1. Infidelity – “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Once a person has shown the willingness to cross the line, that willingness will always exist. If your lover has a history of infidelity in prior relationships or cheats early within the existing one, the necessary love and respect are not present and it is only going to get worse. Relationships can only grow if people take them one at a time.
2. Temper and Violence – Violence doesn’t have to become physical to set off alarms. If a lover is prone to excessive verbal outbursts and physical actions such as destroying property, it might be nothing more than a matter of time before that violence is turned towards the partner in the form of physical abuse. Worse of all, temper and violence tend to escalate and can’t be easily fixed without counseling.
3. Addiction - Drug abuse, alcoholism, sex addiction and compulsive gambling are all highly destructive behavioral problems that tend to take down anything in its path. Far too many people feel compelled to “save” the addict from himself. The reality is that most addicts need intensive counseling and support just to gain and ounce of abstinence and, lovers are ill-prepared to “fix” a sick addict.
4. Possessive Behavior – If a lover exhibits signs of extreme jealousy and ownership over their partner, he/she is most likely suffering from issues of low self-esteem and little confidence. A mentally healthy lover understands a mate needs for social interaction and won’t get in the way. Unfortunately, possessive behavior often leads to rage and violence.
5. If your partner exhibits any of these signs, your best option is to move on and find the healthy relationship you deserve. Don’t fall victim to your need to nurture and rescue a damaged person. The right person will be the one who has already focused on their issues to become the lover you really want and need.
