Man Battles With Wife’s Ultimatum: Give Her More Than 2 Showers Per Week Or See Her Move Out

It’s important to be aware of our impact on the environment, but some people are more eager to take action to minimize it than others; maybe even too eager at times.

This redditor’s husband, for instance, took action by limiting the number of showers his family members were allowed to take. Such a decision led to conflict between the spouses and his wife wondering if she was overreacting for threatening him to move out.

It’s no secret that our behaviors are closely linked to the environment, be it because of the resources we use or the waste we produce, among other things. According to National Geographic, some of the main ways humans affect the environment are overpopulation, pollution, burning fossil fuels, and deforestation, all of which can result in climate change, soil erosion, poor air quality, and undrinkable water.

The latter, water, is what the OP’s husband was worried about the most. Bearing the environment in mind, he believed that his family was using too much water, hence the two-shower-a-week rule. According to the US Environmental Protection Agency (EPA), the average American family uses over 300 gallons (just over 1100 liters) of water per day in their homes, 70% of which is used indoors.

Out of the 70% of indoor use water, the majority seems to be flushed down the toilet; quite literally, as the toilet is what people use water for the most. Showering is reportedly second on the list, followed by using faucets and washing clothes respectively. EPA emphasized that using water more efficiently helps maintain water supplies at safe levels, protecting human health and the environment.

While being mindful of water usage should be a rule of thumb, taking it to the extreme at the expense of the well-being of members of one’s household might not be the smartest idea. Take showering, for instance, which was something the OP’s husband was willing to minimize for the sake of the environment; while experts point out that whether or not it’s necessary to shower daily depends on each person, the limit to two times per week was clearly not something the redditor was content with, consequently negatively affecting her quality of life.

The redditor shared that she was someone who prefers showering before bed, meaning that she likely takes showers daily; and based on data from 2021, she’s far from the only one. A survey from a few years ago found that roughly half of Americans wash themselves every day and one-in-five of them do it at least once every two days. Taking a shower two times a week—once every three or four days—is a routine followed by only 6% and 2% of respondents respectively.

While personal hygiene habits clearly differ with each individual, they’re usually based on the choices they make rather than on what’s imposed on them by others. That’s why fellow redditors in the comments took the OP’s side and pointed out that the husband limiting the showers family members can take is likely to do more harm than good.