Hey Pandas, What's The Rudest Thing You've Been Asked About? (Closed)

"Are you just faking your stutter for attention?"

Jared, would I be faking my stutter because I want to have a hard time existing in a society?

Never, ever, ever, under ANY circumstances ask a woman if she is pregnant, even if she looks to be. There are many illnesses that cause abdominal swelling that resembles a pregnant belly and a lot of times, those illness are accompanied by infertility. (Think uterine/ovarian cancer, for example.) It is incredibly painful when you want to have a baby but can't and then people ask you if you are pregnant or when your due date is or ask to rub your belly.

Why aernt you married yet? Why dont you have any kids?... Because I f****n dont want to okay! Jesus Murphy!

i’ve been asked abt my genitals OVER and OVER again. i’m a trans man, so it makes me really uncomfortable T-T
my fellow pandas, please never ask about other peoples pants things whether they are trans or not it’s SO creepy

I'm half-Indian.
I've been asked if I "speak Indian" WHICH ISN'T EVEN A LANGUAGE!

And apparently when I was really little, my mom (who is White) was asked "Aw, she's so cute, where did you get her from?" Like what the heck!?

As a blind woman I have been asked many rude questions. One of the most rude things that people do to me is to speak to whoever I am with as though I am not capable of speaking for myself. For instance, if I am at a restaurant with my mom, sometimes the server may ask her what I would like to eat, instead of asking me directly. People also tend to ask me stupid questions like how many fingers they are holding up or whether or not, I know sign language.

Not that I've had to hear it for a long time but, as I'm asexual, I've always had lots of very close female friends, and so I have always had to put up with the whole " you must be gay", thing from pretty well every fkn guy I meet..... Cause, for some stupid reason, if a female friend comes up to me and gives me a kiss and a hug, or sits in my lap,and it's not sexual,somehow that means I must be gay!! Used to drive me nuts.....so, the rudest question I've had to tolerate is " Are you gay?" ( or more offensive variations!!!)

"Are you a Devil Worshiper?" This was asked when a friend of mine and I were discussing a weekly role playing game we play with other friends when our mutual boss decided to be snarky. I replied with "Yes we are and we're having a little get together on Saturday night. You're welcome to come. You are a virgin, right?"

All of the 'oh so you're a girl who thinks she's a boy' or 'you're actually a girl tho right' like no. Just cause I don't have a d**k doesn't mean I'm not more of a man than you could ever be

As a lesbian, I got asked asked how I had s*x often, like the mechanics of it. Even once by a doctor who was a family friend during a doctor's appt. I explained to him it was the same stuff as hetero s*x without the male organ (usually) and he seemed very confused. I had to explain to a middle aged married man whom I'd known since I was a fetus that sex didn't entirely revolve around the D. He was embarrassed and I was embarrassed for him. Never went back to him.

I was the first girl in my class to need a bra, about 5th grade. I used to get asked/accused of stuffing my bra. One kid said he knew I did because sometime they looked bigger. I asked him to tell me which shirts made them look smaller and I would wear them more. I also asked him why I would do something that got me teased. He didn't have an answer, and did back off teasing me after that.

I was off work due to a terrible accident. Since it was an unusual one, it took the work insurance ~6 months to decide to start paying me so they owed me a lot. By that time, I had maximized my credit card to replace my salary. When I went to the bank to cash the payment, it's a new cashier and she's really young but my favorite was not too far. I sign and give the cheque to the new one and asked if the money will be frozen because I need the money right away. It was close to $10K CAD and she asked me why I needed all that money. OMG. I got red in the face; I was furious. I was sputtering stuff like it wasn't any of her business when my favorite cashier came over and asked what was wrong. After I explained she took over and told the girl to just go sit in the lunchroom and wait for her. She apologized and that was that. PS My cheque wasn't frozen so I was able to put the money on my credit card.

Two things:

Firstly I have agoraphobia and I really, really don’t like loud noises. When I say this, I don’t mean it just annoys me when I’m in crowds or experiencing loud noises. My head starts to hurt, I start to feel dizzy, and occasionally I have vomited from the stress. Fortunately, I have a friend who understands me so well, that she will always help me in these kind of situations and look after me and calm me down. But every so often, I come across an absolute git who asks me if I’m faking it, or if me and that friend are in a relationship. 😤 Firstly, mind your own business. Secondly, why the hell would I be faking it?? To get attention?? Because, believe me, I am the kind of person who doesn’t want any attention at all.

Second thing: I’m Asexual, and every so often I get some troglodyte who asks rude questions about it. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m always happy to answer questions about anyone who’s confused about my sexuality, because some people may find it confusing. But here’s a tip: ask NICELY. Some people ask: are you sure you’re asexual?! Do you seriously never want to be in a relationship?? That’s just weird. Is that a mental illness? 😑 and I once told one friend, I’m asexual, and he’s just like, ‘OMG, shut up!! We’re in public…’ like r u kidding me?!

A few days ago a colleague, who has absolutely zero filter or empathy, and knows I have a degenerative condition affecting my nervous system, asked me out of the random blue, “So, think you will you be able to still walk in 15 years?” I said “No, because chances are I’ll die before that.” What an utter twat. Said coworker also asks about my finances and why I’m so poor and can’t travel or buy a house (they’re privileged: parents pay for everything!) and I want to scream, “It’s called living with an expensive disability and having to pay for everything since I was 15, you f***ing a*s!”

I have been asked more than once by complete strangers if I have children. When I say "no" the follow up question is always "Is that by choice?" I got sick of it and once responded "Why? Are you writing my f**#ing biography?" The woman looked shocked and told me I didn't need to be so rude. I told her she started the rude rodeo by asking such a personal question of a complete stranger. That shut her up.

Do you really want this baby? I was pregnant after ten years of infertility and treatmens. Had severe Hyperemesis Gravidarum and was admitted for IV as I vomited until I was close a kidney failure. Nurse was totally convinced I puked to be obnoxious beacuse if you vomit as pregnant it is because you dont want the baby. I reported her and transfered to another hospital.

When I had my fifth child I was asked if they all had the same father.....from a lady behind a counter who only ever served me groceries.
My reply "does it matter?"
No it does not.
(But for the sake of this post - they do have the same father).

My fiance passed away very tragically one year ago, just a month before our wedding. We were building a house and planning a family. I had his friends wife ask me last week, genuinely, whether I have been dating recently.

TRIGGER WARNING

"how deep are ur s-h scars?"

dearest person,
1- it's none of your business
2- how am i supposed to know
3-why do you care so much

idk if it's suitable for this post, but it just pissed me off a LOT

mind your business, please.

When it once came up (I don't remember the context, but everyone was fine so far, I'm general fine telling about my condition) that I have a genetic illness that causes painful & tiring symptoms, one of my colleagues grimaced, leaned way away from me, and asked if it was contagious. And I had literally JUST used the word 'genetic'!

Alternatively, I once got asked by a little kid, with great confusion, if I was a boy or a girl. I'm nonbinary and tend to present like your average butch lesbian. I asked in return why it mattered. Kid's eyes got real big and looked like I'd just blown their mind, lol