Hey Pandas, What Is The Worst Thing Your So-Called Best Friend Said To You? (Closed)

“Reese we all know your an attention seeker,stop saying your trans”

Not a friend but my mother. I told her my boyfriend of 8 years had cheated on me and the other girl was now pregnant. This was after we had had two miscarriages, which my mum knew. Her response was “oh well, what do you expect”…because I was fat. She felt I deserved it. 18 years later and I can still hear it like it was yesterday.

I was dating a new guy, and we were talking
On the phone, but having a disagreement. It was the first disagreement we'd had. I said that I didn't want to argue, because he had become my best friend. His reply? You're a bitch, and you've always been a bitch.
Huh, I said, I just called you my best friend and you call me a bitch? I hung up. Needless to say that was the end of the relationship! Thank goodness I found out early on, what an ah he was!

19 years ago, my daughter was born with Down Syndrome. My best friend at the time told me she knew how i felt, her son was just diagnosed with Asthma.

I had a lifelong best friend, over text, in a group message, tell me that I was mentally and emotionally exhausting and that she needed some space while I “got my act together”. I know that some of that might have been justified? But this is after I walked with her through her own struggles, cleared my schedule for her. I never really opened up in detail what I was going through to her, as I thought it would be a burden. Naturally, however, I wasn’t exactly “myself”. Later in the year after I’d almost reconciled everything, she called me and acted like everything was completely normal and nothing ever happened. Needless to say, that was it. I’m in a WAY better place now, but man that really sucked.

when i was stuff years old I was very happy because had finally found a friend in elementary school. it was the first friendship i ever had.
Once I was at her house and a friend of her mom's asked "oh, you have someone visiting, are you two friends?" and I, enthusiastically, answered "Yes, we're best friends" and she answered "well sadly we are best friends. i don't like her."
What made it worse was that the adults laughed about it and kept repeating it. The hours until my parents picked me up felt endless.

Years later I understand that she didn't hurt me on purpose. her parents made her have play dates with me because i was considered a "good influence". It's not her fault, but it was painful anyway. And I still think the adults should not have made so much fun of it. I needed comfort but didn't even dare to cry and did my best to hide my pain.

Same "friend," the person I had known for 20 years. I helped her through her divorce, I was with her for every breakup with guys she dated, and I was the one she called in the middle of the night when she had to go to the emergency room. Someone in her life committed suicide when I was in the middle of a big crisis of my own and I dropped everything to run to her.
1. Four and a half months after my marriage broke up in a painful way, she told me to buy a ticket to a Valentine's Day Sweetheart's Dance with her and her new boyfriend. She thought I should go "because it was for a good charity." When I finally backed out, I told her that it would be too painful to be around a bunch of loving couples as a single person. Another friend, J, took my ticket. Later she complained to me that she didn't like J and I was selfish to make her put up with J. Later J told me that she said I should have just taken an anti-anxiety pill and sucked it up "because it was a good charity."
2. When I got breast cancer, she basically disappeared. She came with me to one chemotherapy when I was scared, and then left to go have lunch with somebody else as soon as the nurse took me back. I actually heard more from the nice little old man who ran the mailbox store I went to then I did from her. I wrote her an email to tell her that this hurt me and to ask why. She ghosted me. This led to some passive aggressive exchanges on Facebook (honestly from both of us, I did it too.) Finally she said, "Get down off the cross, someone needs to use the wood." I had never heard that saying before and I was devastated. I cried all night. The next morning I woke up and realized that she was right: I was making myself a martyr over a false friend. And that was that. Now my only regret is that I spent so much emotional energy on someone who was never really my friend.

I had a friend that complained to me that she didn't have any friends. It made me feel like she was saying I wasn't her friend.
Side note: I couldn't help but notice that you were posting a lot about bad experiences with friends, if you need any advice or support, I'm here to listen and help

He didn't say anything. Just stopped talking to me completely.

"You need to stop caring about what your parents think so much."

B*tch we were in third grade! She wanted me to go over to her house after school, when my mom had already said no. She tried to convince me to run away from my mom when she came to pick me up after school.

I was ten when I stopped talking to her, eleven when I told her to never speak to me again. She apparently didn't catch on the first time.

You’re no one

“You know… none of us really like you”

I had just started dating a guy and he was on the cross country team. One day at the beach my friend turned to me and said, "I never thought you would be fatter than your boyfriend". I already had low self esteem previous to this, but it triggered many years battling eating disorders.

Background: she had been avoiding a real conversation with me for months, no matter how hard I tried. One day on the bus, I asked her if something was wrong at home and she said she didn’t want to be besties anymore. I was hurt but fine, until we had this conversation:
“Isn’t it weird how we’ve been talking everyday for 2 weeks are I’m already sick of you?”
I said “I’m sorry, but we didn’t have much conversation anyway.”
Her: “well, I was doing that on purpose.”
It might not seem like much, but I remember it word for word and it still hurts to think about.

Nothing....never had one.

My boyfriend cheated on me, and I was devastated. My friend if it was possible that he was emotionally attracted to me but physically attracted to her.

After my ex dated me, he moved states and dated another girl for two years and then they broke up. He killed himself shortly afterwards. I cried for days. He was a sweet soul who meant so much to me. My friend asked me, “Do you think it’s partly your fault he killed him self?” He said we were soul mates after we broke up to her. I’ll never forgive her for asking that. I’ve since been putting distance between us.

First told me that she'd always be there for me no matter WHAT and that i was incredible

then a week later told me i was going to hell and ghosted me

we aren't friends anymore and ik i shouldn't be hung up on it but i am

I don't like you anymore, but will you still be my friend? (What my sisters bestfriend/crush said to her)

"I used to be selfish like you before I had children." Said to me after I'd spent many months supporting her through IVF treatments and had mentioned I was thinking about taking a trip to Nepal on my own. Because I was single. And had no kids.