Hey Pandas, What Is An Immediate Red Flag For You On A First Date? (Closed)

If they are rude to people around them, Service staff like waiters/waitresses. It’s a good indication of how you’ll be treated if in a relationship with them. And it’s not nice, that too.

If they don't like pets of any kind

If all their ex's are crazy

Phone obsession. Absolute red flag. If someone can't leave their phone alone long enough to engage in a conversation then that's it, I'm out

If they're rude to the waiter.

When they only want to talk about themselves, no matter the topic

When they ask you how much $ you make.

If they become abusive/rude when drunk.

they ask what my astrology sign is right away

If they message you before the date asking for petrol money (money for "gas") or airtime (money to make their cellphone work). It means they're a catfish.

If they are a loud chewer

Treating the staff reall crummy. How you act with staff & animals is who you are on the inside.

If they try to murder me, I pretty much decide that a relationship isn't going to work between us.

When they act as if they've already figured you out although everything is just based on assumptions. And when you correct them they ignore it. So: When they act as if they know you better than you yourself do.

Having taught Conscious Dating Practices for 34 years here are my Top Ten:
Inability to listen with care
They will not reveal their true intentions (often fear being honest about wanting a committed partnership)
They get critical about who you are
They demonstrate any for of unkindness
They do not know what they want and need in a relationship! (This means they will practice with your heart!)
They lie
They will not introduce you to their family or friends
Their own life is a mess (how can they take care of YOU?)
They do not love themselves
They are wounded from the past and refuse to seek help!

they try to police my speech. i admit it, i curse a lot jus in ordinary convos. went out with this one guy who would say "language, young lady" every time i did. first of all, i was in my 40s at the time. second of all, bruh...i'm sure y'all can imagine what happened after the third or so time he did it: YUP, i lit his a** up and left in the middle of the meal. LMAO (this is why i always drive myself to dates.)

If they move in too quick. You know, like trying to have sex already.

A guy picked me up to go out for a drink once and berated me about not having my license (nevermind I'd just come home from living abroad and travelling for ten years so I had bigger fish to fry, thanks). He even said 'we will have to fix that'

His politics didn't align with mine either and was a wexiter (Albertan separatist), drank way too much, kept texting his ex all night, and invited his female friend on the second date we went on.

Spoiler alert: his friend was actually the best part of the date hahahaha

If they spend the first date whingeing and whining about everything and blaming others-one first date of mine spent the evening complaining about how hard accountancy exams were and the questions were ambiguous and it wasn't his fault that he didn't pass 1st time. And then he made non-stop complaints about the restaurant, the food, the waitress, the lack of availability of car parking nearby, the menu choices available, the people on the table next to us who were talking too much (not too loud, but they were having a normal two way reciprocal conversation, not listening to one person's diatribe). He was so negative and joyless it was depressing to listen to.

Talking about how much they hated their ex.