Hey Pandas, What Was The Last Straw That Caused You To Block Someone?

Oh boy! I had a friend Scott who seemed like a cool guy. We messaged through Quora and didn’t talk much but he seemed nice. I later got a friend Axel who I REALLY vibe with. One day Axel is telling me about this weirdo who was sending him some really weird messages (like nsfw messages). We were talking about it and at some point he said the weirdo’s name was Scott.

Me: “Wait… Scott (last name)?!”

Axel: “Yeah! How did you know?”

Me: “Holy shít…”

Long story short I messaged him VERY ANGRY. He acted all confused to what I was talking about until I sent him the screenshots of his convo with Axel (Axel had sent me the screenshots prior). We didn’t really argue, just agree to stop being friends. Bullet dodged.

My little brother would spam me with memes, gifs, and random texts/emojis when he knew I was trying to fall asleep. I still talk to him in real life… but he is blocked.

It must have been about 2 years ago now. I fell in love with a girl. For the story we'll just call her E. Anyway as I am (I don't really have a social filter) I just outright told her about my feelings. E was fine with it and even encouraged it. Over 6 months it grew and grew. In that time I gave her special attention, helped her with her problems, confronted people that were hostile to her and played games with her even sharing my favourites with her, made her gifts and a bit more. I got very little back in return but love is blind. So long as I was with E I was fine

After about 6 months into a sort of relationship I invited another friend of mine (We'll call her K) into the friend group both me and E were in. At first the two got along but then K posted some artwork she did and was proud of and E over criticized it in a really hurtful way. Nothing constructive at all and K flipped at her. The two got into a huge arguement that when I saw it, I got in the middle of it and broke it up. I did manage to convince E to apologise to her many days later of negotiation. But things began to change. E then invited her "boyfriend" to the group, one I had no knowledge about until he appeared. So me and him didn't really get on. And as E and K's rivalry grew, K left the friendship group as E began to hit on a guy that wasn't me or her boyfriend. And this third guy was gay to the point he had absolutely no interest in her

Eventually my feelings got a little too hurt and I confronted her about her boyfriend and hitting on the third guy while she was with me. I got told I was abusive, a creep and a sexually driven pervert for wanting attention and a little bit of respect from her and then she told all that to the rest of the friendship group. Everyone believed her immediately and I felt betrayed not to mention heartbroken. I left the friendship group to and decided to focus my efforts on going after K to see if she was alright. I blocked E right there and then. Good riddance

A few months after that and me and K were starting to get into a bit of a closer relationship. Not really boyfriend and girlfriend but just talking I'd say. She treated me with respect, I did all the things for her I did for E and it was going well. However one of K's friends who's name also begins with E so we'll call her E2, didn't like the fact me and K were getting along so well. I started getting some rather threatening DMs from E2 so I tried to talk to her about it. E2 was one of K's closest friends so I didn't want there to be a rift between us or out K in a compromising position. But E2 kept at it and our friendship broke apart. Then K heard about it rather quickly, presumably from E2 and she confronted me about why I was being rude to her friend and acting so nice to her after everything I put her through a few months ago with E. I was shocked to say the least. I tried to explain myself out of the situation but it didn't go down well and she accused me of making too many excuses. She accused me of being a sexually driven creep, emotionally abusive and clingy and then said she never wanted anything to do with me ever again and blocked me. E2 blocked me as well. And most of our mutual friends also stopped talking to me. It was E all over again and I just broke. 2 broken hearts, multiple ruined friendships and my reputation was destroyed. I developed various mental problems such as Psychosis and Suicidal depression and even had a few attempts I couldn't quite go through with and I didn't know why at the time. Eventually I did get other forms of help that have put me on the right path, I got new hobbies that detached me from everything that happened like baking and now I'm seeing someone else. We'll call her O. O is an angel and a sweetie and there isn't anything I wouldn't do for her. However we live far apart so I'm saving up the money to go see her again while I learn to drive

So I've blocked E and K and E2 blocked me. I'm living a new life with O now

(I was in school)

My friend and I were dating when she became a sort of b***h. Like if I got hurt she’d fake being hurt and say I did it for attention and always take my lunch

But then she came out as non binary bc I was I asked why and she called me a fake b***h. I moved and blocked her but she’s still a big jerk

When I put a funny meme on my Facebook about "I hate Mondays" and she commented that a Christian appreciates every single day they are alive. *Eye roll*

There were many years and a long story leading up to this, but the final straw with a trust-fund-baby friend of mine was when she insisted on telling me over and over again about the $12,000 refrigerator she was remodeling her kitchen with, and then complained incessantly when she came to visit because my ice maker didn't work in my ancient old refrigerator that I could not afford even $1200 to replace.

He went down an alt-right rabbithole... but he's south african. In love with ben shapiro, jordan peterson, joe rogan. Those idiots. But worse, also a TERF. Ranting about trans people. Trans people are like 0,2% of the population here. Zero reason to feel threatened by trans. Nope, all angry, wants to talk about it all the f*****g time. He blocked me.

Yelled at me for not buying a video game pass. I blocked her/reported. I even had a new number. A week later I wake up to a call from an unknown number. It's her. She screams at me, saying I should k*ll myself and she hopes I get r*ped. I have been r*ped, plus, she knows I have had attempts on removing myself. She also has hit me many times, and I still have physical scars.

I have blocked people for a lot of reasons, quite a lot of it was because of racism (I'm SEAn), bullying someone, or was known for harassing others. I'm a cosplayer so we get a lot of those.

The most recent was my ex-friends whom I felt uncomfortable because their circle of friends have become toxic and some have been sending death threats to one of my long time friends. One of them messaged me for unfriending them and when I told them why, sent hate messages to me and called me delusional, they also had me ostracized from our cosplay community, because they're well known cosplayers locally they spread around some rumors about me, so I blocked them. I have since quit cosplaying and have been looking for a different hobby just to avoid them.

One of my in-laws. Threatened me with violence because I asked him for a favour. Literally just asked him to house a friend for one night. He has 6 spare bedrooms. Just he lives at the house. Oh, and after threatning me with violence and cursing, etc., and I said "I didn't curse you," went on another rant threatening more violence. Then on top of that, he's a conspiracy nut and regularly sends patronising condescending emails to the rest of the family telling the that they are blind sheeple and can't see the truth etc. Yet apparently I'm the condescending one.

I block people without hesitation. Usually when they start rambling about being antivax, or wishing we just kicked all the foreigners out, or complaining about pronouns, or being terfs, or any of those people who just don't understand we're all trying our best so let's accommodate whatever helps us all get through life with the least amount of stress and hassle. Who needs bigoted idiots in their lives? Into the block list you go, and then eventually out of the gene pool.

She was actually at the capitol insurrection. She posted pictures. Live pictures. Said it was a moving experience and that the news reports were wrong. I was floored, and blocked her ASAP. She kept her idiocy really well hidden, we had no idea.

My mother forgot my son's birthday four years running.

He's five.

And every time she comes to town, we hear about it at the last second if she has spare time around drinking with her friends or needs an errand buddy.

I'm her only child. My son is her grandchild and, except for my gf's son, will be her only grandchild. The lack of care while demanding we drop everything when she comes into town was the last straw on the back of a very overloaded camel

When my former coworker/good friend was going through her 2nd divorce and thought it was her business to give me unsolicited marital advice. She also told everyone I was dirty and unkempt because my political views don’t match hers.

I had a neighbor who was really helpful. He heard me cutting down my dead tree with a chainsaw and came over to help. I cut him out of my life because I made a Facebook post expressing concern and outrage at the distressingly high number of women and girls who are the victim of sexual harassment and assault. I posted it because I have a young daughter. His response was to ask me when I was coming out of the closet.

Years ago, a friend got dumped by his girlfriend because he gave her stolen goods as a present. He began turning her friends against her and gaslighting her about her family issues. When I confronted him over it, he told me he was trying to get her to kill herself, then went on an insane rant about how when he took over the world, I would be first against the wall. He was expelled from our school shortly afterwards. I wish that this were made up, but he was a truly f****d up guy. Hope you got help Dave.

So basically I was on skinseed, and there was this person saying that I make crappy skins, and I should go and uninstall Minecraft, keep in mind I was 8 lol. Then after I tried to block them, they created another account and spread more hate comments, which triggered me. The comments were like “Ew, bet your fam doesn’t love you.” Like come on! It’s just a n app…

Stalked me online and at an event we both went to because he wanted to ask me out, but I have a boyfriend, who he also insulted. He is now blocked, although I unfortunately still see him regularly (he's friends with my brother).

I was born to a very brilliantly attractive, charismatic, intelligent, multi-talented woman who didn't escape her hellish formative years entirely intact. The deal breaker though was that she'd have many opportunities to get the therapy she definately needed, but because she was so successful in her career, she felt this was proof she was fine. This, despite blowing through four marriages and divorces and having a long and colorful history of breaking any laws that stood between her and one of her objectives.

Always a negligent, arbitrary, and yet attention-seeking parent even in the best of times, when I turned fourteen, something snapped and she began seeeing me as her rival in all things, and after a few devasting stunts, she made me homeless. Thereafter, she kept reeling me back in to be her uncompensated personal attendant post-divorces or her full-time uncompesated in-home caregiver through her cancer treatments. During all of this, mom's "thanks" was to sabotage my every means to self-development and self-support. She turned every male of our mutual acquaintance against me; turned any attention given to me onto her alone, and often at my expense, and then it escalated into the downright criminal. The least was identity and assets thefts and frauds and the worst were major Calss A federal felonies. In her mind, all that she hated and rejected about herself, and, all that she wanted and couldn't have, were embodied in me.

I put up with far more than I ever should have for much longer than I should have because I was constantly force-fed the traditional fairytale that one is always obligated to forgive and attend to family even when that family member is literally bent on destroying you. I wanted my mother to love me, and I delusionally believed I could earn a love that never was and never would be available to me. My brother and other male family members would enable and justify mom's abuses of me, well past when these became crimes that should have put mom in a federal pen.

Mom did a lot of really terrible things to me, none of them being something a sane and self-respecting person can forgive. But, like most abuse victims, I had dysfunctional personal boundary issues, and I wasn't aware or self-respecting enough to do what I should have done so many years before. If you stick around, abusers always escalate, and it's you sticking around for more that makes them think you accept this behavior.

In 2008, I survived what should have been a fatal auto accident and after two years of rehabilitative therapies, I was still left with what would be permanent mobility, speech, and metabolic issues. My mother came to my home while I was out of it, and she stole everything out of my home and small business workshop that she could. She then gave away or threw away what she didn't want for herself. I can promise you, this was actually one of the lesser of her crimes against me, but, it was the one that ended us. She died never feeling remorse or regrets for what she'd done to me or anyone else.

When it comes to being abused, you only have two options for self-preservation. Never accept and allow the abusive behavior from the start, or, always go completely no contact once a person is clearly set on being malevolent toward you or toward others. Abuse survivors have boundary issues, which is what makes them vulnerable to being abused. You will need professionally qualified help to recondition your perceptions of your personal boundaries and perceptions. It's rellly, really, worth your investment. Don't let anyone else write or rewrite your narrative.

I block on the first straw. Life is too short to suffer fools.