Marriage can be a beautiful thing. When it’s founded on love, mutual respect, and understanding, a couple can stay together for decades. But no matter how excited a bride and groom were when they tied the knot, if they decide that it’s time to separate, that’s when the claws really come out.
Attorneys on Reddit have been recalling the most toxic things they’ve ever seen spouses do during a divorce, so we’ve compiled a list of their worst stories below. If you’re single, these tales might remind you to be very particular about who you choose to marry. And if you are happily married, we hope this list reminds you to count your blessings!
#1
Is this making you sad? Me too. Happy story time!
My parents divorced when I was around toddler age. My dad hit my mom during a fight and she separated from him. During that time when they were supposed to be working stuff out Dad decides to start dating some lady so my mom goes for the divorce.
So, where's the happy? There were no lawyers involved, my mom didn't ask for a dime of mandatory alimony/palimony, and she had full custody. My dad was a hardworking man and still made time for us kids, coached us, took us out and on small trips. While not wealthy or even always comfortable he provided for us. My parents never bad-mouthed each other, told us they loved each other and us kids. We were very much a family, just one where the parents didn't live together.
They've been friends, spouses and parents for the majority of their lives, when they're hanging out it's like close friends. Sometimes I wish/wonder what life would have been like if they'd stayed together. But I'm glad I grew up with role models who showed me that not every divorce is bad, and you don't have to turn into a vindictive s**t-bag just because it didn't work out.
Thanks mom and dad!
My parents divorced when I was around toddler age. My dad hit my mom during a fight and she separated from him. During that time when they were supposed to be working stuff out Dad decides to start dating some lady so my mom goes for the divorce.
So, where's the happy? There were no lawyers involved, my mom didn't ask for a dime of mandatory alimony/palimony, and she had full custody. My dad was a hardworking man and still made time for us kids, coached us, took us out and on small trips. While not wealthy or even always comfortable he provided for us. My parents never bad-mouthed each other, told us they loved each other and us kids. We were very much a family, just one where the parents didn't live together.
They've been friends, spouses and parents for the majority of their lives, when they're hanging out it's like close friends. Sometimes I wish/wonder what life would have been like if they'd stayed together. But I'm glad I grew up with role models who showed me that not every divorce is bad, and you don't have to turn into a vindictive s**t-bag just because it didn't work out.
Thanks mom and dad!
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#2
Dad was a real a*****e and mom tried to save him a lot of money during the divorce. They have 3 kids who were 16, 13, and 8. Dad wouldn't sign ANY agreement my moms lawyer produced. It had to be his idea and from his lawyer or it wasn't getting signed. Dads lawyer was incompetent and sends an agreement that states he will pay $2,000 a month in child support until all kids are 18. Mom tried to explain to dad that it needed to be revised to lower every time a child turned 18. Dad called mom a c**t during that negotiation so mom said f**k it and signed the agreement and dad paid the $2,000/month for 10 years when he should've been paying around $1,400/month for 5 years and $700/month for the last 5 years.
TLDR: Dad f****d himself out of thousands each year by calling my mom a c**t.
TLDR: Dad f****d himself out of thousands each year by calling my mom a c**t.
10points
#3
Not a lawyer, but when I was a kid my parents got divorced. My mom met a guy on the internet and left my dad for him. My sisters and I were all teenagers and being that my mom had never really been around decided that we all wanted to live with him. We all had to write a letter stating our wishes and it was understood that we would stay with him - my mom didn't even seem to care.
Additionally, my dad had this retirement account from his old job - he wasn't rich at all and had worked his a*s off for everything he'd ever had. When he got hurt on the job he could have sued, but was promised that in exchange for him not suing, they'd keep him around. Instead they canned him and he left with about $100k (I think) in a 401-k type account that he'd been saving for nearly 30 years.
Lastly, my dad had his house. It was a 3 bedroom, 1 bath brick house that was all of about 800 SF. It wasn't much at all, but my dad loved the place. My mom couldn't stand that house and wanted to move for as long as I could remember - that was another contentious subject that led to the divorce. He'd been paying on it forever and when he left his old job, he took out a small chunk and paid it off.
Anyway, their separation is progressing and it's understood we're living with him. She was so in love with this internet guy that she didn't care. He was in school halfway around the country and she was going to move there to be with him; we knew we'd get by just fine. They seemed amicable and it was understood how this would all play out.
The day in court finally comes and instead of what we all assumed, even my dad's lawyer - she goes to the court with all these crazy claims. He was an a*****e alcoholic, he beat us and my mom nightly, he was crazy and no one would be safe in his care. My mom got full custody, she got 50% of his house and 50% of his retirement account. My dad was stunned - that judgement would basically bankrupt him - in order for him to keep the house, he'd essentially have to clean out his retirement account and give her everything.
The night of their divorce I went over to see him. He was almost catatonic - he just stared off in space the entire time and would mumble whenever I asked him a question. I've never seen anyone like that ever. My birthday was 2 days away and I asked if he wanted to do something for my birthday and he just answered with "your mom has full custody. I will if she allows me to see you." I asked if I could drive his old truck to school, since I didn't yet have a car and he just said no, that I needed to call my mom and have her pick me up. So that's what I did.
And the next day in school, the day before my birthday, I'm sitting in our lunchroom when I hear "hey, isn't that your grandpa?" From a buddy of mine. I look over and see my grandpa and a cop making their way across the lunchroom toward me. They told me to grab my stuff and in the office I found my sister there as well. We rode home with them, where we were also met by my little sister and that's where they told us that our dad had k****d himself, shortly after I left the previous night.
To make matters worse, it all happened so quickly that nothing had been finalized. My mom dropped all her paperwork and legally became a widow and got everything - house, retirement and his insurance policy. She also got social security benefits for us, a fact we didn't find out until much later. She basically took all the money and moved across the country with her new man, leaving us to care for ourselves for the most part.
And to this day, when asked about raising us, she'll spin this story of a young widow, doing her best to raise three kids on her own..
Additionally, my dad had this retirement account from his old job - he wasn't rich at all and had worked his a*s off for everything he'd ever had. When he got hurt on the job he could have sued, but was promised that in exchange for him not suing, they'd keep him around. Instead they canned him and he left with about $100k (I think) in a 401-k type account that he'd been saving for nearly 30 years.
Lastly, my dad had his house. It was a 3 bedroom, 1 bath brick house that was all of about 800 SF. It wasn't much at all, but my dad loved the place. My mom couldn't stand that house and wanted to move for as long as I could remember - that was another contentious subject that led to the divorce. He'd been paying on it forever and when he left his old job, he took out a small chunk and paid it off.
Anyway, their separation is progressing and it's understood we're living with him. She was so in love with this internet guy that she didn't care. He was in school halfway around the country and she was going to move there to be with him; we knew we'd get by just fine. They seemed amicable and it was understood how this would all play out.
The day in court finally comes and instead of what we all assumed, even my dad's lawyer - she goes to the court with all these crazy claims. He was an a*****e alcoholic, he beat us and my mom nightly, he was crazy and no one would be safe in his care. My mom got full custody, she got 50% of his house and 50% of his retirement account. My dad was stunned - that judgement would basically bankrupt him - in order for him to keep the house, he'd essentially have to clean out his retirement account and give her everything.
The night of their divorce I went over to see him. He was almost catatonic - he just stared off in space the entire time and would mumble whenever I asked him a question. I've never seen anyone like that ever. My birthday was 2 days away and I asked if he wanted to do something for my birthday and he just answered with "your mom has full custody. I will if she allows me to see you." I asked if I could drive his old truck to school, since I didn't yet have a car and he just said no, that I needed to call my mom and have her pick me up. So that's what I did.
And the next day in school, the day before my birthday, I'm sitting in our lunchroom when I hear "hey, isn't that your grandpa?" From a buddy of mine. I look over and see my grandpa and a cop making their way across the lunchroom toward me. They told me to grab my stuff and in the office I found my sister there as well. We rode home with them, where we were also met by my little sister and that's where they told us that our dad had k****d himself, shortly after I left the previous night.
To make matters worse, it all happened so quickly that nothing had been finalized. My mom dropped all her paperwork and legally became a widow and got everything - house, retirement and his insurance policy. She also got social security benefits for us, a fact we didn't find out until much later. She basically took all the money and moved across the country with her new man, leaving us to care for ourselves for the most part.
And to this day, when asked about raising us, she'll spin this story of a young widow, doing her best to raise three kids on her own..
10points
#4
A woman in my town is a Principal at a local elementary school. She is in her mid 70s (at least). I asked someone why she doesn't retire and they explained that she and her spouse went through a very contentious divorce about 15 years ago and she has to give him a portion of her retirement so she has decided to NEVER retire so he gets nothing ever! Hahahahaha.
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#5
My uncle represented this guy getting a divorce from his wife of 15 years. Super toxic breakup and they split everything 50/50, even the land that the house they lived in sat upon. Well she decides to build a house right behind the other house, mind you this was a lot of land probably 200 yards separating both home sites, so that the back of the houses faced each other. The house gets built and my uncle gets a call from his client asking about the legality of a situation he had gotten himself into. Apparently his ex wife would spend a lot of time in her backyard, so he saw her all the time. What he did was buy a female dog and name it the same name as his ex-wife. Anytime he would let his dog back in from letting her out he would yell "Susan you b***h! Get in here!" He would also yell if she was peeing on the flowers,"Susan you b***h! Quit pissing on the flowers!" or "Susan you b***h! Quit digging in the dirt!" The ex-wife called the cops on him a couple of times, but there was nothing they could do because the dog was registered under the name of Susan, and it was in fact a b***h so there you go.
Edit: Thanks for the gold!
Edit: Thanks for the gold!
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9points
#6
She took the cats. He wanted the cats. Looked like courts would give him the cats. She had the cats put down.
8points
#7
Bad seperation, wife filed a restraining order on the husband (very common, wasn't a terrible guy but not great either). A year into the divorce his mother was dying, he asked his sister to speak with his ex-wife and ask to bring the kids to see her in the hospital before she died. The wife never did, instead she went to the court and said he violated the restraining order by trying to contact her (you can't contact someone through another party).
He admitted it and explained the situation, but was found in breach of the order. His mother died while he was locked up and the wife never brought the kids to see her.
He admitted it and explained the situation, but was found in breach of the order. His mother died while he was locked up and the wife never brought the kids to see her.
8points
#8
I did some consulting work for two divorce attorneys when I was in grad school.
Their client was a career airline pilot. His wife worked part time so there was a huge income disparity. It was an ugly divorce.
During the process but before the final decree, tax time rolled around. The wife's attorney calls my guys and says, "Her accountant just called. If they can just share their W-2's and file jointly, they each stand to save about $8000 over married filing separately."
My guys took that info to the husband. He says, "F**k her. Losing $8000 is going to be way worse for her than it will be for me." Cold as ice, man.
Their client was a career airline pilot. His wife worked part time so there was a huge income disparity. It was an ugly divorce.
During the process but before the final decree, tax time rolled around. The wife's attorney calls my guys and says, "Her accountant just called. If they can just share their W-2's and file jointly, they each stand to save about $8000 over married filing separately."
My guys took that info to the husband. He says, "F**k her. Losing $8000 is going to be way worse for her than it will be for me." Cold as ice, man.
8points
#9
Not a lawyer, but I met with a scummy one when I was looking to get a divorce. The first lawyer I met with, who had been recommended by a coworker as an amazing divorce attorney, suggested that, if I wanted full custody, I should make sure people knew the relationship was a*****e. Tell my friends/family, make sure the neighbors heard me screaming/begging him not to hit me, document every bruise even if I wasn't sure it came from him. Thing is, my relationship wasn't a*****e and I'd already told her that multiple times. She never outright said I should fabricate evidence or anything, but she ignored my repeated statements that there was no a***e and kept on with her detailed instructions of how to document any a***e that might happen. I got the distinct impression that she was letting me know how to create an a*****e relationship out of thin-air in order to get custody of my kids.
I ended up not using her as an attorney, for obvious reasons, and in the end my ex and I shared 50/50 physical and legal custody of our children and raised them together despite whatever issues we had with each other. I can't help but wonder, though, how many dads lost a relationship with their kids because of her zealous coaching.
I ended up not using her as an attorney, for obvious reasons, and in the end my ex and I shared 50/50 physical and legal custody of our children and raised them together despite whatever issues we had with each other. I can't help but wonder, though, how many dads lost a relationship with their kids because of her zealous coaching.
8points
#10
*Not a lawyer*. Wife cheats on her husband during his frequent travels for work. She files for divorce and gets to keep the house. Months elapse and the husband is still rightfully pissed but has no recourse. Then he has an epiphany: "I wonder if she changed the password to the Nest Thermostat?" She did not.
For the next year he continues to mess with the thermostat. In the middle of summer when they're sleeping in HIS bed, he turns the heat on to 90 degrees at 3 a.m. Middle of winter? Time to shut off the heat and hope the pipes freeze. Away on vacation? Turn the air conditioning down to 55 and let it run 24/7 for a nice surprise bill when they get home.
For the next year he continues to mess with the thermostat. In the middle of summer when they're sleeping in HIS bed, he turns the heat on to 90 degrees at 3 a.m. Middle of winter? Time to shut off the heat and hope the pipes freeze. Away on vacation? Turn the air conditioning down to 55 and let it run 24/7 for a nice surprise bill when they get home.
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#11
I'm not a divorce lawyer, but my father built the house I grew up in with minimal help. He spent two years working on it and did the hardwood floors, staircase, bathrooms, and hung every cabinet by himself. Every piece of trim in the house was run through a lathe with his own two hands. He even did the spackling for all the ceilings and all of the paint work.
Then my mom cheated on him for a year and bought him out of the house. Now my mom and step-dad have a pretty sweet place to live, and I can tell it hurts my dad whenever he has to go by to pick up my sister and stand in the entryway of the house that he built and watch their fat dog scratch up the hardwood that he was so proud of.
Then my mom cheated on him for a year and bought him out of the house. Now my mom and step-dad have a pretty sweet place to live, and I can tell it hurts my dad whenever he has to go by to pick up my sister and stand in the entryway of the house that he built and watch their fat dog scratch up the hardwood that he was so proud of.
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#12
Story from my parents who are lawyers. So throughout the divorce proceedings, there was a car that was a huge point of contention between the husband and wife. After months and months of saying he would never let the wife have the car, the husband concedes in exchange for something great, like one of their summer houses. It turns out he had been driving the car for 3 hours everyday in a big loop around the city, putting thousands and thousands of miles on it basically making it worthless. The amount of planning and spite that went into that was amazing.
7points
#13
My dad actually got f****d by his divorce lawyer during my parents' divorce last year.
My dad and my sister have never gotten along, and over the years it got more and more strained. They eventually got into a physical fight which led to a CPS report and him getting slapped with a child a***e record (they labeled it as 'confirmed but isolated', so he's not on the registry and you can only see it with certain background checks).
In this case, my mom was OBVIOUSLY going to get full custody of my sister. My mom also wanted to give my dad the house, and his cars, and his money pit of a boat.
Lawyer decided, because my dad is stubborn as f**k, that he would string ol' dad along. Lawyer spent HOURS with my dad trying to convince him that Dad could get more money and custody from my mom.
They did a divorce mediation (so they wouldn't have to go to court), and lawyer dragged it out for 4 hours. The whole time he was riling my dad up, thinking he could get things like the original down payment on the house, half custody of my sister, my mom's car, etc. At the end of the 4 hours of mediation, Lawyer told my dad he should take the deal that my mom and her lawyer had originally offered in the first place, and Dad signed that.
So he paid about $12,000 in completely unnecessary legal fees.
My dad and my sister have never gotten along, and over the years it got more and more strained. They eventually got into a physical fight which led to a CPS report and him getting slapped with a child a***e record (they labeled it as 'confirmed but isolated', so he's not on the registry and you can only see it with certain background checks).
In this case, my mom was OBVIOUSLY going to get full custody of my sister. My mom also wanted to give my dad the house, and his cars, and his money pit of a boat.
Lawyer decided, because my dad is stubborn as f**k, that he would string ol' dad along. Lawyer spent HOURS with my dad trying to convince him that Dad could get more money and custody from my mom.
They did a divorce mediation (so they wouldn't have to go to court), and lawyer dragged it out for 4 hours. The whole time he was riling my dad up, thinking he could get things like the original down payment on the house, half custody of my sister, my mom's car, etc. At the end of the 4 hours of mediation, Lawyer told my dad he should take the deal that my mom and her lawyer had originally offered in the first place, and Dad signed that.
So he paid about $12,000 in completely unnecessary legal fees.
7points
#14
I'm am accountant not a divorce lawyer. Had a client hide Ziploc bags of ground meat throughout the house (in air vents, the attic, behind water heater etc.) I think it was at least 20-30 bags that took months to find all of them.
7points
#15
My in-laws are mega into food and wine, as in they literally travel the world on food and wine tours, are part of clubs, etc. They told me about a nasty divorce where the husband was the wine aficionado, not the wife, but the wife was pissed off about getting divorced. The husband got all the wines in their extensive cellar, but before he was able to correct them, the wife soaked every bottle to remove ALL of the labels. So technically the wine was not damaged, but the husband had no way to know what he was drinking for aging and pairing purposes (which is a huge deal to wine drinkers).
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#16
Not a lawyer but my two bosses were married and opened a bike shop together. He was the brains and the backbone since he was a former Olympic mechanic, she just sort of balanced the checkbook and worked a couple days a week. Unfortunately, he had no credit and she did, so when they opened everything was in her name.
All he wanted in the divorce was the bike shop and was willing to buy her half. She wanted the bike shop too, but didn't want to buy him out for his half. Mind you, her father passed away and she was sitting on like $300k in the bank (and also had the audacity to take out student loans for her daughter to go to college).
He lost the bike shop and I think he got a little bit of money for his share. What she didn't expect was that all of the high-paying customers would stop going there. They were all his friends or they only wanted him to work on their bikes (so I don't know why she would have had that notion). So he opened up his own bike shop and all of the "regulars" have become regulars at the new bike shop.
EDIT: I've been seeing a lot of comments asking how he gained the credit to open a new shop. Ever since he moved out of the house he shared with his ex wife, he started putting money away and got a credit card. So over the course of a year+ some months he built credit and was able to open a shop on his own. People have tried to "buy-in" to the business as an investment but he doesn't want anyone else involved since that screwed him over the first time.
EDIT 2: I appreciate everyone's upvotes. If anyone is ever having any bike-related issues, head on over to r/bikewrench. I spend a lot of time there diagnosing and offering fixes for people's bikes. I don't work in a bike shop anymore, I just work on my friends' bikes for fun, and dabble in some frame building for myself. But remember to support your local bike shop. Don't buy bikes from department stores because they're typically dangerous as they aren't built by actual bike mechanics.
All he wanted in the divorce was the bike shop and was willing to buy her half. She wanted the bike shop too, but didn't want to buy him out for his half. Mind you, her father passed away and she was sitting on like $300k in the bank (and also had the audacity to take out student loans for her daughter to go to college).
He lost the bike shop and I think he got a little bit of money for his share. What she didn't expect was that all of the high-paying customers would stop going there. They were all his friends or they only wanted him to work on their bikes (so I don't know why she would have had that notion). So he opened up his own bike shop and all of the "regulars" have become regulars at the new bike shop.
EDIT: I've been seeing a lot of comments asking how he gained the credit to open a new shop. Ever since he moved out of the house he shared with his ex wife, he started putting money away and got a credit card. So over the course of a year+ some months he built credit and was able to open a shop on his own. People have tried to "buy-in" to the business as an investment but he doesn't want anyone else involved since that screwed him over the first time.
EDIT 2: I appreciate everyone's upvotes. If anyone is ever having any bike-related issues, head on over to r/bikewrench. I spend a lot of time there diagnosing and offering fixes for people's bikes. I don't work in a bike shop anymore, I just work on my friends' bikes for fun, and dabble in some frame building for myself. But remember to support your local bike shop. Don't buy bikes from department stores because they're typically dangerous as they aren't built by actual bike mechanics.
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#17
Banker here; had heaps of situations where joint overdraft/credit card comes up just before divorce to the absolute surprise of one of the parties. Drained down to zero, of course. Especially sad when it's students/ young kids who find themselves heartbroken after the break up AND with a debt they can't afford.
5points
#18
Worked at a law firm that was subpoenaed as part of a divorce between a partner at the firm and a partner at another major law firm.
The woman issued more than 70 subpoenas to banks, firms, investment companies -- you name it -- because she **was convinced he had squirreled away $20+ million overseas** behind her back. It got so bad that she dug up receipts from 25 years ago to try to put together this grand conspiracy puzzle.
In the end, after she racked up **$1.5 million in legal fees, and 7 different lawyers**, the judge said this s**t is ridiculous -- there was no conspiracy, and you are not entitled to a portion of this phantom $20 million.
Mind you: this was a major law firm partner who was acting this way. She made millions per year in her career. But she apparently lost her mind.
The woman issued more than 70 subpoenas to banks, firms, investment companies -- you name it -- because she **was convinced he had squirreled away $20+ million overseas** behind her back. It got so bad that she dug up receipts from 25 years ago to try to put together this grand conspiracy puzzle.
In the end, after she racked up **$1.5 million in legal fees, and 7 different lawyers**, the judge said this s**t is ridiculous -- there was no conspiracy, and you are not entitled to a portion of this phantom $20 million.
Mind you: this was a major law firm partner who was acting this way. She made millions per year in her career. But she apparently lost her mind.
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#19
Obligatory-not-a-lawyer but my parents are currently going through a divorce. Luckily kids are all in late 20s/30s so no custody battle, but basically my mum is a nutter and is desperately trying to s***w my dad over as much as humanly possible. She told her lawyer that he has SO MANY hidden assets, when in fact he has none. She lied and told the mediator that he has a record collection worth hundreds of thousands, when in fact it's probably worth like £8. She said his guitar collection was worth tens of thousands, whereas second hand value, like maybe £2k. She wants all of his businesses assets. All of them. She wants both houses. Her lawyer repeatedly reminds her that at most she'd get half of everything, but she clearly doesn't listen. Then she demanded back all of our (the kids) Christmas and birthday presents from our childhood, like the violin they bought me when I was 13. It's hers. Obviously. /s. Her lawyer laughed at her and reminded her that's not how divorce works.
They're still in the very early mediation process, so it'll be interesting to see how s**t goes once they actually get started properly. Interestingly, despite her hollering that it's all my dad's fault, she was the one that walked out, and subsequently shacked up with my Dad's brother, WHO'S WIFE HAD DIED 3 WEEKS EARLIER. Yeah, and that's why I'm completely no contact with my d******d of a "mother".
They're still in the very early mediation process, so it'll be interesting to see how s**t goes once they actually get started properly. Interestingly, despite her hollering that it's all my dad's fault, she was the one that walked out, and subsequently shacked up with my Dad's brother, WHO'S WIFE HAD DIED 3 WEEKS EARLIER. Yeah, and that's why I'm completely no contact with my d******d of a "mother".
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#20
Not a lawyer.
Ex-Brother in law got a girlfriend pregnant. Had a falling out half way into her pregnancy. So as a result, she moved across the country, fought him from the state she lived in giving him no chance to mount any decent custody arguments without spending thousands in fees to travel. As a result she ends up with full custody and getting the maximum amount for child support. He has paid said support monthly via direct deposit from day one and has never missed a single payment.
For the first 5 years of his daughters life, his baby's momma would file yearly with the state she lived in that he hadn't paid (up to a maximum claim of 3 months no payment) and was in hardship because of. The state she was in would cut her a check, bill it to our state, who'd garnish his wages under threat of jailing him. Each time she did that it took him 6 months to rectify and get his garnished wages reimbursed. But there was no provision for our state to get money back from hers, so she never so much as got a slap on the wrist for doing this.
Finally record keeping in her state caught up to the point that his bank could easily verify to said state that she had indeed been paid which finally put a stop to her "hardship claims".
Edited to add context: IDK why she was able to get away with it, afaik, our state never considered themselves being defrauded because she never filed anything here. The child is now 12 so all this was prior to 2010. AFAIK they will go back for a custodial hearing in the next year for her to have a "choice" in who she lives with. I divorced amicably from his sister 5 years ago, no kids, no BS, just people change and we grew apart.
Ex-Brother in law got a girlfriend pregnant. Had a falling out half way into her pregnancy. So as a result, she moved across the country, fought him from the state she lived in giving him no chance to mount any decent custody arguments without spending thousands in fees to travel. As a result she ends up with full custody and getting the maximum amount for child support. He has paid said support monthly via direct deposit from day one and has never missed a single payment.
For the first 5 years of his daughters life, his baby's momma would file yearly with the state she lived in that he hadn't paid (up to a maximum claim of 3 months no payment) and was in hardship because of. The state she was in would cut her a check, bill it to our state, who'd garnish his wages under threat of jailing him. Each time she did that it took him 6 months to rectify and get his garnished wages reimbursed. But there was no provision for our state to get money back from hers, so she never so much as got a slap on the wrist for doing this.
Finally record keeping in her state caught up to the point that his bank could easily verify to said state that she had indeed been paid which finally put a stop to her "hardship claims".
Edited to add context: IDK why she was able to get away with it, afaik, our state never considered themselves being defrauded because she never filed anything here. The child is now 12 so all this was prior to 2010. AFAIK they will go back for a custodial hearing in the next year for her to have a "choice" in who she lives with. I divorced amicably from his sister 5 years ago, no kids, no BS, just people change and we grew apart.
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