When you get involved in a toxic relationship with a narcissist you end up feeling like a worn out puppet. Tethered toxically through a person who controls you through their emotions. You always feel you have to be careful what you do and say even though they have the freedom to do and say as they wish. You have to tip toe, acquiesce, sacrifice, be mindful, and always attentive. When you get involved with them you feel as though your free will has been taken from you. Why? Because they are pulling the strings that emotionally torment. If you have been in a relationship like that, it is a relief to get away and when you look back manipulation doesn't even begin to cover what you have experienced.
Sometimes it's not the person you miss, it's the feeling you had when you were with them before they showed you who they really are. You find yourself going out on dates and thinking about the times it was good between you and your ex, and wondering if he changed for his new girlfriend, but couldn't change for you. You have more than likely found yourself reminiscing about the good times in hopes that it makes you forget the brutal realization that the relationship you thought you had never really existed.
None of the abuse he caused was your fault. Just because he has moved on doesn't mean he has changed. More than likely he has found a new victim to attack. Don't get lost in the good times, that was all for show. His true colors eventually showed up and that is who he really is. In order to move on you can't allow your mind to take you to the times you felt loved by him, but rather the times, he cheated, lied, abused, etc...gain your strength from that and close the book. Let it be that wherever or whomever he is with be 100% irrelevant to you. Cherish the people in your life who truly love you and mean well. Don't allow him to still have the power to control you by remaining stuck in the what ifs. You are beautiful and powerful, heal yourself. Enjoy the beauty of life and the people in it. Those who love you will never treat you like dirt.
The strongest actions for a woman is to love herself, be herself and shine amongst those who never believed she could. A woman is unstoppable after she realizes she deserves better.
