Hey Pandas, What Stereotype Are You Associated With And How Does This Affect You? (Closed)

I'm a middle-aged, white lesbian from Alabama. I think the various Karen, Becky, Ellen, and Emmylou jokes are hilarious, though. I'll just steal your girlfriend on my way to speak to your manager about how you won't let me fly my Confederate flag at the tent revival. Yeehaw!

My real name is "Karen".

I am comfortable speaking in front of crowds, and good at my job. This can lead people to belive I never doubt myself or feel bad about my self/my abilities. But I do! All the time!

The gays one. Because i'm gay, i'm supposed to go to pride events, or gay places, have a lot of sex, be sassy and funny, go shoping with the gurlzzz, go in night club dancig my A** of etc etc. But i'm the opposite. Introvert, happy with my books and games and never went to a pride event. I get a lot of "you don't seem gay" (wich is a prety rude comment).

I'm blonde just guess (hint im really good at math)

I have a twin and I'm currently one of the newer kids at school, so people get us mixed up, and they often mistake us for being the same person. I also tend to be quiet so almost no one knows who I am, but a lot of people know who my sister is because she is a fun person to be around. so I feel like I live in her shadow

I am a white male in South Africa so I have to be a racist, sexist with a fragile ego and lots of insecurities...

Yes these are comments we hear almost every day

I’m a communist apparently.I’m half Russian and my grandparents left due to the horrible state of the country.stop saying I’m a Russian spy!

I'm gay and trans
There are lots of stereotypes there

The people who know about me being trans ask me when I'm going to start testosterone but they don't understand that I have no interest in getting facial hair or a deeper voice and all that stuff, I want to be androgynous, not masculine, even though I prefer he/him pronouns
Pretty much anyone I've ever talked to knows I'm some type of gay and that means a lot of stereotypes, they'll say:
- "do you hate homophobes" (no. i'm clingy and lots of my old friendgroup and people at my church are homophobic and i still am painfully in love with all of them lmao)
- "im sorry you're broken" (i'm not broken. I'm asexual, it's a valid sexuality. Just because I don't feel any sexual attraction and i don't see the big deal about sex doesn't mean i'm broken?)
there are a lot more but it took me too long to type all of that and i gotta go to school so imma end it there

Gay gay, vaguely masculine and straight acting. Apparently I’m weird because I’ve never tried on women’s clothes, don’t use makeup, hate music by Abba/Queen/Steps/Cher/Kylie and want to crawl into a hole when songs like “It’s Raining Men” and “YMCA” start playing.
Instead, I like beer, gaming and adventure sports. As well as theatre, cooking and travel.
I do not find camp/effeminate guys in any way attractive - I like MEN. And I find young guys wanting to call me “Daddy” creepy as f**k. I’m not yet 40, you little weirdo!

I'm a Russian-American woman who spent a lot of time between both countries.

People make all kinds of offensive assumptions, but it usually goes only one way - Americans negatively stereotyping my Russian culture, as opposed to Russians negatively stereotyping my American culture.

On top of this, I'm blonde and curvy but thin, which leads to a lot of sexual comments which people feel are appropriate. For example - I get asked all the time if I am a spy, and when I joke that I'd be the worst spy ever the next line is - "Oh okay, trophy / mail-in bride then?" I've had several MUCH older men (think 60s) suggestively tell me that they love Russian women and that their ex-wives were Russian. I also get asked a lot of stupid questions, like: "Why did YOU attack Ukraine? You should get your troops out of there." Okay. Sure. I personally will remove my troops.

And of course I get people calling me a communist - my great grandfather was murdered by communists trying to hide a woman who was escaping, but alright. Or people asking me if I love drinking, when drinking is a sore subject for my friends and family due to lives lost from other people drunk driving.

Russia is such a beautiful country full of truly amazing people and I just wish people would take the time to learn about our history and our traditions rather than reducing it all to vodka and Putin jokes. Don't get me wrong - I don't mind the occasional joke and will happily be the bartender at parties, or banter with you on politics - it's just that people know very little about my home country beyond stereotypes.

I have very severe ADHD. People don't seem to believe it's a real disability. And people get angry with me because I can't magically sit down and be productive on something I'm supposed to do, the way other people can. People judge me for having trouble being on time, making small mistakes or clarical errors, working a lot slower than other people. People think that because I am a good conversationalist and that I'm reasonably intelligent, that I can't possibly have a learning disability. I hate when people talk about medicating kids with ADHD as of "parents are just drugging normal active children because they don't want to deal with them." Like if you met an ADHD kid you can tell right away there's something different about them. I hate when people talk about prescription amphetamines as if it's the same thing as meth or a spooky scary street drug. I'm tired of thinking that my struggles aren't real.

I'm also tired of people talking about ADHD as if it's a disease. It's not an I'll was. It's literally how my brain is genetically programmed to be, and outside the context of our fast paced modern world, ADHD isn't always a disability at all. Because of my ADHD I experience the world in a much brighter and more exciting way than other people, I'm creative, intelligent, and can make insights and find connections in ways other people can't. It is not an illness. It's an integral part of who I am as a person, despite the difficulties that come with it. I hate when people talk about it as if it must come from mother's neglecting their health during pregnancy, or it's some disease brought on by pollution.

So it really pisses me off when people say things like "you are more than your ADHD" or "it doesn't define you.". Sorry. All aspects of who I am define me and you cannot be "more than" something that you are. I know this language is supposed to be encouraging but what it really says is "this part of you that makes you who you are is just one little bug, not a feature. We love you but we can agree to hate and dismiss an important aspect of your personality and identity.". It's a nasty back handed compliment.

What really pisses me off is listening to parents of AFHD kids complaining about how their kids are messy and disorganized and irresponsible and insubordinate and whatever other insult we ADHDers hear all the time. I hate when they b*tch and moan about their kids drive them up the wall, and how raising ADHD kids is such a heavy and terrible burden and "why me god?"
ADHDers hear are entire lives over and over again how we are burdens who are unpleasant to be around and often this bullying comes first from our parents. I promise you Karen, being a person with ADHD is way harder than raising a kid with it. At least you get to put the ADHD away when your kid is at school or sleeping. But we have to deal with it all the time. Sorry you didn't get the kid you wanted but you agreed "no returns" when you took that baby home from the hospital.

Sorry. That was a rant. But it just is so tiring and hurtful to hear these things over and over again.

mines not to bad, but i'm a nerd. book nerd, musical nerd, orchestra nerd. i also get pretty high scores on my tests (even before we moved) but people don't mess with me because they know that i can probably knock them out with one of the books i carry around (seriously the last one i read was 845 pages) or kill them with my cello.

I am a middle-aged white Canadian woman. I hate that people assume that because I am a white Canadian that I must have a university education, a car and a house. I was raised working poor. My parents are Canadian but were also rained working poor. We lived pay cheque to pay cheque. I still live this way and have a high school education. I cannot and never could afford a car or a home.
I am looked down on because of this. People think I am a lazy looser. I have always worked but am working poor. There are MANY people ( especially women) who live this way.

Quiet, shy girl. People think I don't want to be friends with them or that I hate them. I don't, I just have really bad anxiety around people

That all autistic people are stupid and I have autism and I find it very very very aggravating to those on the autism spectrum!

People assume that because my face and body are aesthetically pleasing I must not be intelligent. I have been talked down to because I have been thought to be "pretty" since I was a teen, but ironically, I was picked on relentlessly as a child. Like, horrifically bullied. I'm actually a giant know it all because of this and have a MA in Russian and East European studies, speak 3 languages, and had a career in banking for over 20 years. I literally read all the time and consume knowledge as a past time. Think I'm some cute dumb broad who doesn't know about being 4 squared to buy a car? Think again. I feel like I have to always be extra prepared because people assume I'm an idiot based on my looks.

Car sales. I work for a new car dealer, and everyone thinks all of us are shady vultures. Yes, there are some like that, just like there are shady people everywhere. In fact, most new dealers have a lot of training, and the manufacturers have survey's that rate dealers, both sales and service. If the surveys stink, national will be having convos with that dealership, and might even pull it. The dirty little secret is that we want to sell you a car, and we WANT you to be happy, because then we get repeat business and referrals. Yes, we will apply some pressure, subtle and not, we'll use selling skills of persuasion. Just like happens in other businesses. We want to help you. That's why you're there. Let us help you. This isn't the 70's, most are good people.

I’m half French, and people made a lot of jokes like “oui oui baguette frog legs I surrender” but I’ve stopped being bothered by it and now I find them pretty funny.

Being rude & bad at my customer service job because I'm introverted and prefer reading on lunch