How To Remain Positive

Save yourself from the drama- one thing we are naturally attracted to is drama. Let’s face it we all live a pretty dull and boring life. Some of us who are blessed with attractive personalities might enjoy a slightly adventurous life, but that is the extent of it. Believe me, while you grow up the drama starts to repel you but by then it’s too late to save your little ass. Okay this might make sense- remember when you watched “pearl harbor” or “Rang de Basanti” - Did you not want to die for your country or when you saw “a walk to remember” or “leap year”- you wanted someone to grow old with or when you watched “Hachiko” - how the only thing you ever wanted was a dog and that too an Akita. What I mean is we tend to get involved with the drama we see on-screen just imagine how we might get affected by the drama off-screen. The impact is multifold and ever increasing. Fights you have, love you feel, friendships you relish are all your response to the blacks and blues your life is providing you with. Remember happiness you seek outside resides in you. Maybe we need some good people around us but in the end, all we need is ourselves pulled together.

Function like a human being- human body is like water. it takes the shape of the vessel you store it into. If your life is a mess, it’s probably because you have kept yourself in a surrounding that is a mess. Not waking up on time, eating junk and trash, over-analysing things that need to be ignored and under-analysing things that need your attention, never going for a walk. Believe you me, any soul would leave you in search of a more responsible vessel. We are using or rather renting this body for a period of 70 years we need to pay our dues. Just for the sake of argument try to put yourself in a routine, do things timely and see if you could see some changes.

Forget- I think this should be a motive of everyone who is going through any kind of shit. I believe no problem could be so big that it doesn’t have a solution. Anyone is welcome to criticize this but I hold on to this point. No problem comes alone, it’s always a package deal. If a man was to live alone and isolated he could live longer. But we live in a society full of people, who always have any or many of these emotions towards us- grievances, love, hate, obsession, lust etc… and “it’s none of your business" is an ancient bullshit, mind you, "it’s always our business". We need to know how people feel about us, we grieve if they hate us and be happy if they love us. It’s a human nature we as a group like to be loved, it’s okay. What is not okay is “to be obsessed with other’s validation”. Try to be in people's good books but don’t emphasize so much on it that you end up losing your mind. So basically you got to forget about society many times to be normal and function basically. Believe me, it feels great to fuck society before it fucks you.

Forgive- if you have lived long enough that you could relate to this post, you must have gone through a fair share of crap in your life. Let me simplify this for you- there are some people you don’t like, others who don’t like you, some of these people get phased out from your life and some remains as the stained pages in your life book. We human beings are so immature and naïve, we live for 70 years on this earth that dates back to ‘13.7 billion years' which humans know of. We get a very brief period to live, we could terribly mess this duration with tangled relations, sour and bitter sentiments or we could do something different and make difference. As Chandler Bing once said, “the only way people could remember I was here will be by my ass print on this sofa”. Be more than an ass print or an asshole. Forgive people who hurt you. We all are vulnerable people with our own unique insecurities. Hence everyone could be forgiven. It’s time we all move on.

Invest in right people- now it is a tricky one. How do we know who the right person is? Have you ever bought eggs? I bet you have, we get good eggs most times except for some very unfortunate times. The crux is you can’t see the interior of people and also that they don’t come with warnings and disclaimers. Wrong people could damage you beyond repair. What to do then? Well just like you use the good eggs and throw away the bad ones, you need to keep good people and throw the bad ones out. Be a good judge of who is right and then go lengths to retain that person in your life after all one good friend is better than a hundred fake ones.

Keep wrong people off the coast- however important it is to keep right people around us, it is more important to keep the wrong people away. Firstly it is crucial to know that no person is wrong, it’s all about circumstances but it’s also true that if a person lets his/her circumstance strangle/choke you, that could get you nowhere with the concerned person. Secondly remember it’s no movie, hence no one has a heart of iron. We all are normal people with human instincts. It could be horribly hard to cut out people from your lives who were once precious to you. It’s extremely hard to not love someone back who loves you or to end a relationship in which you invested a lot of time. But you ought to know one thing “sometimes the hardest thing is also the most right thing”.

Keep yourself open to opportunities- sometimes failed relationships, failed exams, failed friendships, failed jobs- leaves a long-lasting bitter taste in our mouths. We ought to cut ourselves some slack, we need to understand that they were accidents and they were all in the past. There is a popular saying that goes like “never look back unless it’s a good view”. Judge the situation and act accordingly. No one thing is the only thing, even if it appears otherwise at that time. Whenever you feel that nobody is understanding your problems and when you feel that your problem is magnificent. Trust me there is a good chance that, it is a very minor crap. Survival is hard and is meant for the fittest. If you are having a hard time you got to understand life is giving you a minor shock and preparing you for further battles. So be a good soldier- grab the opportunities keep doing stuff and mess it again so that you end up having a good story.

Be thankful- shift your focus to the good. Don’t grieve about what you did not get but celebrate stuff you have. Believe in one good force that is guiding us all and trust that everything is happening for some reason and that, good things will come to you at the right time. Any problem is as big as we make it. See around and you will see plenty of people whose lives are an inspiration for generations to come. People with no eyes, creating marvels of art. People with no limbs, climbing Everest. Rejection and failure are the building blocks of a successful person. The problem is we always see the successful person without seeing his labour, his fears and his hard work. Wake up and smell some coffee, life is a great opportunity. Find your passion and dedicate your life towards it. Be what you were meant to be. Once you do it there won’t be much room left in your mind to think if you are happy or not because then you’ll stop searching the positivity and happiness outside and discover it within.