently approaching this category. On the other hand, it’s always easy to explain your not-so-nice actions with external reasons, isn’t it?
As for the commenters on the original post, their opinions were strongly divided. Some argue that the author simply behaved incredibly rudely towards his friends, who are not to blame for the fact that the pet-sitter could not come. Someone thinks that everyone here was wrong - because the friends could at least have warned about the current situation in advance.
And many commenters are also justifying the original poster's actions, arguing that he has every right to have his own beliefs about animals, and his friends are probably poor pet owners. "Who needs a dog sitter to go out to dinner for a couple of hours (considering the dog isn't a new puppy)? Ridiculous," one of the folks in the comments summarizes. So what do you, our dear readers, think about this story?
Meanwhile, the internet was very divided over this question - but it turns out, there are several reasons for people to dislike dogs, other than allergies
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