I think that when a person has a conflict with their in-laws, it reveals how much their partner actually cares about them. After all, standing up to their own parents takes a spine, but not everyone has it. Makes me feel bad for their spouses, to be honest.
Just look at this woman who was grieving after her miscarriage and banned anyone from coming to their house. Her husband felt that the rule didn’t apply to his mommy dearest, so his wife finally snapped. Scroll down to find out whether he grew a spine or not!
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Sometimes, conflicts with a toxic in-law can really expose the true colors of a person's partner
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The poster banned anyone from coming to their house after she miscarried, but she was shocked when her mother-in-law stomped all over her boundaries
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When she confronted her husband about it, he felt that her rule didn't apply to his mom and she was sick of his silence whenever it came to her
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The poster updated that she texted his mom not to come to their house in front of him, yet the woman returned and called her out for "moping" over the miscarriage
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She was surprised when her husband finally saw his mom for who she was, kicked her out, apologized to the poster, and changed the locks to their house
In today’s family drama, the original poster (OP) exposes her cruel mother-in-law and spineless husband. She was a complete mess after her miscarriage, so she banned anyone from coming to their house. Her sister, who often visited, respected it and showed her support via texts. However, the mother-in-law stormed in with “her” key to host her regular Sunday brunch in the author’s kitchen.
Mind you, this woman was always mean to our lady, but her husband’s silence was what hurt her the most. When she confronted him about his mother’s sudden appearance, he conveniently claimed that he didn’t think the poster’s rule applied to his mom. Apparently, he expected his wife to be more “specific” as he couldn’t read her mind, and his behavior really saddened the OP.
In an update, she mentioned that she texted her mother-in-law not to come over right in front of her husband. He assured her that it would work, but obviously it didn’t, and the woman showed up uninvited again. The author was really annoyed and asked her what she was doing, when the older woman said that the poster should move around and quit moping, as it wouldn’t bring back her baby.
Ouch! That must have stung, so she immediately called her husband and told him everything. Much to her surprise, he took her side for the first time and asked his mom to leave. Of course, the toxic lady threw a fit and spread lies about him. However, he finally saw her for who she was, changed the house locks, and apologized to the poster, who wondered why he didn’t side with her before.
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Researchers emphasize that the grief from pregnancy loss can turn into something very severe. Occasionally, it can lead to problems with mental health such as depression, anxiety, and PTSD. They backed it up with a study where 1 in 3 women had symptoms of PTSD one month after a miscarriage, and 1 in 4 had symptoms of moderate or severe anxiety. Drama was the last thing that the grieving OP needed.
Experts highlight that such behavior is clearly emotional cruelty, which is a form of domestic violence. Unfortunately, studies have found that 60% of women admitted that the relationship with their female in-law caused them long-term unhappiness and stress. I think that if someone’s partner is supportive, they can storm through everything, but the poor poster didn’t even have that.
Binghamton psychologists reveal that negative support from your partner can raise the level of the stress hormone cortisol in your body. I can’t even imagine how harrowing it must have been for the author. No wonder she felt that something in their marriage was broken even after he stood up to his mom. After all, it took 9 years for him to see the damage she had caused his wife.
Considering the theatrics that went down, netizens felt that the OP needed therapy for her grief, while the couple should also seek counseling. It only makes sense, as she was still really hurt by her husband’s behavior. What would you have done if you were in the same situation? We would love to hear your thoughts, so feel free to jot them down in the comments section!
Netizens couldn't believe that the guy let his wife suffer his mom's harassment for so many years without supporting her
