Think of failure as a highly effective teacher, at the same time as a harsh and unsympathetic one. The value we obtain from our failure is dependent on the lesson we learned.
If we start perceiving failure as a harsh judgement of our skills and abilities we will not learn to dread failure.
Try to look for the lessons failure give us otherwise we will start to see ourselves as incompetent and inadequate.
The way to look at failure is as someone gives us feedback and we improve upon it. The shift in perspective can do us good. Instead of piercing us as incompetent we will incorporate the feedback and try again.
In the next chapters, we will discuss the rewards you can collect when you fail.