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How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
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How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)

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In this fast-paced world, caught up with work and responsibilities, we often forget to spend more quality time with our dear ones. And this is probably one good thing that coronavirus has done―it literally closed us in with our significant others 24/7 and threw the key away. And as much as we are grateful for this generous opportunity, and as much as we love the people we are stuck with, I think, it's fair to say that anything can happen. Some people say birth rates will skyrocket in nine months; others say there will be many broken hearts.
So we ask you, Bored Pandas in quarantine, to share how coronavirus has affected your relationship with your significant other. You are not alone in this, and your experiences might help others going through similarly rough or happy times!

#1

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years. We are still very much in love and are best friends. My heart still skips a beat when he smiles at me. He is the finest man I have ever met. I hope we don't kill each other.
51points

#2

I'm a Cancer patient. We don't live together. We talk twice every day and when he comes to see me it's outside, 6-7 feet apart. We greet each other by tapping the tips of our shoes together. It's hard, I miss his touch. I hope we can make it through this. For now I'm his "Bubble Girl."
45points

#3

My SO and I live about 45 mins apart. I have children, including one with special needs who has a compromised immune system. I’ve been diligently social distancing all of us, and for the past week have been isolating with my children. He doesn’t “believe” in social distancing and broke up with me because I refused to go visit him.
I’m not even mad. Just relieved he revealed this incredible level of selfishness now, before I got more invested.
44points

#4

How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
It truly didn't affect it in any way. Since we both work at Bored Panda, we're used to seeing each other a lot, so this wasn't that much of a change. Ofc we miss our friends and going out, but we have our best time cooking, watching movies and reading books.
42points

#5

My husband is the assistant supply chain director at a major hospital in our city. The director position has been empty since the beginning of the year (New director arriving sometime in April, we hope.), so my hubby is having to cover most of the director's job as well. Obviously, this isn't the type of job that can be done from home, and he is extremely busy right now. I'm trying to home school three boys, who are stuck inside for the most part. As you can imagine, we are both stressed.
Once upon a time, during a period of unemployment, one of our friends gave us this sage advice, "This situation is going to pull at you, whether it pulls you apart or pulls you together is up to you." So now we're setting aside a bit of time every couple days to cuddle, only cuddle. Just to center ourselves with each other without anything else. It may be as small as 10 minutes, but we have a tiny amount of time just for us. We're determined to make this pull us together.
40points

#6

How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
Since we live over 1000km (600 miles) apart, the quarantine definitely had a negative impact on us. Seeing each other is already a rare occasion and the current world situation filled our plans with a lot of uncertainty. We hope that the borders open soon so we could see each (fingers crossed for summer). Unfortunately, the plans to celebrate our anniversary in April are out of the window. On the other hand, it makes you think how fortunate we are to have access to technology that allows us to chat and see each other at least through video calls. No need to rely on carrier pigeons!
32points

#7

How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
The quarantine didn't change much, to be honest. My significant other and I used to spend a lot of time together when we both worked from home. So no surprises there, just a throwback to old times. However, I think it's really important to have your own corner in the house where you could have some time alone. If I didn't have one I would probably go insane.
30points

#8

How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
Still looking for my significant other. Things are rough on the dating topic. I've had a hard time finding dates even before the outbreak, but now it's pretty much impossible to meet anyone in my home area. I've even extended the search range to the garden, but 0 matches still.
29points

#9

We live in small one bedroom appartment, so we mostly just sit on the couch all day anyway. So we just decided to spice things up by switching sides. Didn't feel right, so after a week we changed back.
22points

#10

Maybe it’s me, but everyone on here seems to have the perfect life at home! This has affected my relationship dramatically. Whether you are married, living together, dating, single...i believe everyone needs some alone time or time to themselves. Even if it’s to take a bath, or the ride to work alone in their car. For me, i have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months, and he has been spending pretty much every night here. I also have my college daughter home with her boyfriend here and my two High school kids. I’m a nurse for one of the “essential” businesses (a government manufacturing plant) that will stay open. My boyfriend can work from home however, I have very stressful days and coming home to a full house is full of energy is a lot. I need time to decompress. My boyfriend want a to hug and cuddle. Honestly my sex drive is nonexistent. It’s causing a lot of stress between us. I don’t know how all of you are doing it
21points

#11

I had just married my Ethiopian husband in Ethiopia less than two months ago while serving for Peace Corps. It was such a nice yet short time living with him and his family. Then for the first time in history Peace Corps suspended all it's overseas operations and forced us to come back to the US at once. I miss my husband so much and I don't know when I can see him again.
20points

#12

My husband and I are lucky- we have lived in each other's back pockets since about our third date over thirty years ago now. We are also full time musicians so that means we also work and tour together. In the past we've spent as much as eight months on the road here in the US and abroad without any problems to speak of, or at least none that came about from being together. Since we're both loners, why does this work? We give each other a lot of space (we each have a room of our own) and respect privacy when we're working on personal stuff or just need some quiet time. We also spend time "just cuddling" which is FAR more important than most people realize. Cuddling is vital, people! Anyway, we spend time home alone together anyway so, except for running short on toilet paper, missing contact with our friends and trips to thrift stores, we're doing pretty well. But we are super lucky and we know it. I couldn't bear this with anyone else, that is for sure.
17points

#13

How Has The Quarantine Affected Your Relationship With Your Significant Other? (Ended)
Quarantine is going really well for us. Since we can't go out on a date, we started a date night tradition, where we put on our fancy clothes and "go" for a dinner, to a "movie festival" or just game together. The only argument we've had since the quarantine started was because my SO decided to burn our camp in Don't Starve Together :) But we are happy that we finally have enough time to cook, watch movies, and spend all the time with our dog Rūkas. He couldn't be happier!
17points

#14

Due to this corona crisis me and my boyfriend cannot see each other for idk how long. 2 months, maybe 3? Our situation is a bit complicated, so let me first explain that. We're both students, he lives in Belgium with his parents, I am Dutch but study in Belgium. Normally we see each other ~ twice a week, it's about an hour from my dorm to his parents' place. When the crisis hit we figured it would be most rational to both stay at our parents' and maybe see each other once every couple of weeks. My dorm is only 20 square metres so quarantaining together over there would probably drive us crazy very quickly. However, Belgium closed its borders, which means we cannot see each other until they open back up (earliest would be April 18). Luckily we're used to not seeing each other often, from the time I was still studying in the Netherlands. Tho 2 months has never happened before. It's been two weeks now and it's hard every day. We video call whenever we can, we send pics and we chat a lot but it's ofc not the same as physically being together. We try to focus our attention to our studies to make sure we don't have resits and can spend the entire summer together. Our trip in June probably won't be possible sadly :( We will struggle through it all, I can't wait for this crisis to be over.
I'm sorry for any grammar/spelling errors, English isn't my first language
16points

#15

My husband is at sea. He's captain of an offshore vessel. We have 2 small kids who miss him a lot. His shift ended 2 weeks ago, but there won't be any crew changes until all of this will be over. (until company can guarantee safe travel)
So I have no idea when we will see him again.
(video) calls go through very poor satellite connection.
So please, all of you: stay home, follow the rules! The better we do this, the sooner travel bans can be lifted. I want him to come home
16points

#16

I miss school. I know that sound horrifying but I love learning and I get really bored at home. Can’t go out with friends and other family. I am happy that my sisters gf is staying with us though. Surround yourself with love everyone. Stay home. Stay safe.
13points

#17

We did struggle at first. I think because the two weeks prior to the quarantine had me under stress from about 5 different directions, and without realizing it I had been getting irritable. But the two of us have always been strong communicators and when he told me this, I believed him and made changes. I am being very mindful to spend time with him. This will become more difficult very soon as he is moving to night shifts at his essential job in order to be around his co-workers less. Our plan is for him to sleep while I work from home, and I will sleep while he is at work. That still gives us a decent amount of time which we can use to work out, do things that relax us, and work on projects / housework / etc, sometimes together and sometimes apart. It's different, and even for two introverts it's hard to be cooped up non-stop for so long, but I think we'll get through it.
11points

#18

Life is still pretty much the same for us. Married 10 years, he is active duty military, so it's work as usual for him. The weird thing is, we were forced to move across the country the day before the quarantine hit. So getting the house set up, (movers, utilities, internet, meeting neighbors, getting groceries) has made us a little tense. We will be OK tho. We have survived multiple deployments and he takes good care of me (I'm immuno-comp). Prayers to everyone out there.
10points

#19

I'm one of those introverts who is supposed to be enjoying this, according to contemporary humor.
I suffer from maladaptive daydreaming and the last few weeks have been spent a lot in lala land.
Cuddling is important in these trying times and I do it with my daydreaming and a pillow.
Read the Alchemist by Paolo Coelho and I try to devine what my Personal Legend might be. I do indeed believe, as the novel claims, that the Universe will conspire to make that happen.
9points

#20

it didn't affect much. him and i were already long distance, but we are getting together next weekend! 6 feet apart, yes, but it's better than nothing, right?!
8points
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