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40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Social IssuesJAN 15, 2025

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor

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Society has a lot of rules, regulations, and expectations for how you ‘should’ behave. Don’t be rude. Be demure. Be a good student. Go to college. Be skinny but not too skinny. Work at a good company. Get engaged. Get married. Have children. Buy a house. Have even more kids. Get a second car. Get along with everyone, etc.
The list is endless. Those unmet expectations can introduce a lot of stress into a person’s life. The reality is that you don’t have to meet any of those expectations. You’re free to live your life however you want and to find your path despite what you're pressured to do. In short, live as authentically as you can. The members of the popular AskWomen online community revealed the things that they love about themselves that society thinks are ‘inappropriate.’ Scroll down for their stories.

#1

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
That I love being alone, in my own company. I do have a handful of close friends, but I prefer my own company above all others. I never get lonely and I never get bored. I don’t understand someone who wants to be around another person 24-7 like in a marriage. I lived with someone for 8 years when I was in my 20’s and NEVER EVER again. I’ve had relationships here and there over the years but am never looking to be in one. This seems to baffle so many people.
93points

#2

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Lack of desire to become a mother.
74points

#3

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
I love having sex, I loved sleeping around when I was single, I am super sexually liberated and I have no shame about it.
73points

The way that specific cultures view femininity and masculinity affects life in a myriad of ways. For example, it can also influence the types of extracurricular activities (like sports) that people feel pressured to embrace or avoid. Some attitudes are hard to shake.

But something to keep in mind is that these attitudes vary from society to society. What’s ‘weird’ in one geographic area can be perfectly acceptable elsewhere.

A 2017 study found that the choice of sports still corresponds to sports traditionally associated with men or women. That being said, these activities also coexist with other ‘neutral’ sports. Typically, girls’ sports practice was more diverse than boys’, who were more resistant to embracing female activities.


#4

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
So many times I’ve been told I won’t get married if I don’t change the way I speak or live. People would say things like, ‘Men don’t like women with careers,’ or ‘You’re too independent.’

Well, I’m still not married, and I absolutely love it. I get to do everything I want, and I’m completely in love with myself. 🥰
66points

#5

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Being childfree and happy.
65points

#6

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Being confrontational. It's not that I go out and look to have a fight, but I will speak up about annoying behaviour when others are too afraid to do so. I've been called quite a few b-words because of it, but I don't care.
59points

As per the researchers from the University of Vigo, the University of Leon, and the University of A Coruña, a person’s gender is still the most defining factor when it comes to sports. Generally, feminine extracurricular activities are associated with rhythm, expression, and dancing. Swimming was also found to be more feminine, as was walking.

According to research, stereotypically, masculine sports were associated with more danger, risk, violence, speed, strength, endurance, challenge, and team spirit.

However, there were some cultural exceptions. For instance, in Portugal, football was one of the most practiced sports among girls, though in Spain, football was associated with activities that boys focus on.

“Likewise, sports practiced by girls in other European contexts did not feature so noticeable rhythmic-expressive characteristics,” the researchers noted.

#7

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
I have zero interest in sex, romantic relationships, or children. I keep getting told I’ll change my mind or I’m a naive young person but I don’t care.
54points

#8

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Having a “high body count.” I enjoyed myself a lot in my 20s and have zero regrets. I went on lots of dates, met a lot of interesting people, learned a lot about people, had a lot of fun, and tried out everything I wanted to try. I feel calm in my 30s knowing that my sexual curiosities were fulfilled.
53points

#9

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
This might sound kind of shallow but my height and flat chest! I was insecure about it for the longest time because people always say that women who are tall and/or have no chest are “just men” but more recently I’ve started to love it! I’m a runner and do cross country and track and field for my college and my body is so functional for my sport!
52points

#10

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
I'm not nice. I'm kind, and thoughtful. But I am not nice, and I love that for me. I think more women should try not being so damn nice to everyone all the time.

I say NO often, and often with no explanation or context....because sometimes a NO is just that.
50points

#11

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Not wanting kids or having any maternal instincts. I may have the required parts to give birth, that doesn't mean I want to or that I should.
50points

#12

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
People are starting to get a little worried that I’m now in my thirties, unmarried, and have no kids.

I have spent 31 years of my life doing what I want, when I want, how I want. I’m comfortable financially. I’m happy. I have a wonderful group of friends.

I don’t really want a spouse. S**t, now that I’m in my thirties and my libido’s calmed the hell down I don’t even want to date anymore. I’m a very happy auntie just living my best life
45points

#13

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Menswear. I love a good 3 piece suit; I look so hot!
45points

#14

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Woodworking, doing (minor) work on appliances/cars, using power tools, etc.

I have been building furniture and fixing up random things here and there around the house. When people ask what I have been up to, what my hobbies are, etc, and I tell them, at least half of the responses I get are “ugh, why don’t you let your husband do that?”

The simple answer is this: because people still ask me that.

I also love baking, sewing, and s**t like that, but those are things I feel pressure/obligation to be good at. Building/fixing s**t is a task that I am not *expected* to be able to do, and excelling at it (or even just managing it at all) makes my dopamine go bzzzzzzt. It’s a thrill, not a chore.
45points

#15

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Being ecstatic at the idea I may possibly never marry and will end up in an apartment full of cats and dogs.
44points

#16

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
I don't smile a lot. It's just exhausting. Even at work. I'll occasionally flash a smile to customers and just people in general that I have a favorable attitude towards, but for the most part, straight-faced and just trying to get through the day. My voice is also a little lower naturally and I don't make an effort as much anymore to speak in a super cheery, high-pitched voice.

On top of that, I'm not very fond of men and I'd be completely fine with never having a partner. I love my independence and alone time a lot.
42points

#17

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
In my 30s I decided to start lifting weights. Then I started competing in powerlifting competitions. I had the time of my life! And the confidence boost was so addicting. I'd think to myself, "wait, I just squatted 396lbs in front of an audience and I don't think I can apply for this job? Get outta here!"


Also - having very visible tattoos, being child free (and surgically making sure of that), owning a home by myself (I'm on my 3rd one), owning my 2nd pitbull, not being overtly feminine, cursing a lot, etc. 
38points

#18

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Learning stuff that society only expects men to do, for example, changing a flat tire or fixing what's broken...because I realized how essential these tasks were for any individual alongside being able to cook and to take good care of myself.
37points

#19

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Man spreading. Like, it’s just a comfortable way to sit
37points

#20

40 Feminine ‘Faux Pas’ Women Are Flaunting Like They’re Badges Of Honor
Being a lesbian, having tattoos, being masculine, not caring for men’s opinions or wanting to be with men or ever needing them, fishing, hiking, hunting, camping, driving fast cars, long boarding, landscaping, mechanics, working with tools, fixing my own s**t and wanting to disable the patriarchy
36points
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