To understand the world of online dating better and to learn how to determine whether somebody on Tinder is genuine, we reached out to the founder of The Modern Man, relationship expert Dan Bacon.
According to him, online and traditional dating are both fundamentally different ball games, texting is easy but can deceive us, and while it’s important to be playful and attention-grabbing on Tinder, it shouldn’t be overdone as it “can come across as try-hard or desperate, which results in rejection just like in real-life interactions.” You’ll find his insights below, so be sure to read on.
Navigating Beyond Funny Tinder Messages
If you want to find out whether somebody is telling the truth and generally being genuine on apps like Tinder, then it’s vital that you don't just stick to chatting via text. “Get to a phone call, or video call as quickly as possible, so you can actually get a feel for each other and see if you click.”
“At the very least, send voice texts back and forth so you can determine each other’s level of interest, as well as personality type and temperament,” relationship expert Dan explained that you should put in the extra effort and go for various different types of interactions.
And while just texting back and forth can seem like a fun and easy way to communicate, it can be deceiving. As a result, this can lead to someone’s feelings getting hurt because they’ve interpreted their potential partner’s words or emojis in a way that’s far too removed from reality.
“A man might send a woman a text and she then replies with a laughing emoji, with tears of laughter. He thinks he’s doing well, but in reality, she is rolling her eyes and thinking that his joke was lame. He might then continue using that type of humor and causing a disconnect between himself and her,” Dan said. He reiterated that phone calls, video calls, or even those humble things we call voice texts can be a way to solve this conundrum.
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Dating Platforms Increase Women’s Standards for Men
“Online dating is more superficial and based on appearances compared to real-world interactions, which is more about how both people feel when interacting with each other in person,” the founder of The Modern Man put it bluntly.
What’s more, online dating completely changes the ‘positions of power’ that men and women are in. In short, the relationship expert noted that online dating seems to favor women while traditional dating favors men. Dan said that when it comes to Tinder and similar apps, women are ‘in the position of power’ because of the large amount of attention they’re getting from many men who want to be their match. According to him, this can then lead to women ‘significantly’ increasing their standards.
“A woman who would normally accept an average, confident, good guy in real life, will often have very high standards and only accept very good-looking men on Tinder, or online dating. This results in millions of average-looking men wasting their time trying to match up with women who just aren't going to give them a chance. It also results in some women being able to date very good-looking men who normally wouldn’t be interested,” he said.
