Hey Pandas, What's The Worst Thing A Parent Has Ever Said To You? (Closed)

My step father went to jail for molesting me. My mother, shortly before I went into foster care, told me I was the reason she lost the best thing that ever happened to her. Yes, she was referring to my step father.

Maybe we’d be better off if you succeeded in killing yourself- my drunken abusive no longer step-dad

When I was about 8 years old my family (mom, dad, 4 older siblings and I) went to family counseling and the counselor told me that me because my dad was an alcoholic while my mom was pregnant with me that I was destined to be an alcoholic too. That really messed me up, so badly that even the smell of beer makes me physically ill to this day (at age 49). When I was about 30 or so, I finally got the courage to tell my mom how much this whole counseling experience messed me up and that I think about it a lot and it still bothers me. She asked me why I couldn't just shut up and be grateful because apparently the counseling worked because it kept me from becoming an alcoholic. Definitely the last time I tried to talk about my feelings and how the past has affected me...

It's about what he didn't say. My dad called my sister and brother creative, athletic, intelligent, cheerful, courageous, etc. He couldn't find anything good to say about me.

"Now you've got them doing it too!" This was said by my mom after my brother and sister freaked out about a bug. I have panic attacks because of multilegged things so somehow it's my fault they got scared. Either when I was blamed for their divorce or when they said nothing and walked away

"You're a manipulative piece of s**t" - My Mother.

"Go to hell" - STEPmom and dad

"Your words don't matter if I can't hear them." - My mother.

I have a pretty soft voice IRL, and she said this as I was trying to show her something that I made for her.

Oh where do I start?
"You have wasted potential, it's horrible how you just became a waste even after all our hard work." -Dad
"I used to pray to god I wouldn't kill you, or abuse you. Now I wish I had killed you." -Mom
"You're failing because you're just some dumb bitch, huh? Is that right, you dumb bitch?" -Brother
And at many points have they disregarded my sexuality and denied me of my name and proper pronouns- because they don't wanna have me getting a new name and have them change it again. Sorry, my gender is confusing to me and until I find a good name, you gotta suck it.
"Suck it up. You just have *lists one of my mental disorders* as an attention getter." -All of my family at some point.
I'm hoping to live with my uncle or grandma this summer....

“That’s the most selfish thing to do” after I told my mom that I wanted to commit suicide. She went on to tell how selfish that would be and started yelling at me for thinking that. And then said “people have it so much worse than you” instead of reassuring me not to do it. So if you see this and you are also struggling just hold on a little harder for your friends that love you. Any of the pets you have if you have them. And for everything that life has for you in the future.

called me the "N" word
ow that hurt mom/dad

"You've gotten fat since you quit, huh." - My mom, after I quit boxing in middle school. I wasn't fat, I just wasn't ripped anymore. I went back to boxing after that (her goal) and I can trace my eating disorder directly to that comment.

Age 9 - My father flipped a penny back into the room at me after he'd done what he wanted and walked away laughing.

After 42- 3 months after my husband had a major heart attack and bypass surgery and I wouldn't do something she wanted me to do for her "Boohoohoo, my husband had a heart attack and I can't" in the voice you probably read that in.

when I was 8(I am 17 now), my father, who is no longer in my life and has not been for 4 years, told me that "all woman grow up to be a b*tch, including you." Let's just say that was an awful thing to say, and that's not the worst thing he did.

Once I picked out an outfit I thought looked cute in 6th grade (cant remember exactly what outfit) and I felt so confident because it was something new, when I usually wore darker colors, this outfit was COLORFUL, so I came downstairs and my mom took one look at me and said something along the lines of "why do you look homeless in everything you wear" and that scarred me, I immediately went upstairs and changed my clothes back to darker colors, put a hoodie on, and hid my hair and boom thats how you get self esteem issues kids, if you're a mom please don't tell your kid they look bad in something. It hurts.

Not what they said, but what they didn't. I've never heard either tell me they are proud of me, and there were a few times when I was younger, I would get worked up and say things such as: "I'm sorry I'm such a disappointment." Not once would they even reply, or bring it up again.

"you're the reason that I'm dying of cancer"
- my mum (March 17, 2011)

"You are not adopted"

me and my mom dont always get along so we were arguing over god knows what and i have to admit i really pissed her off so i told her that she only cares about herself (i actually kinda meant it tbh) so she told me that i have an ugly face so i told her that i can photoshop and ugly face but not an ugly peronality like hers. she was lost for words.

Age 10, first Thanksgiving with my step-family. I had been playing with all the step-cousins around front but went to the kitchen to get something to drink. I walk in on my dad telling my step-uncle how perfect my step-sister is — smart, studious, athletic, obedient, ladylike, etc. Then he said I was just the opposite — obstinate, willful, lazy, a waste of talent, etc. I started crying and ran back out front to my step-cousins. My dad chased after me, grabbed me, slapped me and said, “what did you expect me to do - lie?” He kept slapping me until I stopped crying. None of the other adults intervened. Everyone went to sit down for dinner after as of nothing happened and I was just left standing there by myself.