There are many things for which a person can be called capricious and entitled, and disregard for other people's values will definitely be among such factors. Actually, it's very simple - if you consider other people's preferences unimportant, you seem entitled, no matter how intentionally you did it.
It becomes especially offensive if a person, just to please their own preferences, deliberately harms another people, even knowing that by doing so they cause harm. And society, alas, often unwittingly supports such people, simply by tradition.
For example, such a thing happened to the heroine of this story, whose post scored around 15.0K upvotes and more than 1.7K different comments in the AITA Reddit community. Moreover, what is most offensive to the Original Poster is that her family members sided with an entitled person like this. However, let's not get ahead of the curve...
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The Original Poster decided to arrange her 18th birthday dinner at her favorite Chinese restaurant
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So, the Original Poster was getting ready to celebrate her 18th birthday and, of course, invited all her relatives. The problem was deciding where the party would take place. According to the OP, she's autistic and has issues with textures, so she decided to celebrate at her favorite Chinese restaurant, because any type of Asian food is safe for her.
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The OP's sister-in-law suddenly claimed that she was allergic to seafood so she couldn't attend the party
And so, when everything was almost ready, the OP's brother's fiancée, Vicky, suddenly announced that she could not go. According to the woman, she is allergic to seafood, so she simply would not be able to attend the party. The OP's brother was upset and began to persuade his sister to move the party to another restaurant.
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The OP tried to resist, citing the fact that she would simply be uncomfortable with any other food, but when her parents also joined in the persuasion, she just gave up. After all, as the OP's dad and mom pointed out, it's not Vicky's fault that she's allergic and there's nothing she can do about it.
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The dinner was finally held in an Italian restaurant and the OP felt completely disappointed about it
As a result, the party was held in an Italian restaurant. Everyone, including Vicky, was really happy. Well, everyone but the birthday girl herself. The OP admits that she hates the texture of cheese, pasta and other elements of Italian cuisine, so she felt completely miserable, secretly eating the snacks she brought with her.
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Later the OP suddenly found out that her SIL wasn't allergic to sea food and she just didn't like the way shrimps smell
After some time, the OP spontaneously came to her brother's house to pick up her hoodie, which she left there during her last visit. Upon entering the house, she was incredibly surprised to see Vicky eating fish with appetite. The OP reminded the woman that she claimed to be allergic to any kind of seafood, but she replied that she was not allergic to anything - she just didn't like the way shrimps smell, and she didn't have a medical allergy. That's all.
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The OP was literally devastated as because of Vicky, she actually ruined her birthday, but it turned out that the woman simply followed her own whim. A quarrel ensued, after which the OP simply blocked both her brother and his fiancée, although Vicky seemed to sincerely not get what she was to blame for at all.
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The OP got into an argument with her SIL but her relatives called her behavior entitled
According to the OP, her parents and other relatives said that she was too rude towards Vicky, that she shouldn't be upset about such a trifle at all, and that it’s better to apologize to her SIL and reconcile with her. The girl was even more upset and decided to ask the netizens if she really behaved like an entitled brat in this situation - which, by the way, her own parents told her.
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Most commenters, however, supported the OP massively, stating that the SIL should apologize sincerely
People in the comments, however, unlike the OP's relatives, fully supported her. According to most commenters, Vicky and other members of the girl's family behaved very rudely, because her birthday was actually ruined due to the whim of her SIL. According to people, it's Vicky who should sincerely apologize to the OP for ruining her celebration - and along with her, the parents and brother.
Many people point out that it was the OP's birthday anyway and it should have been about her celebration. In fact, as the commenters say, Vicky just deliberately lied in order to attend a restaurant she likes, and the OP's brother went along. In any case, according to the commenters, the OP's family should be way more supportive.
However, relatives, unfortunately, often do not act as they should, but as they want. The best proof of this is our post about a relative who demanded that their niece reschedule her own wedding ceremony just because the chosen day did not suit them. Or maybe this story about a sister who tried to make her brothers babysit her three kids. Be that as it may, we are very interested in your opinion about this story, so feel free to write it in the comments.
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