Closure. We all seek it. We seek the end of things and also the beginning of new things. Those things we can't find closure on, they haunt us. They pop up in our dreams, and creep into our thoughts in idle moments, like a mind-bender that's beyond our mental capacity, a mystery that just won't be solved. Many times we don't get closure we just move on, and it's hard to move on from a breakup when you never got the closure you wanted.
In order to move on you have to accept that you did your best to make your relationship work. The fact that the relationship didn't work wasn't because you weren't willing to fight for it, but because the other person chose to give up on it. Closure comes when you learn to accept the answers you will never get from the individual. You have to learn to enjoy your own company. It is possible to be alone and not be lonely. Understanding that they were so quick to walk away lets you know their heart was never in it. In the long run you are better off without the person. You deserve someone willing to go to war for you just like you would. Not someone who will watch you, while they sit back.
Every relationship is different and the time it takes you to heal and find closure depends on how the relationship ended as well as you willing to walk away without revisiting that chapter of your life. It's harder to get over someone when you allow them to still have one foot in the door. Take your time to heal before jumping into the dating scene again. Nothing feels worse than talking to someone new wishing it was your ex.
Allow the right amount of time to go by and make sure you have healed enough to be able to talk to your ex to get closure if needed. Make sure to keep the conversation short and to the point so that it doesn't end up going south. Now while some exes are willing to talk some will never agree to talk to you and give you the closure you want, and that's okay. Don't depend on your ex to give you his reasons. Just accept it for what it was, knowing you did your part and were nothing but good to them.
Lastly surround yourself with outgoing people. People who make it fun to be around and have your best interest at heart. Change your atmosphere, whatever works for you to get the closure you need in a healthy manner. Moving on takes time but you will get there, your heart will heal and eventually you will meet the person willing to give you the love you deserve.
