Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Thing Your So-Called Best Friend Said To You? (Closed)

In response to #12 (initially tried to post as a comment): Wow this totally sucks. Went through a similar experience in terms of feeling betrayed and how they try to make you feel like you’re the problem (although they are) and to get you to blame yourself. I too felt like a martyr and kept giving chances to my so called best friend of 20 years after she let herself get more and more mean, rude and plain old shockingly inconsiderate and it was because she needed a scapegoat (me). I just posted as well and I related to your post because for me as well it wasn’t just one isolated incident, it was a series of them that had you questioning yourself. I get it. I hope you feel better now and that you have better friends since then. I have lost a lot of trust in people and I really trusted her so this is scary. When a best friend becomes the most monstrous, toxic person you’ve ever known. She made my life a living nightmare on top of knowing I have depression and anxiety, knowing I’d blame myself for her unhappiness if she manipulated and exploded on me. (end of original comment) // (Oh and in 2016 there was a traumatic incident to my vocal cords (I’m a singer), and I recorded a cover song and sent it to her - she already knew about the physical trauma and immediately said I was off key even though it later turned out she’d never heard the original before so how would she know which part of the melody was off or not? It wasn’t true, she was just threatened, jealous, small and insecure.) and although she knew about the trauma, she looked irritated and spat out “you just need to practice” when it’s not a matter of practicing, my God…) I distanced myself from her for about a year but eventually felt guilty and came back and she just kept treating me like s**t and manifested her jealousy into my life by inviting herself over to cities I’ve been living in but still saying she considers my experiences even if they were full of hardship and depression as “fun vacations” just because I branched out and am no longer in our hometown. It’s not about me at all, it’s all for her benefit. She’s regretting whatever it was that led her not to have as much travel experience in life and somehow even though I have nothing to do with it blaming me. And I’ve known her since high school and she used to be so kind and sweet and unconditionally supportive that to see her change into this murderous demon type person scares the s**t out of me. I feel so sad and lonely since to be fair, the times she has been kind and helpful and a hint of her old self, I held onto and hoped she’d see I’m not the problem here, I’m not the cause of whatever pain or misery (oh yes…do I dare mention her saying to me soooo flippantly, out of the blue as I was laughing with her, “because you’re MISERABLE every SECOND of every DAY” when her comment had no context at all…shocking as I have clinical depression, so to hear that was such a demoralizing and hurtful as well as inaccurate thing to say)…ugh I wish she would back off and give me my money back…I also wish she would stop obsessing about what I’m doing and where I am, she’s the only one making it a competition here and I have no interest. It’s also been revealed that she’s been very jealous of the relationships I’ve had (even though I confided all the troubles within them to her) as well as my artistic skills as well as my personality in general AND it was revealed that she even stole some of my smaller items while she was helping me out the items upstairs in storage on my birthday…she feels entitled to steal my things but gives away a favourite sweater from Harry Potter to a random junkie like it meant nothing to her…she seethes over what she sees is my good fortune and family money (we do not come from old money, family is self made immigrants who worked hard) and apparently feels entitled to it as well and doesn’t see the problem in her gaslighting and manipulating me to feel bad and blame myself so she can get it herself :(

When I was a film student at the top film school in India, my final project i.e. a short fiction film for which I did cinematography won a National Award!! The National Award is a HUGE HUGE thing!! It's given by Indian government and the director receives the award by the hands of our President!! Not even the Prime Minister!!! I was obviously super excited and I told this to my best friend (whom I considered best friend) her very FIRST reaction was - "how did your film get a National Award?" I was shocked beyond words!!!! I asked her to repeat what she said but she changed the topic and she cut the call in a haste!! Very soon after that I broke up very badly with her!! It was traumatic ... All the deep secrets I shared with her.. I considered her my sole mate and she turned out to be a REAL F*****G BITCH!! I
She was still in touch with my elder sister and recently I was told that she was gone missing from all social media for 3months now. She's not answering anyone's calls or anything. Also her entire family was affected by Covid. Even after all this I cannot resist the very deep tiny voice that I should call her..may be she is in some bad state of mind and needs someone to call her... I don't know...

“You always make me say what you want me to say! I’M NOT YOUR EGO FLUFFER!” Hands down the meanest thing she said to me (and a big part of why I cut her off). My so called best friend of nearly 20 years openly admitted how “jealous” she was of my life even though I struggle from severe depression and anxiety. She exploded this at me hours after I’d asked her on online chat to please let me that the abuse I was suffering was not my fault and that I didn’t deserve it, which I thought was reasonable to ask since she never told me she was sorry that was happening to me and acting like I had to toughen up. When she blew up I was shocked. She’s made a lot of other petty comments about my previous travel and my musical skills but since she was my best friend I always tried to consider her remarks and see if there was any truth to them (nope). Then I asked her if she could think of anything I “made” her say recently…I waited (because there was none), obviously she couldn’t think of any and looked embarrassed. She said a LOT of other crap as well (among many other things, she forbade me to ever travel internationally again…”stop rubbing off” she blew up in an irrationally angry, irritated voice) and I realized how manipulative, gaslighting, toxic and cruel she really was. She made me develop anxieties and guilt over her own dissatisfaction and unhappiness with life. I feel like she bound my soul and my feet so I can’t move. The other day I actually looked up how to do an exorcism because her rage filled, murderous, obsessive spirit following me to wherever I’ve lived and wanting to stop all I do has haunted my soul even after I cut her off. I’m sure there’s gonna be a character based on me in her horror stories she writes who is goaded to commit suicide so she’ll (I’ll) never do anything ever again…oh she also insulted my lack of work over the last few years (due to chronic pain and depression) and made assumptions blurting out I never deserved any of my previous trips and insulted my dad in the process too. And she knows I’ve been speaking French for 20 plus years but after witnessing a conversation I had with our Haitian Uber driver had the nerve to say, “Wow, you actually CAN hold a conversation in French” - excuse me, etc?! Trying to make me feel like I’m baseline idiotic but hey! Even though I have taught French and sing in French, wouldn’t it make less sense to not know how to hold a conversation in French? Oh and she tried to use my own Asian American “guilt” against me for not going into healthcare like my parents (I say that as a joke, I’m not serious) telling me I better be tied up in my previous job when I’ve told her sooo many times I want to work on a second artistic career and she knows this but keeps ignoring my wishes and pushing me (not for my sake but for hers, presumably to prevent me from ever traveling again - she doesn’t want me to have what she doesn’t have, I realized) and looking desperate to try to stop me by any means necessary when I said, “I’m not sure I want to return to teaching yet,” in a desperate voice she grasped for straws, “well, do it for you…” immediately turns around and gaslights me saying, “you know how you feel guilty for not going into medicine?” Wtf. And saying things are my fault and it’s “your own insecurities” when she’s the one projecting her insecurities - I don’t HAVE insecurities when it comes to solo international travel, it’s what makes me the happiest and the most comfortable and she knows this. And she blew up at me about this ig post about please don’t make assumptions about me COMPLETELY missing the point…calling me privilege blind, whining about having to work and that obviously the world owes me something - ummm noooo, the whole point of that post was that it’s no ones business what I do or where I travel and to combat assumptions that I travel all the time. She constantly bitched at me victim blaming me saying I “put myself” in bad situations, wow. However, she won’t win.

Sorry, regarding my entry #60, it should say she exploded, “stop running off” (ugh who does she think she is to dictate that?! I mean so what if I want to “run off,” geez…)…and one of the “etc” should be “wtf”…with friends like these who needs enemies? It’s hard enough feeling like she’s obsessed with me and my accomplishments or travels while trying to prevent me from doing anything ever again…it’s completely draining an exhausting even after a month of cutting her off…also long story but she guilted/gaslit me into sending her double the money (in the thousands) that I owed her, so freaking manipulative…it’s a process of trying to detox from her draining insidiousness and blame shifting but I hope to overcome all the damage she’s caused in me.

when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had.
Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her."
What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless.

Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.

- Do you think I'm fat?
-Honestly?
-yeah.
-well, your chubby, but it's cute.

I have an eating disorder now.

I was in 5th grade, a fellow student told me my two "best friends" only hung out with me becaus

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

I had a really bad mental breakdown a couple of years ago which my GP described as a "catastrophic mental collapse".

I really wanted to see my so-called best friend who lived in another city, as we'd not seen each other for a couple of years due to work etc but we messaged and chatted every day. We'd been friends for like 18 years.

I was asking for his help during a really dark time in my life and I thought we would always have each others backs regardless.

He said one night "I don't need your negative energy right now in my life and I was only mates with you cos I wanted to f**k your sister."

We haven't spoken since.

she pranked me about my dogs tails bleeding badly(I would do anything for my dogs btw)