Most of us have probably seen these types of memes. They all operate on the assumption that introverts hate socializing, they're afraid of meeting new people, and would rather spend their evening with their dog than go out and make new friends. But, in reality, introverts aren't quite so simple.
Some people even think of introverts as always sad, unfulfilled, and maybe even unhappy. Such stereotypes are not only untrue but paint introverts in quite a bad light, don't you think? So, let's defend the honor of introverts and dispel some of the most prominent myths about them!
One of the main characteristics people attribute to introverts is shyness. Extroverts are seemingly good with people, while introverts don't like to interact with others as much. Earlier theories, like the one from Carl Jung, supposed that it's about the location of focus. Extroverts were more outwardly inclined. Introverts, in turn, were the opposite.
Colin DeYoung, Psychology Ph.D., explains that that perspective is changing. Nowadays, psychologists think about the spectrum of introversion and extroversion more in terms of energetic style. It's all about what kinds of interactions extroverts and introverts find the most rewarding and therefore worth their time.
For an extrovert, a room full of people is full of rewarding possibilities. To them, social interactions are stimulating and rewarding. Some researchers say that extroverts get a "high" from pursuing and reaching their goals in general, whether that's at work, in relationships, or influence.
Introverts don't always expect positive emotions from social interactions. They find socializing way more tiring because as they anticipate that the energy required for socialization won't match the satisfaction of the interaction they might get in return.
But it's a myth that introverts are all sad loners. Janaya Sadler, LCSW, says that introverts actually enjoy spending time with friends and loved ones, and can even love socializing. It's just that it might leave them exhausted and spent, hence the need to decompress and recharge.
In a way, our society favors extroverts. Those who talk more and louder often get the attention, can be more successful in their careers, and have a more fulfilling social life. However, that doesn't mean that introverts have failed at something.
