Hey Pandas, What's The Rudest Thing You've Been Asked About? (Closed)

I am a single mom of 4. I get asked way too often “do they all have the same dad?” I find it completely inappropriate. They do, my soon to be ex husband, but why people think it’s any of their business is beyond me.

“Are you sure about that?” for a bit of context, I had told my friend that this joke was not funny. This was two months ago. Now it’s all she says to me.

“Are your parents disappointed that you were the one who survived?”

Context. I was discussing with a co-worker family histories one day and my friend commented on the fact that she had had a miscarriage early in her married life. This led to me revealing that my Mum had four miscarriages before she had me (all were late term) and that as an only child I often wondered what it would be like to have siblings.

Another co-worker, whom I wasn’t exactly a fan of to start with, pipes up from their desk “Are your parents disappointed you were the one that survived?”

My friend and I stopped… dumbfounded. I didn’t know what to say. I made my excuses and went back to work… after my brain caught up with me, I realised just how angry I was.

I put in a formal complaint and the co-worker was moved to another section two days later (my friend had also apparently made a complaint)

LMAO the rudest huh? welp prolly someone (jokeingly) asking me if I’m a man bc I have a moustashe

I was s summer volunteer (to satisfy community service requirements at school) throughout high school. The first year there, a male resident asked me how old I was, and I responded "15", as I was at the time. His next (rhetorical) question (read in the voice of Dale from King of the Hill): "that's about when yeh start growin' yer bewbies, right?"

“How much did that cost you?” Pointing to my (adopted in China baby) “Did ya get a deal cuz she came from China?” Adoption is a valid method of building a family. After bunches of local fosters were not ultimately adoptable (reunification is always the goal) we decided to adopt in China. The socio-political situation made it about more than just give the family money to raise their own child. We decided that adoption was our choice… I knew we could love any child not just bio so 3 children later…. But the intrusive questions never end. I particularly like “Are you going to tell them they’re adopted?” Well for one me and DH are white and all three children are Chinese, 2. Two of them were old enough to “consent” ages 4 and 6 so yea… they know! Our first child was an infant but she’s known since day one… of her birth and subsequent adoption. Honestly there are so many great reasons to adopt… we just didn’t consider conception and birth!!!

When's the baby due?

Nope...no baby. Just my fat gut. Although I did put on the weight the last time I was pregnant.

I think people assume I'm pregnant because, even though I'm overweight, I inherited my mothers skinny legs. Sometimes I feel like a camel...except the hump shifted....

You're an atheist? So you worship satan? What do you worship? Are there churches for that around here?
Apparently not believing in any deity is impossible to wrap your mind around for some.

You're still single? No ex husband? No kids? Aw I'm so sorry for you, I'm sure it'll happen.
You know what? I've seen all of you get married straight out of high school or college, I've seen how many are divorced or miserable by your late 20's. I want kids, but that hasn't worked out, so thank you for the salt in that wound.

And of course all of the rude questions related to just being a woman.

You WILL change your mind/ regret not having children. No, I will not. I’ve had a baby sibling and nephews (including twins) and great nephew, since I was 12 (now 38). I have done plenty of child rearing in my time. Enough to know I never want my own.

Could you shave your mustache and grow some boobs? I was 14 at the time.

I don’t have the best health (mainly lung issues) and I get pneumonia a lot. One time I was out for a few weeks with pneumonia in fifth grade and a lot of people asked my twin sister if I had died. Not offensive for me, but probably scary for my sister

What caused my miscarriage

“What do you think IT is? Do you think IT is a boy or a girl?” Yes, they were talking specifically about me. And oh BOY did I make it everyone’s problem.

“Why would you pretend to have arthritis? Everyone knows only old people get that (for context, I spent a month completely unable to move without help, because of the pain. I woke up crying, went to sleep crying, couldn’t sit up, climb stairs, shower, or wipe my f*king a$$ by myself).”

“Do you wish you had friends?” Shortly followed by, “oh then you don’t have autism.”

Not a question, but got told once that the girls sexually harassing me ‘meant it in a good way.”

I took my daughter to a Father/Daughter dance (now they call them Sweetheart dances and it isn’t just for fathers and daughters.) I was one of about 5 women there, there were hundreds of men there w their daughters. I don’t think one person alive really needs to ask why but, her dad is a piece of s***. That being said…another woman was there intruding on her daughters time with her father…that I knew all through middle school and highschool but barely spoke to her after walked right up to us and asked both of us “So where’s Richie?” My daughter was embarrassed enough as it is that people were staring at me from the second we walked in. You’re really gonna poke that soft spot on a child!?

I remember one time I was asked if I had COVID at school, because I was coughing. Like dude, COVID would make you not go to school.

If I have a f*****g c**k. I don't! so stop asking! How many times do I have to say it?!

“Did you lose weight or something?” Needless to say that gave me an eating disorder that is slowly getting worse.

I am scared of dogs. It is a crippling fear that makes everyday a potential stressful situation. Its like being scared of pidgens, dogs are everywhere! I get these a lot;

"Why are you scared of dogs, they are so cute?"
"Its only a puppy!"

The anti-Christ is also a baby but i think i'd be pretty scared around him too.

I am also half spanish- half scottish. Browse these:

"Why are you so hairy?" Dude Im Hispanic.
"You arent really scottish, your name doesnt begin with Mc/You dont have an accent." MC Hammer isn't scottish, but look at his name.

I postscript on the dog thing; I know a lot of BP users adore dogs, but please be sensitive around dogphobics. We have to live our lives in constant fear, and people can make us feel pretty rubbish!!! Peace!

I was asked if “Bertha” is my real name or just a nickname. I was named after my mother’s sister who died of leukemia at age 16. In 1936. My mom’s beloved big sister. “Bertha” is considered a weird and/or ugly name.

Guy at my lunch table asked me if I was gay…told him I was and that I was Pansexual Nonbianary.
He asked me what that meant and I told him that it meant that I loved someone regardless of their gender and I don’t have a gender…..told me immediately that I f***ed animals and p***s and asked if I liked pans.
He is just one of the MANY reasons I think I’m lesbian
Sorry not sorry that I’m gay :)