Hey Pandas, What's The Most Hurtful Thing You've Accidentally Overheard About Yourself? (Closed)

At my now ex-brother in laws engagement party, mother in law's bestie had no idea who I was or that I had been living with my now ex bf for nine years. The look on her face was priceless, made me angry though. For the 15 yrs. we ended up being together, he barely worked or walked the dogs. F***** him and his mommy darling.

That I look 58 or in my forties when I am 28

"That girl's grandfather" - I am in my 40s.

In primary school
Buncha kids who hated me, mostly girls
Over heard one pf them saying they would rather me be six foot under than standing in front of them
We moved away but that s**t hurt

TL;DR I moved into a new area and a bunch of people spread rumors about me so a church leader thought she needed to straighten me out and then 6 months later a friend spreads rumors about me resulting in me having a name for myself only 9 months into an area.

I had church leader go on a rant to my face in which she called me a horrible person without saying it. She said she wanted to make sure I "didn't lose friends." I had only moved in recently so I didn't have friends. She went off on me for rumors that she didn't bother checking the truth. Now yes I had said some offensive things but I tried to apologize each time I realized I hurt someone's feelings, but there were things she brought up that were utter lies. Now I don't like hurting others and feel devastated when I learn I hurt someone, but I'm frank and I really have been working on not offending people so learning people thought I was this terrible person felt horrible. To this day my sister who saw 30 seconds of the encounter is scared of that lady. I felt like a terrible person and almost stopped talking entirely (I was an extreme extrovert before). Then what hurt almost as bad was people said they liked the new me and I felt even worse. I am better 6 months later I talk like an extrovert (with a better filter) but some days now I just don't feel like talking randomly so I don't. I am trying to improve so no one can blame me of what she blamed me of without being entirely wrong, but I'm grateful that I have the ability to improve.
Also my friend who knows that I went through some stuff at the start of the school year and that plenty of rumors about me already circulate thought after I said I saw us as friends not more, that it would be great to start spreading rumors that me and another friend were being romantic behind her back. (I may be the only guy in a friend group, but I see them all as friends)
Because of the two things above and other people hating me when I first moved here some people at school who don't know me think I am horrible person and have a crush on half the girls in the school🤦🏼‍♂️. It has been interesting, I'll introduce myself to other people and sometimes people tell me that I have crazy rumors and laugh about them then others just start looking at me weird(honestly this helps me determine if I want to be friends with someone or not). (No I'm not popular but some people in school say I am)
P.S. Sending love to those who posted here and everyone who's to shy to share. Everyone has their struggles and I hope you get through yours❤️.

“Your ugly,” and “slow poke.” I know it isn’t as bad as the rest but these were said straight to my face.

When I was in middle school (more than 45 years ago), I was in a school play as part of a chorus. A kid next to me said to the kid on the other side of him - change places with me, this kid stinks. That hurt my feelings - could have been my singing, or costume or how I took it - smell. Not devastating but hurtful nonetheless.

I live in subsidized housing, there are about 60-70 other apartments. One of my neighbors recently sexually assaulted me (I asked him to leave so I could pass out, as I'd been drinking. He didn't leave and I woke up to him groping me). Out of embarrassment and shame, I haven't told most ppl here. That neighbor was charged with lewd& lacivious conduct, a restraining order was issued. Other neighbors have come to me, to say that this pervert is spreading rumors about me; that I'm just a s**t, that he had done sex acts with me prior to this incident, that I have an std, and that I drink and drug while my young son is home (he was not home when I was assaulted).
The detective says to keep a journal and document it, to tell the court how badly this has ruined my life. But nobody will stop him from slandering me to all of my neighbors!
As an added bonus, the neighbor that I'd had a crush on, now refuses to talk to me because I didn't instantly call the police about these rumors.

People say I'm racist because I either ignore or tell off the boys who bully me. Most of them are just tanned; the one who started the rumor is black. People, I don't care about your race. But I'm not dealing with you being a jerk to me for every day for four years.

TL;DR I moved into a new area and a bunch of people spread rumors about me so a church leader thought she needed to straighten me out and then 6 months later a friend spreads rumors about me resulting in me having a name for myself only 9 months into an area.

I had church leader go on a rant to my face in which she called me a horrible person without saying it. She said she wanted to make sure I "didn't lose friends." I had only moved in recently so I didn't have friends. She went off on me for rumors that she didn't bother checking the truth. Now yes I had said some offensive things but I tried to apologize each time I realized I hurt someone's feelings, but there were things she brought up that were utter lies. Now I don't like hurting others and feel devastated when I learn I hurt someone, but I'm frank and I really have been working on not offending people so learning people thought I was this terrible person felt horrible. To this day my sister who saw 30 seconds of the encounter is scared of that lady. I felt like a terrible person and almost stopped talking entirely (I was an extreme extrovert before). Then what hurt almost as bad was people said they liked the new me and I felt even worse. I am better 6 months later I talk like an extrovert (with a better filter) but some days now I just don't feel like talking randomly so I don't. I am trying to improve so no one can blame me of what she blamed me of without being entirely wrong, but I'm grateful that I have the ability to improve.
Also my friend who knows that I went through some stuff at the start of the school year and that plenty of rumors about me already circulate thought after I said I saw us as friends not more, that it would be great to start spreading rumors that me and another friend were being romantic behind her back. (I may be the only guy in a friend group, but I see them all as friends)
Because of the two things above and other people hating me when I first moved here some people at school who don't know me think I am horrible person and have a crush on half the girls in the school🤦🏼‍♂️. It has been interesting, I'll introduce myself to other people and sometimes people tell me that I have crazy rumors and laugh about them then others just start looking at me weird(honestly this helps me determine if I want to be friends with someone or not). (No I'm not popular but some people in school say I am)
P.S. Sending love to those who posted here and everyone who's to shy to share. Everyone has their struggles and I hope you get through yours❤️.