Hey Pandas, Which Things Do You Think Today's Parents Must Know? (Closed)

Let them know that parents make mistakes and apologize when you're wrong. Always listen and investigate even the smallest complaints they make, especially about school. Let them know their concerns are valid

Coming from a child therapist: If you are bringing your kid to therapy so they can be "fixed", 9.9/10 times nothing will get better unless you go to therapy as well. If a kid is misbehaving, you have to learn different ways to handle it, because right now your way clearly isn't working.

Your kids are not as important or innocent as you think they are. So stop shoving them down the world's throat. And it's OK if your kids get their feelings hurt from time to time. It's called life experience so stop trying to force this fairytale life on them that doesn't exist. That's how they grow up to become active shooters.

They should know we are young, Young people don't understand their parents as much.Parents should think like us that way we will agree more with the .

Educate yourself. My wife and I went to birthing classes, and the Early Childhood Family Education classes after our children were born. One of my first take-aways was that we will become our parents and raise our children as we were raised, warts and dimples, unless we make the time and effort to learn an alternative way.

It's okay not to have it all together. Also, don't invalidate their feelings. Just because your life is hard doesn't mean their lives are a piece of cake. Finally, please don't hide things. It just makes it worse when we find out.

A kid is never too young to come out IF they know what they’re talking about.
For example, if your 14-year-old comes out as trans, and knows exactly what they’re talking about, they are most likely trans.
However, if they came out as pangender but did NOT know what it meant, they are probably not pangender.
I have always felt dysphoric because I was dismissed as “too young” to come out.
Most kids get a general sense of their gender around 3, but might not have the words to explain it until much later. Science also backs this up.

Create a tradition! We have a few, but here is an example of one. It's really simple, we make pancakes every Saturday. 😋
It can be something that happens every week, months or once a year. They just love it

i can't pause the frickin game, mom! it's online!

Listen to your kids. Don't just brush them off all the time, because they probably have important things to tell you. Don't make assumptions and listen to their side. Not everything they say is to be rude or to talk back. From a teenage perspective, we almost never "talk back" with rude intentions, it's just that y'all adults never want to listen to anything that might contradict you in any way.

never make fun of issues they have. if they go through sh or an ed, those issues shouldn't ever be the butt of your jokes. it hurts, it sucks and it makes us feel us if our problems are just silly little jokes to everyone else.

I believe there r too many labels or theories on parenting. I believe the best bet is not to label anything and just deal with it as it comes along. I have read a lot of posts about bullying. When I was you I was bullied a lot, I entered high school at 4’11” tall and 95lbs soaking wet, it was not until my junior year in high school where I really started to grow. At the end of my sophomore year I was 5’ 5”, and maybe 110 to 115 lbs. Fortunately, I took after my mother’s side of the family and at the beginning of my junior year I was 5’ 9” tall and 145 lbs, by the end of my junior year I was 5’ 10 1/2 “ tall and 152 lbs, by the time I graduated high school I hit 6’ tall, and 160 lbs, I made it to 6’ 1” tall and 165 lbs by the time I reached college. By the end of my junior year people knew better than to pick on me. When my oldest son reached third grade it seemed things were flipped around, though he was both bigger and heavier than the 3 kids who picked on him. He did not really fight back. This usually happed on the school bus on the ride home. I talked to the bus driver several times as did my wife and he did nothing. We called the bus company and they did nothing. We talked to the school principal and she did nothing. Unbeknownst to them I had enrolled my son in Tae Keon Do and in 4th grade these kids kept picking on him. One thing I noted is if martial arts is taught properly it teaches kids to be respectful and no to start fights. Well, maybe this just makes me an a-hole but I would the same thing again. I have 3 sons in total, my oldest 2 younger brothers. We knew my oldest sons 4th grade teacher, she had a son the same age as my middle son. At the open house, she always asked if there was something going on she should know about. To her surprise and my wife’s I told her about my oldest boy being bullied. I then stunned the 2 of them as I informed them I had spoke with oldest son and gave him explicit instructions. My instructions were simple and direct if any of these 3 boys touches you again. You r to beat the living hell of them to the point if they ever thought about hitting you again they knew they would pay a heavy price with the worst beating they could imagine. I also gave him specific instructions if he started the fight he would be punished, I wasn’t sure how but I never hit any of my kids so he knew it wasn’t that type of punishment. However, if the started with them I specifically told him to beat the hell out of them, and not only would I not punish him but I would reward him and take him for ice cream, and I knew and intended him hat if there was anyone to take the blame it would be me and not him. I also informed the teacher my so had just received is dark blue belt and he was to use everything at his disposal. Well, it apparently scared the hell out of the teacher and she investigated the matter, she found out who the 3 boys were, 2 of them lost there recess for 3 weeks and one was expelled for a week. She informed the principal who finally got a backbone and she called the 3 sets of parents, one father called me and he was scared. He noted my son was twice the size of his son, and he knew my son was starting to build some significant skills in Tae Kwon Doe, apparently his son threw a punch at my son who caught his punch and threw it back at him, with his son falling down backwards on the bus. The father of course did not believe his son was one of the boys attacking my son. So, he said let me call you back, which he did. He profusely apologized for his son’s behavior and told his son and said to me his son would not be allowed to hang out with the 2 other boys, and if son started anything he would be punished, he also noted if his son did start a fight with my boy his son would get the hell beaten out of him. I assured him my son would not start the fight my son had explicit instructions from me to really teach him a lesson he would not forget. Nothing else happened my son was left alone, and yes I still took him out for ice cream not because he beat anyone up but because he stood up for himself. I know probably many of you do not agree with this approach but I would do the exact same thing again. My boys r all grown now and well adjusted. They don’t start fights. Respect everyone. All 3 did well in college, have a good amount of friends including girl friends. All have good jobs. I attribute a good dose of this came from their martial arts teachers, most of whom were in college themselves, and helped mentor them to be respectful and tolerant.

how to raise them with morals and ethics. that discipline or saying no doesn't make you a bad parent.

Get off your mobile phone and talk to your kids - especially when picking them up from school. I see it all the time & the child is so wanting the parents attention; bursting with excitement about something they want to tell them.
Ask them about their day. Chat about things you see on the way home.
Looking at social media or texting your friend isn’t more important than your child. If it’s not a really important phone call - get them to phone you back later.

well, first of all, your kids dont choose their sexuality.

like, if they come out as gay, for example, there is no reason to get mad at them. sometimes you cant control your feelings or the gender ur attracted to!

second, dont be as strict on checking web history. true, you have the right to make sure your kid isnt up to anything bad; but maybe enabling safesearch, safekids, or kiddle (all those are search engines you can enable that dont contain any age-inappropriate results) just to make sure your kid doesnt, like, get into trouble or something idk.

third, enable screen time on your kid's device. once your kid learns not to spend their full time on devices and learns to spend time sensibly and actually get things done and be productive, you may either increase the time or you can just remove it altogether.

fourth, enable downtime on your kid's device, too. using screens at night before sleep is not good. personally, as a kid i had a downtime from 6 a.m to 7:30 on weekdays, (screen time was one hour on safari and one hour on the rest), and on weekends 12 p.m to 2 p.m (one hour on safari, half an hour on the rest) and i had pretty much learnt to be satisfied with the time and used it responsibly all the time (okay fine, most of the time).

and i think thats pretty much all i can think of. good luck to all and have a great day!

Stranger abductions are no more common now than they were in the 50's and 60's, when kids were less supervised. Over 90% of missing children are runaways. Most abducted children were taken by non-custodial parents. If you don't have any custody issues or extremely alienated teenagers, don't worry so much and over-control your kids. That said, the most frequent instance where stranger abduction DOES occur is on the way to and from school. We were required by the adults to walk to school in groups even in the 60's, although probably more for traffic reasons than fear of being kidnapped..