Husbands Nags His Wife And Mom Of 3 For Not Taking Care Of Her Looks Until She Blows Up During Family Dinner And Puts Him In His Place

A recent Gallup poll found that among women, non-employed moms of young children are more likely to report anger and sadness, and they are also more likely to have been diagnosed with depression than their employed counterparts. So as if being a SAHM raising kids and juggling responsibilities wasn't enough of a challenge already, the lack of support from your loved one may take the strain to a whole new level.

This story comes from “a SAHM taking care of our home and our 3 kids (5 yrs, 3 yrs, 6 months),” who described her husband as “the breadwinner.” In a brutally honest post on r/AITA, the woman shared how lately he has been “complaining about me not taking care of myself/looks and being always busy with chores and whatnot.”

The tension escalated even further as the two were attending family dinner. Not only did the guy start openly criticizing her current look in front of everyone, he also called her “unladylike,” and this is when the author blew up.

For many women out there, raising kids full-time raises huge and usually silent challenges. These can include some extremely difficult emotions like the loss of identity, feelings of anger and sadness, that may result in postpartum depression.

Recent research has found stay-at-home moms are much more likely to become depressed than their working counterparts. The study discovered that 28 percent of stay-at-home moms reported depression a lot of the day when asked how they were feeling the day before, but only 17 percent of employed moms did.

The same study found that 41 percent of SAHMs reported feeling overwhelmingly worried, compared to a significantly lesser 34 percent of their counterparts. The isolation factor, unhealthy messages from society, opportunity loss and many other factors put huge pressure on the already demanding task of raising their kids.

What’s worse, the pandemic has made life for everyone, especially women juggling responsibilities at home, way harder. Jane Parker, a Strategic Intervention Advanced Relationship Coach who coaches clients to have successful, fulfilling, and healthy relationships, told Bored Panda that “it is important that we have our own space, mentally and physically, and so the restrictions of the pandemic have taken much of that away from us.”

She said that while we are all dealing with our own feelings and responsibilities, which can affect what we are capable of giving to our partner and children, inequality within relationships was also highlighted.

“Inequality within relationships has also been highlighted. Many women feel that the sacrifices and responsibilities that have come about because of lockdown have fallen at their feet whilst their partners have been able to focus on their work as usual,” Jane explained.

Moreover, “It has been assumed that the woman will be the one who will home school, care for the children or elderly relatives, run their businesses/work from home and look after the house,” she said and added that “This can cause resentment if not addressed.”

But despite this problem that can be called an ‘elephant in the room,’ many Americans still believe that having a mother who stays at home is beneficial for a young child.

A recent Pew Research survey focusing on “parents,” rather than just on mothers, asked Americans which statement came closer to their view: First, children are better off when a parent stays home to focus on the family; or second, children are just as well off when their parents work outside the home.

The results were: Fully six in ten adults chose the first statement and only about one-third (35%) chose the second statement.