Hey Pandas, What Is Your Biggest Pet Peeve As An Lgbtq+ Member? (Closed)

People calling things gay as a joke or insult.

The "I hope you're not attracted to me" move and then getting offended when I say they arent my type.
Bonus: companies during pride only selling rainbow stuff. I'm an emo, I don't wear color unless it's my pride pin. Just because we're queer doesn't mean we dress like jojo siwa

Panromantic Asexual here, and I have just one word I get a LOT of: Erasure.
As an asexual you get a lot of "how do you KNOW you hate sex if you've never had it?" Back up there, I don't hate sex, I hate kissing, sex I can take or leave. I have no sex DRIVE. Hard to get into sex if you're not interested.
As a Panromantic I get, "Are you REALLY? you're not even dating." I'm sorry if my asexual tendencies prioritize friendship over relationship, but I know I'm aesthetically attracted to almost every body type and absolutely every gender or lack thereof, so back off.

Christian nationalists who literally want to exterminate us.

People in school think it's cool to use 'it/that' as my pronouns, since I'm non-binary.
I also can't show any form of affection for my girlfriend in public without being stared at like I'm some sort of alien...

oh boiii there r too many to count but: when ppl say that ppl who are "straight" passing relationships don't belong in the community. bisexuals and pans, omni and poly people have every right to be part of the community.

but also what about straight nonbinary people? or straight transgender couples? or demis?? or aces?? they also have every right to be a part of the lgbtq+ community. this needs to stop being separated like cliques cuz it's not abt putting people in boxes.

When people say I don't look like I'm bisexual or gender fluid

However I love when people genuinely want to know more and I'll do my absolute best to answer their questions.

You're Gay? Cool, so is my cousin twice removed. Do you know them?

just some phrases that we’re all tired of hearing

“i identify as an attack helicopter”
“you’re not a guy/girl if you don’t have a [body part]”
“you can’t just change your gender like that”
“oH So yOu’Re aTtRaCtEd tO PaNs”
“That’s fine, i’m attracted to trans people”
“it’s just a phase, you’ll grow out of it”
and deadnaming and misgendering in general

Hi All, Heterosexual male here. I love and support all my friends in the LGBTQ+ community. That being said, I have a simple request: Please correct me if I use incorrect pronouns. I will always try to identify you as you are. Please know that I love you and respect you. I will support you and fight for you. Happy Pride!

when cant comprehend the fact that lesbians DO NOT like men. even though its part of the definition (non-men who like non-men) ((key word: NON men))

Gay men acting as gatekeepers for our community.

Gay men of a certain age went through a hell I can't even conceive of, but they can be more phobic of others on the sexuality or romance spectrum than religious extremists.

I've witnessed gay men verbally abuse trans people, dismiss bi people and makes jokes at the expense of lesbians in both personal and professional settings. But if they caught a whiff of a dig at what they thought was their direction, I have seen a fury like no other.

Obviously this attitude is due to the trauma they experienced, but there is no excuse for passing that on to the baby queers.

People asking "aren't you asexual?" every time I call someone pretty or attractive.

Stereotypes. From both outside & inside the community. We are all individuals and I wish people would respect that and get to know us for who we are.

I'm a lesbian and my wife and I have a daughter. If you want to see my blood boil just ask who is the "real mom".
We are both her real moms!

I’m omnisexual, but I’ve always dated men only. People like to claim I’m not truly a part of the lgbtq community because of it and it annoys the hell out of me

When people say something homophobic and don't know me and I'm pansexual and am dating someone who's non binary... As getting called a f***t

When people say that Asexual is not a real sexuality.

Being told by my own mum that I'm only trans cuz it's FaShIoNaBlE, and that I'm not transmasc, I'm a trans PERSON. Being told this by a cis person HURTS

"I'm not homophobic! I will love and accept gay people but I don't support their lifestyle!"

Honey, you're homophobic. If you don't support queer people, you're homophobic. If you think that homosexuality is a sin, you're homophobic. It doesn't matter how much you love the individual queer person, if you don't say you support LGBTQ, you're homophobic (and no, it doesn't mean you're afraid).