Hey Pandas With A Disability Or Disorder, What’s The Worst Thing Someone Has Said To You About It? (Closed)

So, I have ADHD & anxiety, and I'm only 12, so I have a list.

- Stop faking it.
- You don't need that to focus! Just try harder! (I need to have something to fidget with to stay focused)
- Can't you just, like, hold it in or something? (I have tics from it)
- Girl's don't have that.
- You're just asking for attention.
- Stop being lazy and do something.
- Just speak up! It's not that hard.
- Why are you so quiet all the time? You should change. (sorry Karen, but it's not that easy)
- Why must you be like this? Just be like everyone else and you'll be fine.

"I don't care what happened in Iraq, you're just not as funny as you used to be."

I have severe depression and i am on medication. An (ex)-friend said to me that i don't need the meds, I just need to stop whining and being depressed and I need to be strong.

After breast cancer treatment including a mastectomy and a 9hr reconstruction surgery a colleague said to me “well at least you didn’t have to have major surgery”
No, sure, I just had part of me amputated & another part of my body moved to replace it.

Not sure if this counts but I have Cystic Fibrosis (An inherited life-threatening disorder that damages the lungs and digestive system) and the worst thing someone told me is hard to just tell so I gotta give the context
so it was winter right so the air was super cold, and my lungs are very sensitive to cold air even though i love it so i cant breathe outside when its cold and it hurts my lungs really bad and my throat gets all scratchy and raw (like when you run for too long, just without the running part)
And i was outside at school with my friends and i was breathing very heavily trying to get oxygen and i was kinda dizzy because it was hard and my friends looked at me and said "are you okay?" thinking maybe i would throw up or something, i said "yeah im fine its just cold out" and they were confused and were like "...so?" i said "... so... i have a lung disease....? can't breathe...?" and they were like "stop it, you're not going to get pity, just suck it up its not that bad, you're just super out of shape" haha yeah well easy for them to say with their perfect lung function and healthyness. but i went home and cried because that hurt me really bad now I'm super self-conscious about how heavy im breathing because i don't want people to think i'm out of shape or weak or anything.

"You don't know what stress is" when I told someone I was stressed out during exams at school...

My kidneys were failing, I might have had to start dialysis soon*, I was going through puberty, was being bullied at school, my grandad had just died, and was being emotionally/mentally abused and neglected at home. Oh, and I have a disability from birth which makes every step painful. So yeah, no stress there.

That's just one example. I'm in such a better place now thankfully!! But here's an nice one (note, my physical disability makes me walk weird) - Random little boy saw me and asked "why's she walking like that" and his mum said "that's just how she walks" and he just said okay and went on his merry way. Shared a smile with the mum. A+ interaction, would normalise again

*which terrified me as, aside from me being needle-phobic, can cause heart attacks if you're really unlucky.

I have a disorder called Trichotillomania, where I will start pulling my hair off without even noticing and without feeling any pain. My family laughs at me and keeps saying that I will be Mr. Clean forever. It's not my fault I have this disorder.

I have AD/HD, diagnosed as a kid in the 80s when the concept was new and we didn’t know much about it.

As a child:
1. You’re so lazy/stupid/weird.
2. Girls don’t have that.
3. To my mom: We don’t have programs for girls with AD/HD. (Her answer: You do now.)
4. There’s no such thing.

As an adult:
1. Why can’t you pay more attention to detail?
2. Don’t we ALL have AD/HD?
3. You just need to focus/try harder.
4. Why do you have so much stuff at your desk?
5. There’s no such thing.
6. Regarding my reasonable accommodations for color-coded office supplies: You sure do like your pens/post-it’s/file folders.

I have vitiligo I’ve had vitiligo sense I was a small child which caused me to have anxiety and periods of depression

As a child people would say:

Ew why do you look like that (kid at school
You just got vitiligo to get attention ( 5th grade kid
Stop faking it your ruining everything (ex friend
(Kid at park) What’s wrong with that kid (mom) I don’t know keep walking
( I made cookies for the teachers and kids at school when it was my b-day) ew no I don’t want to eat that(kid
You can’t play with us you’ll make us look like you! (Kid
Nobody would want to marry you! Your ugly (kid
Can you wear clothes that cover your skin? Your distracting the other kids(teacher

They would never play with me, give me Valentine’s Day cards I would make cards for everybody, they bullied me, the teachers didn’t even take me seriously! They thought I was stupid.

Things they would say to me as a adult:

Hey uggo! Go f**k yourself! (Drunk guy
(Looks at lady with child) stay away from me and my child you monster!
(Bumps into Karen) ew don’t touch me I’ll call the police!
(At the cashier) what’s wrong with your face!
Why would she do that to herself ya she looks so weird (coworkers)
Can you just stop!? ( coworker)
Your so selfish! Faking your skin thing and faking depression you ruin everything!

*sigh* there’s more (I’m also still hurt about the cookie thing I worked hard on those cookies and nobody ate them 😢) Now that I think about everything that happened I feel sad cheer me up?

I have an anxiety disorder and when I told my friend she started laughing and acted like I made it up to get out of class. She said that she wished that she had an anxiety disorder so she could get out of class too. Little did she know, her comment made me have really bad social anxiety that I still have. Now I never talk about my feelings because I am scared that they will have a similar reaction as her.

I had CRPS at 16. The nurse told my mom I shouldn’t hurt that much and I should be in a mental hospital. Friend said my life must be a living hell and I must feel guilty about my kids when I started using a wheelchair and had to quit my business.

I thought I was partially deaf but all this time I've just not been "trying hard enough"???

I am a bisexual female who suffers from severe depression, and anxiety. I have thought about suicide many times but never commited. I suppose that is obvious. I told my (ex) best friend I was contemplating suicide and she said "I know a nice knife shop. Or if you want to do it the old fashioned way I have some sturdy rope." I was horrified. I ran away crying and got her expelled.

i have adhd and someone once said to me
"maybe if you werent a disgrace to god, you wouldn't have trouble focusing. "
i asked to sit away from that person for the rest of the school year.

I have severe allergic asthma and have accommodations at work. I had someone tell me that it must be nice to leave whenever I don’t feel like working. I was aghast- I would not wish this on my worst enemy. How would you like to walk into a new place and not know if you can breathe? Or just stop being able to breathe for no real apparent reason? And then have to always, always, always have access to your inhalers and nebulizer at a second’s notice. And then have to know where the closest hospital is in case you cannot catch your breath. And the money spent on inhalers and various other things to keep me breathing is ridiculous (I’m in the US). Also, having to watch what I eat- if I eat a lot of dairy, I have issues with congestion. Same with a lot of carbohydrates. Asthma sucks.

Hi everyone! I am 14 years old fyi. I was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes since I was 4. And also have celiac desease. But anyways, to control my blood sugar levels I have to wear two pumps on my arms. And people can be very judgmental. I have been called "cyborg" or " having ugly arms"(because my pumps are visable on my arms) or even "unnatural" just for having to wear medical pumps, checking all of my food for being gluten free and counting all if my carbs and having to take breaks when my sugar becomes low as I could pass out or die if it gets too low or too high. Also people automatically assume things like me not being able to eat sugar. That is totally not true, so i have to explain to those who care what this desease actually is. Anyways, I hope you have an amazing day! And dw there are a bunch of supportive people I surround myself with! All my friends are super understanding so I am all good! Anyways, thanks for reading! Sorry that my answer was so long.

I found out I had a bone disease at 34 called Avascular Necrosis. I had two hip replacements at 36. I had to have reconstruction surgery on my hip muscles and IT bands at 41. At 42, I work on the 5th floor of a 6 story building and due to Covid, the elevator is reserved for people who have disabilities. I take the elevator. While waiting for the elevator, I had a coworker ask me if my disability was being fat or being lazy. While in the elevator, I've had a different coworker tell me he faked an ankle injury to ride in the elevator, then he asked me what I was faking. I can't tell you how many times I have been told how lucky I am to ride in the elevator. My standard response is "I had four surgeries on my legs and have two hip implants with 6 screws. I've had to relearn how to walk 4 times over now. Yep, I'm super lucky..."

Severe depression here. I was told:
I should just get a job since I apparently have too much free time that I use for whining (I'm a freelancer);
I should think of others more, I'm too selfish;
I should think of all that is well in my life and don't be so pessimistic.

Bi-polar disorder. I was told that I should plan my "mental health" days in advance and that it was not a valid excuse for calling out of work. I replied that I didn't have a choice, the police officer that escorted me to the emergency room due to a suicide attempt said that if I refused to comply with him he would have to restrain me and I could be arrested. My "mental health" days are often medical emergencies. Rapid cycling is no joke. You are just incapable of rational decision making and you don't have a lot of control.

Hello, borderline ADHD/ADD here. Biro female as well.

Just so you know, I am 13 (will be 13 in 33 days) and in 8th grade.

Once, an ex-friend told me that ADHD wasn't real and that I was just "weird" and that's why i "had no friends". I put shaving cream in his gym clothes.

My teachers have told me this as well, all through fifth grade my school didn't have a very good understanding of gifted kids until me and 6/7 other kiddos came along. Constant scrutinization. It was so bad I took to hiding under the tables. This small-ass 10 y.o. hiding under her chair.

Tried coming out to my fam, decided to scope it out first, my mum is borderline homophobic and my dad is just-no.

So...yeah.