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44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Occasions,LifestyleSEP 26, 2025

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless

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Everyone has their own vision of a perfect wedding, but certain traditions have become mainstream despite only a few people actually enjoying them.
Be it the couple and their over-the-top expectations for the bridal party or the shameless distant uncle who arrives just to get hammered, there are so many things we are told to accept because that's just the way it is. Well, even if we decide to comply, that doesn't mean we can't complain about them online.
Mette Blackburn, a wedding photographer from Utah, United States, asked the internet to share their most unfiltered hot takes about weddings, and the responses made it clear: sometimes, the ceremonies and the receptions are more fun to critique than to attend.
Image credits: metteblackburnphoto

#1

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
If you burden your bridesmaids with ridiculous financial expectations youre a bad friend.
75points

#2

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Stop focusing on the wedding and start focusing on the marriage.
70points

While many of the pet peeves mentioned in the Instagram thread are things guests can tolerate, some make them decline an invitation altogether.

A survey of 2,000 Brits found that 28% do so because of the cost, while 24% cite long commutes.

Other major deterrents include their partner not getting invited, disliking other attendees, overnight stays, and having to book time off work.

#3

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Childfree weddings are perfectly fine. Stop crying about it. It’s not your day, nor is anything about you..get over it
68points

#4

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Proposing to your partner at someone else’s wedding is lazy asf and a red flag in my book.
68points

#5

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
A destination wedding is a burden on the guests. Don't be Suprised if not many show up because of finances
62points

However, it's important to remember that sometimes the guests also cross the line. Robin 'Birdie' Yarusso, 43, from Minneapolis, United States, has planned over 100 weddings, and she says that bombarding the bride with your inquiries on her big day is one of the worst possible things you can do.

"She's busy. There are so many ways to figure it out without stressing her out," Birdie explains.

In addition, she slammed people who turn up late to the nuptials, highlighting that it often interrupts the event and distracts other guests.

#6

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
A wedding is not a family reunion. You don’t have to invite the cousin you don’t like simply because your mom wants to avoid a fight with her sister.
52points

#7

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Throwing cake in the bride’s face. She spent $80 on that makeup and $200 on her hair and you’ve just ruined all of it.

snowball_aka_floofy replied:
$80 and $200!? I got married in 2017 and I spent $550 and $600 🫣 I can’t imagine prices these days


amiyahsonlyfans replied:
why humiliate your new wife like that in front of your friends & family? it’s not funny if you’re the only one laughing
51points

#8

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
You don't have to take his last name, btw. It's not a requirement. He can always take yours if he wanted to.
49points

In the end, Birdie believes everyone's focus shouldn't be about Instagram content or participating in popular trends, but rather, creating an amazing memory.

"Make it meaningful. Having a beautiful wedding isn't just about gorgeous flowers and stunning decor. It's about the emotional connection for everyone," she says.

"Leave people feeling moved during the ceremony, emotional during the speeches, and energized during the party."

#9

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Announcing anything at a wedding is unacceptable, pregnancy, engagement whatever, JAIL TIME
49points

#10

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Starting a marriage off in debt from a wedding is high key wack and a recipe for disaster
48points

#11

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Asking guests to pay so they get to attend is tacky. If you can’t afford a wedding either elope or just shorten your list.
46points

#12

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
THE WEDDING IS ABOUT THE COUPLE, NOT THE COUPLES' PARENTS/FAMILY. if a family member doesn't like how you do your wedding, they don't have to come.
45points

#13

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
People who get mad at dry weddings are boring. If you're canceling going to the biggest day of your loved one's life just because there's no booze, then you shouldn't have been invited anyway. Be happy for the couple and have fun without needing to get wasted!
45points

#14

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
The guest list is the couple’s guest list, not the family’s

sophiacarrieri replied:
when my cousin got married a few months ago this was a huge issue because our grandma wanted to invite all of HER friends and a church group
42points

#15

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
If you wouldn’t invite them over for dinner… they shouldn’t be invited to the wedding
39points

#16

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Expensive honeymoon over expensive wedding ANY day
38points

#17

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Weddings don’t need to be a massive event with 100+ people. It’s supposed to be intimate, invite close family/friends only and spend the money on your honeymoon
36points

#18

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Unpopular opinion: it’s weird to want to be the center of attention and have everyone fawn over you all night… also hate when couples do a cheesy memorized dance routine like the Backstreet Boys in front of everyone. Maybe I’m autistic but it’s so awkward. I hate everything about weddings and that’s why I am not having one. Trip to the courthouse and then long amazing honeymoon. Thank God my fiancé is an introvert too and would also hate a wedding.
34points

#19

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
Getting sloppy drunk/ groom or bride being too drunk to remember the night is so odd to me. You can have a party and rage anytime- I replay my wedding over and over in my head all the time and it makes me so happy- what would’ve been the point in not honoring what an important day that was by treating it like a random night out
30points

#20

44 People Spilled Their True Feelings About Weddings, And They're Ruthless
You cannot have a Kardashian level lavish wedding when you make 60K a year- stop trying to make your friends and guests pay for an event you can’t afford.
28points
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