Hey Pandas, What Should Guys Do In Public To Help Girls Feel Safer? (Closed)

If a woman comes up to you and requests your assistance, do it! Play along with what she needs, because there's probably a reason she asked.

please do not feel offended if i cross the street, i can't barely see at night and a cute grandma is enough to make me wary, so i'll try to keep as much distance as i can

Leave us alone.

these work for anybody but:

- don't stare. it makes people scared. idk y but everyone always stares at me

- never, ever, touch anyone before knowing them well enough. applies to dogs as well as humans.

- try not to comment on someones physical appearance/body

- know how to have a conversation. its valuable when meeting anyone anywhere.

- never be violent/angry. that should be given, as it puts anyone in an uncomfortable position if they're just meeting you. also it jus be so stressful

- smile, not like a scary clown, just be pleasant

- be responsible

- look nice, be nice, smell nice, self care stuff

- be honest...

- cultivate manners. u don't have to be proper but use a napkin at least

- don't be a flirt jus for fun or toy with anyone, its just mean >:/

- and finally know when a girl says no, it means no, and u need to let it go, need to let it go, nah to the ah to the no no no

don't seem creepy and dont follow us. if we come up to u and pretend to know u, play along cuz it means we r in danger.

The major problem is the law. If a woman is a victim of violent assault, especially sexual assault, it's up to her to prove she said no. It's a big ask. Knife across throat - she didn't say no. If no proof of knife is available she can't defend herself in court.

Please campaign to change law regarding sexual violence that destroys lives. And allows killers to walk. And children to be lost to the care system.

That's what you can do. And you'll be doing it for yourself too. No-one wants to see all men as rapists. Make those people obvious, and we can all walk at night.

Respect boundaries.
If she says no, she means no. If you sit by her, and she scoots away, get up and sit somewhere else. If she keeps nodding and saying "uh huh," she's done talking to you. If she's not responding to flirting, leave her the scud alone.

If we want something, need protection, or are trying to flirt, we will let you know.

If you see something, say something. If you see another guy being a creep, making misogynistic jokes, or harassing/catcalling, call them out.

If you're trying to flirt with a woman and she says she's not interested... she's not interested. That's it. She's not gay (well, she could be! But that's not the point I'm trying to make), she's not a b!tch, she's not a wh0re AND it's not a judgement that you're a bad guy. She may just want to be out with her friends that night, or wants to pick up some milk at the store and not be hit on. You have no idea what she could be going through at that moment. So please, just be kind and back off.

And every guy I hope knows this by now... do not tell us to smile or "You would look so much prettier if you smiled". I don't care if you're Brad Pitt, that NEVER goes over well.

ummmmmm.... i cant think of one. oh wait MAYBE STOP HARASSING US AND STOP FOLLOWING US AROUND EVERYWHERE WE GO

Walk your dog.

sit in between creepy guys and them so they are at a distance.

I am teaching my sons to be aware of the predatory situation women endure every. single. day.
The knowledge will help them be better allies and to keep their eyes out for uncouth behavior.
Every father that respects women should help his sons do the same, IMHO.

Don’t do anything a predator might do. Keep your distance. Ignore women around you. Make noise and carry a light at night when in a space that women would feel vulnerable. Step in if another man is clearly making a woman anxious, even if it means keeping him busy until she’s made her escape. Be a good guy.

Take off your hood if you are walking in the same direction, don't speed up if we notice you are "following" us in fact SLOW DOWN!! We don't want to make eye contact or anything. If we are being hit on and we seem uncomfortable, walk over and act like our best friend and be like "Hey I found some cute pants over here come look!" in the gayest voice or deepest voice so they think the girl is also gay or dating you.

If you are genuinely trying to meet a woman do NOT text her a “D” pic. Don’t constantly talk about sex. Get to know her please?!!!!

If a girl seems anxious or uncomfortable, pay attention to who is around her to gauge who may or may not be the source, rather than focusing on or approaching her. If your Spidey senses start tingling, keep an eye on whoever that may be.

the kind of people that bother me, do not read this.

There are lots of things guys should do in public to make women feel safer.

They should stand up for the woman and ask if they are okay when there is somebody sexually assaulting them. Hell, they should stop sexual assault, period.

Not judge or bully women.

There are abusive boyfriends and parents who are alcoholic and horrible. If a man sees someone abusing another person, the man needs to stand up for that person.

Ask before touching.

Not compliment on women's bodies. People who only like others as crushes for their bodies are called perverts, and are not okay.

Listen to them when they say no. Many men have trouble with taking no for an answer.

If the men are toxic, then they need to leave us the f**k alone.

Thank you for taking the time to reading this post. Stay safe. Be safe.

Take us at our word. Especially if it’s a woman unknown to you. (Also to the minority, stop assaulting, murdering and raping women altogether and we may feel safer altogether. But, women do that too. So just, be decent people.)