Hey Pandas, What’s One Piece Of Advice Everyone Gives That’s Actually Terrible?

All the advice that tells you to excuse a partner’s toxic behavior — even if it’s because of childhood trauma — is mostly nonsense. In most cases, those “reasons” are just excuses for crappy behavior. And if it is really about trauma, it’s up to that person to want to heal. You can support them, be empathetic, and walk beside them… but you can’t save an idiot who doesn’t want to change