Everyone shares a common longing - the need for love. When you're in a relationship with an introvert and happen to be an extrovert, you might find it challenging to grasp your partner's needs, especially in the beginning. Introvert dating can seem a bit puzzling to those who are not naturally introverted. After all, introverts and extroverts are very different.
On Instagram accounts like 'introvert fc' and 'introverted struggle,' the focus is on a common theme: the struggles introverts go through. Whether it's about dating or just daily life, only fellow introverts truly understand the mix of pain and humor in the posts from these accounts.
To truly grasp what dating an introvert is like, it's essential to have a clear understanding of what introversion means and what it doesn't. According to Steven Gans, a psychiatrist, supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital, "Introversion is a personality trait where the person focuses more on internal feelings rather than on external sources of stimulation. It's also important to note that introversion is not the same thing as being antisocial, having social anxiety, or being shy."
Introverts typically have a small group of close friends, enjoy being alone, and can feel tired after big parties. They're good at understanding themselves, like watching people, and often choose jobs where they can be independent. Introverts like being alone because they don't need as much social activity.
Of course, most people are a mix of introverts and extroverts - ambiverts. But if you're closer to being an introvert, dating can be tiring. Just starting conversations, meeting new people, and deciding to go on a date takes a lot. And after the actual date, you might feel worn out.
If dating feels overwhelming and exhausting, here are some expert tips to help make it easier for you. If going on a date leaves you feeling stressed and worn out, consider postponing it. It's perfectly okay to continue chatting with a potential match online until you're more familiar with each other. "Try chatting with potential dates for a longer period until you feel confident and comfortable with them before going on a face-to-face date," says Dr. Tara Suwinyattichaiporn, a tenured relational and sexual communication professor at Cal State Fullerton and a relationship expert.
Being introverted is an important part of who you are and is just as valuable as being extroverted. So just be yourself on dates: "You don’t need to be the most outgoing person in the room to be likable or lovable. People want to connect with other genuine human beings," explains Dr. Stephanie Freitag, a licensed staff psychologist at Westchester CAPS and an adjunct professor at Emory School of Medicine.
