Whenever I have a guest over, I go the extra mile to make them feel welcome. Or, well, a bit annoyed because I can take hospitality to a whole other level of irritating with how often I ask them if they’d like a snack or a drink or anything else. There’s nothing that I wouldn’t do for my guest. The harsh truth is, however, not all guests deserve this privilege.
People have been opening up online about the very worst, most horrifying, and downright disrespectful things that guests have done in their homes and Bored Panda has collected their tales to serve as a warning for you. Some of these guests are so jaw-droppingly weird and darn rude that you might even be grateful for social distancing. Upvote the ones that made you go ‘wtf’ as you scroll down.
The scariest part? Some of us have been in similar situations. I know I have. But let’s focus on you, dear Pandas. If you’re up for sharing, let us know all about the rudest guests you’ve ever had over.
#1
One of my ex’s d**che buddies brought over this horrible girl he just started dating. I have a good amount of cats, and they are all insanely friendly. My old man kitty, Buddy, jumped up on the armrest of the couch she was sitting on to check out the newcomer and get some pets. Without missing a beat she shoved him hard to the floor and made a loud “UCK!” sound.
I stood right up, pointed to the door, and sternly said, “He lives here. You don’t. Leave.” Probably not as bad as most here, but it infuriated me. She was never allowed back.
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593points
#2
He let my new very old, very deaf foster dog out of the gate on purpose and the dog took off up the street. He just stood there smirking while I grabbed my shoes and keys and after i shouted at him for being a moron, he told me that it was for the best and maybe I should focus my time on other things. I eventually caught up to the terrified and exhausted dog and brought her back home. Told guest to pack his bags and gtfo.
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406points
#3
Throw my dog in the pool when I wasn't around because he thought it would be funny. He got a punch in the face and shove towards the door, nobody messes with my baby
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373points
Any good homeowner will want their guests to feel right at home. It’s the reason why we rush to do the dishes, vacuum the floor, and tidy everything up before someone comes over: we want to make a good impression and for others to relax.
However, no matter how tidy your home, how wide your smile, and how delicious the homecooked dinner you spent hours slaving over the stove on, this won’t magically turn nightmare guests into cordial companions. It’s not about you—it’s about them... and their issues, ill manners, and inability to find the line between being quirky and being disrespectful.
#4
He let my indoor cat out while I was at work. When I was upset, searching, putting up fliers and going door to door he (legitimately) tried to comfort me by saying my cat likely got eaten by coyotes already... so why look? Cat never came back... still hurts.
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351points
#5
Someone at a party dumped a cup of vodka in my fish tank because "your fish look bored! hahaha!" ... I kicked everyone out and had to change out all the water before they died.
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328points
#6
I used to host extravagant yearly parties at my house as a thank you to everyone who worked for me. Significant others were fine, but I stressed that young kids were not welcome, because it was an adult party and the house/garden just weren’t child-friendly.
One of the guests who's a mother decided to bring her 4 children anyway, all under the age of 12, and leave them completely unattended. I walked into my master bedroom halfway through to find they had filled a dirt hole in the garden with water from a hose, made goopy mud pies, stomped around in them, come back inside and crawled into my bed under the covers, and ground their shoes intentionally into my pillow and all the bedding.
They also took all the clothes out of my closet, put them on, threw them on the floor and stepped on those, and ruined two rugs on the way.
The mom's response: "Haha! Well, that's just how kids are, you know. You'll understand once you decide to finally grow up and have some."
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307points
What makes a good guest? You might as well ask what makes a good person. They’ll be kind and thoughtful. Someone who’s a good conversationalist without hogging the limelight. An individual who appreciates you for inviting them into your home (they have that in common with vampires). Somebody who genuinely wants to do the dishes after dinner (even though we’ll politely say that it’s fine and that we’ll do it instead).
What makes a bad guest? Boundaries—or rather the lack of them. Bad guests are those who are completely unaware of social boundaries, so they trample all over politeness and tap dance over your feelings. However, others aren’t so naive: they know where the boundaries are, they just don’t care.
#7
We(family and I) were going on a trip and we told a family friend he could crash at our house while we gone but he would have to take care of things and pay for his own food and such. Halfway throughour trip we get a call from the police. Apparently he threw a huge party which trashed the house, then proceeded to take one of our cars and drive it through the front of the house, totalling the car and collapsing most of the front wall.
This was last week. We had to cut our trip short and come home to deal with this. We are currently in the process of pressing charges.
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275points
#8
Lost my friend of 30 years over this: He brings a woman over for a small get-together. She encourages my pregnant wife to drink, asks our friend if she's bisexual (she's not). She comes into the kitchen, grabs knives and pretends to stab everyone while doing knife katas.
Later she chases the not bisexual friend all over the house in... a very predatory [manner] - I physically stop her by grabbing her wrists and say, "What the hell is going on with you?" She replies, "Go ahead, break my wrists."
The not bisexual friend (who was so upset she took a self-defense course) made up an excuse to stay in the bathroom for an hour. We had a fire outside where the weird guest remarked, "There are three things you can watch forever, a river flowing, fire burning, and someone being hurt."
My friend of 30 years saw no problem with any of this behavior, married her, and I've not heard from him in a year nor do I wish to. I saw him in the supermarket with his now pregnant wife - and slipped out. I assume at some point she will murder him.
273points
#9
Dyed her hair red in our bathroom sink - staining the brand new granite countertop, then dripped onto the new tile floor, then dripped onto the hardwood floor in the hallway, and ultimately slept in our guest bed with wet, freshly dyed red hair, staining the sheets and pillowcase.
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242points
In fact, knowing that you’re doing something wrong is somehow even worse than being ignorant of how to behave in civilized company in the first place. The latter can be taught, but the former… well, it’s no longer a question of education but one of changing oneself. And that’s much harder to do than acknowledging that you didn’t know something.
#10
My father-in-law is unfortunately an a**hole who happened to stay at my home once. My significant other and I cooked dinner (it was something with a tomato sauce) and after a dinner full of father-in-law making racist, sexist, bigoted a**hole statements, we went to clean up.
The kitchen sink and dishwasher are maybe 10 feet from where he is sitting. I was taking my plate to the sink while making eye contact with and talking to my SO (i.e. not looking at father-in-law). He apparently held out his plate full of tomato sauce for me to take to the sink right there and I didn't notice.
After I didn't take it, his response was to flip the plate upside down onto the white carpet. He didn't apologize or say "oops" or try to clean it up. His response was to cross his arms over his fat body and frown. He has not been invited back since, although whenever we're frustrated we now say, "f**k it, plate flip."
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225points
#11
Friends of a relative stayed the night at our place with their kids while we were out of town. We asked if the children wet the bed so we could put plastic sheets down. They were confident the kids wouldn't wet the bed so we let it be. We come home to find 2 of the beds (new matresses) soaked in pee - not even stripped or changed. The kids had wet the bed in the night, moved to another bed and wet again. 3 weeks later we found used diapers under one of the beds. Never said thank you, never said sorry.
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201points
#12
My ex had a party with a bunch of her co-workers and the next morning all of my koi were floating at the top of the pond. No idea what they did, but they're d***s.
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185points
Some people simply relish causing chaos, bringing disorder, and stirring up mayhem wherever they go. So if you find yourself with an unwanted guest who is raising your blood-pressure way above what’s healthy, there are several strategies that you can rely on.
#13
Brother made copies of my house keys, came into my house when I was visiting our dad in the nursing home, dug through our unborn daughter's crib to find my safe, broke into the safe, stole ALL of my dad's oxycontin, then proceeded to blame my 8 month pregnant wife, saying that she took 70 80MG oxycontins without me noticing....
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178points
#14
Had a party when I was about 15, more jelly and ice cream than shots and going wild as we were fairly sheltered. Somebody brought along their friend, who looked a similar age to us (quite short) but he was actually 23 at the time. He brought along a bottle of vodka and proceeded to drink 3/4 of it within a couple of hours, we're talking 7pm here. Nobody else at the party was drinking at all, just chilling and playing MTG. He proceeded to ignore the two different bathrooms and went into the kitchen, where my parents were trying to avoid cramping my style, and vomited into the kitchen sink all over the plates, and then left without saying anything or helping to clean up.
The following day, he went on facebook and made a number of very cruel personal comments about me, and then when I rang him in tears to tell him to take it down and that he should apologise for the mess he'd made of the kitchen (which I'd had to clean up) he recorded the conversation, uploaded it to youtube and then made great efforts to distribute it on reddit and across facebook. No idea why his embarrassment at being a drunken a** evolved into being a bully, but it's been 10 years and I still avoid him if I bump into him in the street. Psycho creep.
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161points
#15
I had a friend who had some kind of f***ed up urethra. It made him have multiple streams when he peed. But he f***ing REFUSED to sit down and pee, because 'that's for women'. He apparently also refused to clean up after himself.
Everytime he left my house, without fail, I'd have to use a mop to clean up his pee. I called him out on it, and he laughed like I should be laughing with him. We weren't friends long.
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159points
The first method is arguably the easiest: you grit your teeth, wait out the horrible night, and then proceed to never ever ever ever invite them over again. You could say it’s the most zen tactic that proves you’re patient and know not to get yourself worked up over what are ultimately tiny problems. On the flip side, it’s very passive, avoids conflict, and ensures that the rude guest may never learn that they’re behaving in a horrible way.
#16
Had a friend come over for a weekend thing to celebrate my 6th month of sobriety.
He brought his girlfriend, who brought her cocker spaniel. Who proceeded to s**t on my couch, and not a solid s**t either. I'm talking that thick, cake batter diarrhea they get from cheap off-brand dog food and she just looked at me, pinching her nose and said snottily, “Aren't you going to like clean that up.”
My friend looked at her [like] she just had a xenomorph chest burster live up to its name right there in the room, got up, grabbed some paper towels, and cleaned it while apologizing to me repeatedly.
He dumped her the next day because the same thing happened at his parents' house. She was a b***h.
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154points
#17
My father-in-law refuses to close the shower curtain and floods our bathroom every day, every visit. We even bought and installed a curved shower rod to give him more room (although the tub is not small nor is he overly large). Lost my cool aboot it and now my mother-in-law camps by the door to clean up the mess immediately after he showers so she can pretend he closes it now. WTF.
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151points
#18
Peed in my husband's brand new gaming/computer chair because he was too enthralled in the game he was playing to get up. He didn't tell us either.... Figured it out after he left.
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147points
Secondly, you can go for the ‘subtle’ approach. Dropping hints that it’s time for your guests to leave. ‘The Week’ writes that turning up the lights and shutting off the music is a sneaky suggestion that the show’s over and that it’s time to pack up and leave (perhaps to never return? We’ll see). Meanwhile, TKC suggests that you start literally tidying up.
#19
My sister and one of her friends were over. Her friend had brought her kid. He was about 7. We left him watching TV in the living room while we had coffee in the other room. Later that evening, I sat on the couch and smelled something absolutely disgusting. I looked behind the couch (it was one of those curved ones that goes into a corner and leaves a nook behind it) and saw a huge pile of diarrhea. It had already fused with the carpet. I had to cut the entire corner of carpet away while wearing a dust mask sprayed with cologne.
134points
#20
Roommate's boyfriend comes over drunk. Roommate was not there but he said he wanted to wait for her, and we were too non-confrontational to make him leave. After a while, he goes into the bathroom and we can hear lots of splashing around, but again, too timid to ask wtf is going on in there. He comes out, sits down, and we notice his arms are completely covered in black marker. Then he says "you might want to clean up the bathroom. there is water all over in there." and leaves.
He had taken a f***ing black sharpie, colored his arms, then tried cleaning it off and when it wouldn't come off he got the marker wet and splashed black sharpie water all over the entire bathroom. There were puddles of purple sharpie water all over the floor. It stained the linoleum and, despite our roommate's attempts to clean it up, we ended up losing security deposit money over it.
He was no longer allowed over without her there.
121points