It is said that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones but all too often, they simply can't resist. Some will pick up the biggest rock they can find and try to hurl it through a tiny window, then act shocked when it ricochets right back at them.
That's sort of what happened when a meddling aunt publicly accused her brother-in-law of having a year-long affair. She went as far as claiming that his daughter had been paid to keep the secret. What the aunt didn't expect was for her own skeletons to come tumbling out of the closet in the process.
She knew exactly why her father had spent a year overseas
So when her aunt accused him of having an affair, this woman went for the jugular
According to the United Nations, “hidden” birth control is becoming increasingly popular. Here’s why…
Hidden contraceptives are exactly as the name suggests: they cannot be seen. “They are 'hidden' because nobody will know you are using them but you unless you tell them,” explains the United Nations Population Fund site. Some examples of these types of contraceptives include an implant, injection or IUD.
If you’re unfamiliar with the term IUD, it’s an intrauterine device. It’s a tiny (about a quarter-sized) T-shaped birth control device that is placed inside a woman’s uterus by a healthcare provider.
They’re 99% effective in preventing pregnancy and can last for several years. “The IUD is a great option for women who want to keep their birth control a secret from everyone except their partner,” say the experts at Bedsider.org. And that’s because, even if you don’t tell your partner you have one, they might find out.
An IUD has threads attached to it that help a health care provider remove it when the time comes. These threads will be at your cervix (the opening of the uterus), and according to experts, sometimes, they can be felt.
The United Nations notes that hidden contraceptives have become popular because they're safe for young women, they're effective at preventing pregnancy, they're private (not visible to others), they're convenient (no daily pills to take), they're removable when you’re ready to get pregnant and they're long-acting protection against pregnancy.
However, the UN warns that while they’re effective at preventing pregnancy, they won't keep you safe from STIs or HIV.
Some may wonder why a woman would feel the need to hide her contraceptive from a partner. The reasons vary but one study found that one in four young women reported that their partner had sabotaged their birth control or tried to get them pregnant when they didn’t want to be.
“Birth control sabotage — in which a partner deliberately destroys birth control pills, or tampers with the efficacy of a method — is not uncommon,” notes the Clinician.com site.
“In one study of family planning clinic patients, 15% of women experiencing physical violence also reported birth control sabotage. In another study among adolescent mothers on public assistance who experienced recent intimate partner violence, 66% experienced birth control sabotage by a dating partner,” it adds.
If you find yourself wanting to hide your contraception from a partner, you might need to rethink your relationship.
"Whether or not you use birth control is a private decision; it’s totally cool to use it on the down low," say Bedsider's experts. "However, feeling like you won’t be safe unless you hide your birth control from your partner means that your partner is not cool."
Many people felt the aunt got what she deserved
