33 Offhanded Comments That Ended Up Changing Lives And No One Saw It Coming

Cousin told me he didn't have one bad memory of me and always wanted to be like me when he was younger. Which hit hard as s**t as I was always trying to be like him when I was younger.

Don't believe anything you hear and only half of what you see. It's served me well for 45 years.

“Don’t make fun of me.” A girl with a speech impediment that I was making fun of in junior high. I’ve never made fun of a person’s speaking ability again.

"You arguing? I don't think it's you mate."

My boss after he'd pulled me aside because I was withdrawn and quiet at work. I told him I was arguing with my partner of the time. This offhand comment referencing and confirming my easy-going, placid nature was the beginning of the realisation that I was in an a*****e relationship. It took me a few years to get out, but I did.

I had a bus driver in elementary school - I remember she would say, "Slow your roll, power ranger" a few times while driving us. To this day, when a car is going to fast around me, I still say it.

Somebody once told me " it's okay to tell people to f**k off, they might not like it but it could make you happier".

After I told someone I walked up the stairs at work for exercise:

- It only works if you do it every day

I think about it every day now as I walk up the stairs.

My partner and I spent 5 years trying for a baby, my “friend” told me “oh you’re just not praying hard enough”.

It was insignificant to them, but pretty awful for us.

I guess I didn’t pray hard enough to this day, I’ve still not been blessed with any children.

“No matter what happens, I’ll always love you.” (My college girlfriend as we were breaking up, 1992).

When I was a teen, a trusted adult told me his mother was in the hospital and someone in the group asked if she was going to die and he said "We all are, eventually"
And for whatever reason that's stuck with me and reframes my perspective on things from time to time.

My mother and father are still together. Not happy.

When I was about 16 the fighting got real bad and my mother was alone, crying. Tried to comfort her and she said through tears that it was me. That I was conceived before they were married.

That she married him to be a good mother and she wonders if she would be happier if she hadn’t.

I’ve never really confronted them about this but I have sort of been holding onto the blame for their failed marriage and s****y lives for a long time.

Never make decisions when you’re tired, and you can tell someone not to put their hand in the fire, but if they do it anyway, you can’t control it.

Mainly things from elementary school years since I’m not as impacted these days by words.

“Your mouth looks funny when you laugh” - I have never laughed without a hand covering my mouth since then.

From my best friend - “Ew your legs are so meaty” - I think this comment deadass kickstarted my ED journey throughout my life. I was also maybe 100lbs at the time of this comment I just had thicker thighs than my friends.

“I don’t hate you, I wanted more for you.”.