Mom Recovering From A C-Section Completely Loses It At Incompetent Husband

Being a new parent is stressful, particularly if you also have to find a way to keep working. You end up juggling a lack of sleep, all kinds of new fears and challenges, all while making sure a new human doesn't die. But this is not an excuse for being a horrible person.

A woman asked the internet for advice after she shouted at her husband for first procrastinating on getting diapers, then getting the wrong ones. After the confrontation, he locked his wife, who was still recovering from a C-section, out of the bedroom and threw a fit. Netizens did their best to share some words of support with her.

Just to put things into perspective, not only has this woman been raising a child for the first time, she still has to actually recover from the stress of pregnancy, giving birth and surgery. Most specialists emphasize that a full post-partum recovery can take months. Even in ideal circumstances, six to eight weeks is to be expected. This is why, even when the mother has full maternity leave, she might often need help with a variety of tasks.

While a c-section delivery is a modern miracle, there is no denying that giving birth, taking care of a newborn and recovering from a surgery is no mean feat. For those who are unaware, a c-section involves literally delivering the child through a cut in the mother’s abdomen. This is a risky procedure which requires catheters, general anesthesia and incisions around 6 inches (15 centimeters) long.

Movement after a c-section tends to be limited and painful, and should be avoided whenever possible. Normally, this is why having a partner is such an advantage. Some specialists suggest that the mother shouldn’t try living a “normal” life up until 6 weeks after her surgery. This includes, among other things, driving.

If just the sound of this makes you balk, imagine someone recovering from it, unable to really get up and drive to the store, realizing that their own ally and caretaker can’t be bothered to get diapers. Remember, these aren’t some luxury items, diapers are literally the only thing between clean clothes and linens and a horrible mess. A mess that this woman seems to be expected to clean up, despite still recovering.

In general, research suggests that post-partum, the flux of hormones the mother is feeling can lead to heightened emotions and often irrational feelings. Yelling at and insulting your partner is generally not justifiable, but, for once, the person doing it in this case might actually not really comprehend what they are feeling. It can be helpful to explore what other parents have seen, learned and experienced to get a better understanding of what things might look like.

This is not to disparage the time and energy working a full time job requires, but realistically, the husband needs to understand that in many ways, his wife and the mother of his child can not fully take care of herself. Perhaps her outburst was too much, but by procrastinating, he is not only making her life harder, he is also negatively affecting the life of his own child.

This argument could be chalked up to just frustration boiling over, but his decision to lock her out of the bedroom and make her sleep on the sofa is too much. This would be too much if she was just looking after their child (emphasis on “their”) but the fact that she is also going through post-surgical recovery is just evidence that this man simply can not be trusted. This isn’t some unwanted child, this is his offspring that he suddenly doesn’t care about.

As many of the commenters suggest, she needs to get out of that relationship fast, this will not be the last argument this couple has and if this is how low he might stoop, it will only get worse. He was ready to threaten divorce after he didn’t get diapers, which is both cruel and short sighted. The fact that he didn’t get the right ones is secondary to the fact that it truly took him that long to get any in the first place.