Hey Pandas, so this might be a bit of a tough one, but have you ever had that moment where you suddenly realized… you were actually the problem? Maybe it was in a friendship, a relationship, or even just something small, but it hit you later on. When did that realization happen for you?
#1
When I worked out that I have ADHD. In my defence it wasn't 100% me, but my neurodivergence definitely made me a target.
11points
#2
After a traumatic childbirth and then 6 straight days of zero sleep, I lost my mind and shook my baby when she wouldn't stop crying in the middle of the night. That was the point when I realised I was not coping. Went to the dr the next morning and he told me to put her on forumla milk immediately and prescribed me with some heavy meds.
After a lot of time and care I got back to feeling myself.
And my daughter is now a happy, healthy, thriving 13 year old who I love to pieces and would do anything to protect.
After a lot of time and care I got back to feeling myself.
And my daughter is now a happy, healthy, thriving 13 year old who I love to pieces and would do anything to protect.
7points
#3
When my family made it clear I was of no value
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5points
#4
When my boss gave me a verbal warning and explained that next time it would be a written warning and after that I would be fired. Gave me the kick in the pants I needed to pull myself together. Still took years to get diagnosed with autism which helped me understand how much of an a**hole I was and why. I am constantly amazed that people I was friends with then are still friends with me today.
4points
#5
When I was the one bringing consciousness and healing practices to my toxic family members, who ultimately did not want to heal, get unstuck or evolve. I was the one wanting this, doing the shadow work. It was my values and practices and not theirs. So I had to get outta-the-way and leave them be in their narcissism, jealousy, suffering and pains. I was the problem for them. Parents are gone and haven't seen them for close to 20 years. Youngest of four. Very happy as each year passes. We all are not here to be or stay connected to the family we were born into. Many are about teaching what we need to learn for why we are here. I chose to teach conscious relationship practices to those who seek that emotional freedom and depth of love. 36 years and running...
4points
#6
When I would notice other people at work got along better with each other, but everyone has a problem with me. I can't quite always pinpoint exactly what it is. I have been told by a friend I have a dry sense of humor. Apparently my tone is a problem, even when I speak to people normally. I can be expressive, as I see other people be. I'm not sure why it's okay for some people to be expressive, joke around, be themselves, but people don't like it when I be myself.
I can be anxious and panicked when given a lot of tasks at once or when being rushed. When I call out other people for being rude, they don't like it and deny they are being rude.
When I started just being more quiet, letting people be impatient while I safely do my job and just not talk unless I'm spoken to is when I started getting told I'm doing better as a person.
Which I find is oppressing. But I just do my job and believe that I'm a problem to everyone. If I lay low and be compliant I'm safe and everyone is happy. Sort of.
I can be anxious and panicked when given a lot of tasks at once or when being rushed. When I call out other people for being rude, they don't like it and deny they are being rude.
When I started just being more quiet, letting people be impatient while I safely do my job and just not talk unless I'm spoken to is when I started getting told I'm doing better as a person.
Which I find is oppressing. But I just do my job and believe that I'm a problem to everyone. If I lay low and be compliant I'm safe and everyone is happy. Sort of.
2points
#7
Basically any time I have cancelled plans.
0points
#8
It's usually because of body dysmorphia or stress.
0points