Hey Pandas, What Stereotype Are You Associated With And How Does This Affect You? (Closed)

"But you can't be a guy! You wear skirts!!!" (I'm trans)

Well at least I don't go poking my huge, snotty nose in other people's businness. Also I have reasons.

Skirts go whooooosh :D

My daughter requires compassion and safety before all else. She has additional needs (Autism, ADHD, profoundly gifted, etc)

She will change the world one day, meanwhile I am sick of the “helicopter mom” judgement.

I’ll always fight my child because other adults unwittingly/intentionally harm her, not because I am a micromanaging nightmare.

She is adventurous, brave, hilarious, and kind. If the world is blind to see it today, she’ll be even more surprising later.

People think they need to talk to me in a baby voice the second I tell them I’m autistic like bro I could understand you perfectly fine yesterday before you knew I was autistic and you actually treated me like a human being

Many.

I am a migrant so in this country I am seen as inferior, lazy, less intelligent. People assume all the time that we arent educated (like the teachers at the public language school), that we dont want to work, that we are less intelligent (sounding smart in a second language is difficult). I am also spanish so I must be lazy, always late, loud and not reliable. Xenophobia is a huge problem in this regoin of Belgium.

I am also disabled. So a lot the stereotypes mix. Now I can't work or I cant go to school. So now i am the "proof" that all migrants are lazy f***s who dont want to work or integrate. I am also not really ill in the eyes of people. I just need to exercise and be more positive.

I am also white. This means that my struggles are very often dismissed. I have been told by the anti discrimination department that xenophobia is not a thing, that they only persecute racism, religious intolerance, homophobia... As soon as I am white and an atheist anybody can treat me as badly as they want and its fine. I had two public employees yelling at me for making a mistake in their language. One of them took my ID and refused to give it back for a long time and did not fix my bus pass (ironically I had it for the language classes). A social worker that threatebed me with deportation for asking help about my disabilities. A bus driver that woukdnt open the door for 4 bus stops because he was pissed at me for my bad flemish (I just arrived to the country). Two doctors refusing to attend me. Two dog trainers refusing to let me work with them. If I was of another etnicity I would have a legal case against all of them. But since I am a white migrant nobody cares.

The number of times the 'pick-me girl pretending to be bisexual' stereotype has been used on me by random dudes on dating apps is more than I can count. Example: (the fact that I am bi is in my bio) Dude: hey I saw u were bi! Me: yep! Dude: are you sure? Me: yeah? Dude: this d*** can fix that 😎 *sends nude pic*
I usually unmatch them but it drives me crazy, especially because bisexual means that I like both men and women so if he didn't say that I might have given him a shot, and random d***s can trigger my PTSD and give me panic attacks (which lead to asthma attacks which are even worse). I actually ended up deleting all of the apps because it was getting so bad. Why are bi people always seen as faking?

I am a woman and I am successful in my career and bosses respect me because they trust my expertise and like how I do my job. So to men I must be the CEO’s niece, or have deep connections, or I am just a suck up, or anything that excuses my success and their lazy entitled asses getting nowhere. And I am
not the only woman they talk down to no matter how much better at her job she actually is. Sorry, boys, you need to work hard in order to get places, it doesn’t just magically happens just because you feel special and entitled.

I’m missing a few teeth near the back of my mouth on both sides. People assume I’m either a drug addict or I don’t brush my teeth. The truth is I was never taken to the dentist as a kid, I have a genetic condition that makes them weak and a few were knocked out by an abusive ex. The work that needs to be done is way outside of my budget as a single woman, even with dental insurance (yearly limits are pathetically low). Needless to say I get really tired of always hearing, “You should smile more”. Believe me, I’d love to be able to! I’d love to not have the constant reminder of the things my ex did to me.

"Ok...Boomer."

Got called that once by someone created by a Boomer.

My parents were called the "Greatest Generation," they just smiled at that, happy to pay the rent, buy some beer, forget Omaha beach.

My Grandparents were called the "Lost Generation," they just smiled at that, happy after a long boat ride they saw the Statue of Liberty from the NY Harbor waves.

I'm almost 70, I'm called a "Boomer," I smile at that, pay the rent, buy some beer, and remember the moment I saw on an old B/W TV a black man say, "I Have a Dream..."

Yeah, I'm OK with...Boomer.

I'm fat not lazy. Working 70 hours a week in healthcare leaves no time for cooking or the gym.

That because I'm Bi, I'm just confused. That because I would be open to an open relationship, I sleep around and cheat

Apparently, because of my outward appearance, I am privileged. When in actuality, my whole life has been quite traumatic, with moments of severe degradation. Sorry to have to be contrary

Straight white male. The stereotype entails a whole plethora of things that are assumed about me, from my tastes, to what these tastes say about my identity. Sometimes I feel guilty for the things that are assumed, even though I've never lived in a colonist-imperialistic country, and most of the things that belong to the stereotype don't apply to me.

The quiet kid/art kid. people legitimately think I have a hit list.

As a person in my 60's, I am associated with technological illiteracy. I have learned and used at least 28 different software programs for work (gig economy) and school in the past 20 years and I do NOT need a Grandpad or Jitterbug, thank you very much. Just give me a job, instead of deleting my application the second you see what year I first graduated from college. I have not been able to get a real job since my last company went out of business in 2003. Even got another graduate degree, first in my class and was not even offered any interviews. You younger guys will be SHOCKED when you get old and discover how blatant and alienating age discrimination is. I know I was. We are not all rich and conservative; we are not all ANY ONE THING. Those of us who are not wealthy are almost non-persons in this culture.

I’m an Asian woman. People assume I can’t drive or park my car properly.

My brother is mentally disabled. When I was a teenager and told new people about this everyone was like "Oh, I'm sorry to hear" or something.
Luckily this changed when I got older but in this days it was kinda annoying.

Dude, we're not living in constant grief bc off my brother.
Off course things have been hard for my parents, especially in the earlier days when I was to young to remember.
But we all got along with it somehow.
Yes, our family is a little different, but lots of familys are.

I had a great childhood and I love my brother with all my heart. He liked (and likes) to laugh, to help doing chores and lot more.
Disability does not mean unhappiness.

I've been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder, the diagnosis fits but I'm a quiet person that works out her "issues" on herself. I'm also a rape survivor but I've been told by multiple professions that borderliner can't be trusted as a witness. Or that they can't take me on as a patient because we are all too unreliable (took me almost two years to find a therapist, almost 50 kilometers away). My "condition" makes me impossible as a romantic partner or a friend, even though we've never met. Got a single room in a hospital free of charge though (for a surgical procedure) because the admitting nurse was afraid I'd attack and straight up murder a roommate, because when you google "famous people with bpd" serial killers and Adolf Hitler pop up. I swear I'm neither one of them.

I live in the "bible belt" in the US, I must want your unsolicited religious talk.

Or I live in the US, I must be one of those idiotic anti vaxxer, anti masker, trump loving, gun loving, war loving, radical patriotic, intolerant of other cultures American asshole.

I have ADHD, autism, anxiety, am part of the LGBTQ+ community, am a religious minority, am a "gifted kid" and cry easily. People stereotype me as a "special little snowflake". It makes me uncomfortable to have people talk down to me as if I'm in kindergarten. It's so stupid that people think that "Oh-one wrong step and they'll start crying!"

Because I'm overweight, I must be stupid and lazy.

Because I'm a woman, I have to like feminine things.

If I don't want to go out, it's because I'm anti-social.

I'm overweight and have been since my son was born. I've had a hard time dieting because the stress of taking care of a child occupies all my time and attention.

I don't like feminine things because they take too long, like doing make up and hair. Feminine clothes don't look pretty when they are all stained up with sweat and food from trying to get a picky autistic person to eat something, bathe and not trash the house. I'd rather wear T-shirts and leggings because they are more durable.

I don't go out, not because I'm anti-social but because I don't like going out without my husband. Neither of us had a vacation from our son for the first 17 years of his life. And, since I don't get peace and quiet too often, I cherish it when I have it. I don't get that going out with friends. I'd rather stay in for a quiet evening of playing games or watching TV.