Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Way You’ve Been Broken Up With? (Closed)

I've never had a break up, so I guess it's the fact that no one wants to date me...

I'd been having a bad day and it was all just like welling up inside and I started crying. Then I heard a text on my phone and saw it was from her. I smiled a little, 'cause I knew she'd make me happy. When I opened it, it said "hey, I'm not gonna be able to talk for a while" so I responded with "oh, is everything okay?" and she said she just needed to focus on school. That's when it clicked with me. "We don't need to break up tho... right?" I asked. I remember my heart racing as she typed the message and those three dots appeared. Finally she said, "idk probably". I was in a really bad place then and I'm never gonna forget the way every ounce of happiness and hope I had in me just kind of rushed out. I felt the slight smile on my face fade back into tears. I'd lost my world. It took me a year to realize she was gone forever. That breakup got me further down than rock bottom. Even with her, I was struggling with depression. But when she left it got worse. I started doing dr gs and drinking, vaping... I was losing myself, too. But, I'm eight months sober now, I have the most amazing girlfriend, who's gotten me through so much, and I'm happier than I've ever been. Rachel was just a chapter of my life. I don't miss her, I miss the idea of her. Truth be told, she wasn't a good person. After we broke up she and I got in some awful fights. I feel terrible about the things I said, but I doubt she has regrets. I'm so glad to be in such a healthier place now.

I got dumped by ringing my fiance one evening - and his wife answered. But I'm not quite sure who dumped who; but I do know he was dumped by his wife :)

I got dumped on my birthday over text but that’s all I’m comfortable saying…

During sex

W had been together for almost 13 years-he decided he'd had enough of LA. We had talked about New Mexico-clean, beautiful, a lot less populated. I had gone ahead as a scout to get housing, work. Everything was coming together-then one day he called and said I don't want an adobe, I don't want New Mexico, and I don't want you-then he hung up. Turns out he fell for his neighbor, 20 years younger, and a widow who had $200,000 in insurance money.

I was the one calling the break up, but I had a valid reason. It was my first relationship, and I was 13. The boy I was dating, roughly a month into our relationship, had told one of my friends that he wanted to take my virginity and was planning to do it soon. As soon as I found out I broke up with him. It broke my heart and my trust, because I had specifically told him I didn't want to have sex until marriage (not a religious thing, just my personal preference), after he asked about my virginity "for his personal knowledge". Should I have stayed with him and seen where it had gone, or did I make the right choice?

One day he told me he was leaving me for his cousin who looks identical to his mother...it all worked out bc I ended up finding the love of my life after that :)

On our anniversery, over text, telling me they still wante to be friends. I didn't really wannna be friends but anything to make them happy. Because I loved being their friend butit was just kind of unpredictable. Anyway few months of talking pass until in february they stop texting me and talking to me. So, I just assume its family issues because that was the excuse they always used. Fasteforward to April. Many times had I thought "I should delete this contact" But didnt incase they were gonna text me. So i send out one hope youre doing ok text and i get one back along the lines of "Sorry i dont want to be friends anymore blah blah blah your bad for my mental helth blah blah blah Im a good person and you're a good person but its not working out. but i can still be friend with our mutual friends but you can't" I sh*t you not they told me i couldnt be frinds with our mutual friends. so of course i didnt do that. and ive been thriving ever since!

He gave me a gorgeous bracelet for my birthday. A week later (and just days before our one year anniversary) he tells me he wants to take a break so he can focus on school. Proceeds to not interact with me at all and talked a lot to one of my best friends (she even came to me about it because she thought it was strange and was a bit uncomfortable.). I ask him about it and he paints himself as a victim and breaks up with me. It's been about a month now and he refuses to speak to me.

through her brother

Well I don’t have a boyfriend but my friend dumped me at my lowest point when I was just super depressed and empty already

I'd only dated twice... and we weren't really able to go out on any dates bc he was 'too busy'. He was embarrassed of me when we were with his friends. On my birthday, he broke up with me. Over text. I was fine with it, ya know. Not really too upset bc we were drifting apart. HOWEVER. We had a lot of classes together, and he would just be a complete a**hole to me. Unprovoked. Luckily, I met my girlfriend a month later, and we've been together for 17 months. But she did move away, we still call each other every morning and evening. When we're able to drive we'll see each other as much as possible. (She lives about 40 mins away, but both of our parents work, and COVID, sooooo)

everytime i've ever been broken up with is over email or text, it sucks and hurts bc the person can't even face me in person to tell me they don't love me anymore

I’d been outed as trans, disowned by my family, and was having a mental breakdown when my girlfriend broke it off. It was probably the best thing that ever happened in that relationship.

I asked a girl if she wanted to go to the school dance with me and she rejected me by saying “ewww no your short!”

A long time ago, my best friend and I got involved in an online relationship with a guy in his 20s; we were 15-16 at the time and didn't know better. First major red flag. The three of us would talk a lot and write and stuff in AIM or whatever chat program was the big thing at the time, and he would almost always turn it sexual. Cybering, dirty jokes, asking for certain pictures... etc. Second major red flag. Eventually it got to a point my friend and I asked him to stop, just for a few days. He agreed, but we didn't talk much for awhile during that timeframe. When that timeframe passed (like a week, I think), he hit me up in a one-one-one coversation because he was "feeling bad" and just wanted someone to talk to. I felt bad for him and we started chatting, and...you can guess where he tried to swing it. Right in the middle of his attempts to make it sexual, I got a private message from my friend asking me if I'd not talk to him anymore. She was my best friend well before I knew this creep, so I told her the truth: he was already messaging me, but if she didn't want me to talk to him because of something he did, then I'd drop his ass like a hot potato.

Well, it turns out he did. He told my best friend that I'd come onto him and asked HIM for sexual things when we had all agreed to lay off it for awhile; I hadn't, of course. She and he talked about some other stuff in that convo, too, and I can't remember exactly how she phrased but it boiled down to him insinuating she was a prude and trying to guilt-trip her into cybering with him, right before he tried to do the same thing to me. Both of us were very upset at these revelations, and we both messaged him and told him to f*ck off and blocked him. However, he continued to harass us on the forum we'd met him on (they hadn't implemented an ignore/block feature on it yet), until we had to quit, even going so far as to write a lengthy post saying how two girls manipulated him and used him for sex.

After that, my friend and I didn't talk for a long time. Breaking up with the creep wasn't as bad as him nearly destroying our friendship. And I know some jerk is going to be like "yOu ShOuLd HaVe KnOwN bEtTeR" or some variation thereof in the comments, in which case I'd like to pre-emptively remind them we were TEENAGERS who did not know better, way to victim shame bud.

Tl;dr: A creep in his 20s masquerades soliciting underage girls for sex online as a relationship, manipulates and tries to pit them against each other, gets caught, pitches a fit and harasses/bullies his victims until they can't enjoy their hobby anymore.

Well, over text is probably the worst way. Unless they give you a cake. I was broken up with over text. Apparently they didn't actually knew if they liked me the whole time

umm so i dated this guy and he was sweet at first then he started to get more and more distant and turns out he was talking to my best friend and my best friend was talking to him back and she never told me about it and i used her phone to call my parents after a football game and he sent her a message that said hey baby i love you and when i got home i grabbed my phone and called him and started yelling at him and he just said i'm done don't talk to me again (we dated for a year and 4 months)

I never had a break up, only broken hearts about people who i thought it maybe is something, they sended me signs flirting, dating about months... Whenever I tell my feelings I can count on a time I feel very bad. So maybe no more feelings therefore no break ups and broken hearts.