Hey Pandas, What Is The Hardest Thing You Have Ever Done? (Closed)

Stopped a car from the passenger seat because the driver died while we were going down the road.
Stopping the car was hard, the hardest part was that the driver was my husband.

I held my father's hand as he died, in May of 2021. I was the only one who stayed with him. My mom and sister "couldn't handle it" and they abandoned him around 8pm. I held his hand, talked to him, and listened to oldies music with him until he took his last breath at 3:17am. I told him it was okay to go, that he would finally be free of pain. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, and yet I am so happy I was able to be there with him.

Elder care of my mother for 18 agonizing years.

Have a baby. The exhaustion is crippling.

Standing up to my abusive stepfather. He was an alcoholic and an a*****e. It was scary as he was incredibly tall and physically intimidating. It made me ill and my mother never backed me on it (they stayed married) but I'm proud of myself

Say my final farewells to my father. He passed after a lengthy battle with cancer. Next hardest is caring for my elderly mother.

Severed contact with my ex -girlfriend/ best friend so she could move to the other side of the country without feeling tied down, after my mum died.... She needed to focus on her future not our past.....

learn how to walk again after an 8 story fall that I somehow

credit goes to God though

Going to the police about someone who was stealing and harassing me and attempting to blackmail me. He was becoming more and more dangerous and not letting up. I had gone before but the police didn't care/ didn't follow up which was demoralizing. But... I knew... I needed to make them listen so after almost 6months later I called them again and again until finally I talked to someone who saw how dangerous it was.

Previously I literally had an officer say "wow you must really be something to have a guy that into you, that's gotta count for something" after I showed them pictures he had sent of me in class earlier that day with a message about how he'd kill anyone who came near me... he wasn't a student at my university.

It to so long but-- having a police officer look at a mountain of insanity (100+ one-sided texts a day, emails, phone calls, photos, detailed descriptions of how he would kill me and my dog and best friend etc-- things I had the time before) and actually listen to me and take things as a credible threat and not just "teenaged drama" meant so much to me.

For him to be reprimanded (slap on the wrist but still)... i knew it was the right decision, I just wish they could have done it sooner, listened earlier and maybe I wouldn't have fallen apart as badly in the interim.

Telling my best friend that I am mentally exhausted.

listening to my bestie tell me he wants to kill himself. He's alive.

Having to have my heart dog euthanised. He collapsed and it was discovered he had a mass on his spleen. He was nearly 14 and it was doubtful he would have survived surgery, but I still regret to this day not giving him that chance. I thought I was doing the kindest thing for him but I miss him every single day. It's been 8 years and doesn't get any easier.

Sat with a woman as she held her toddler, as life support was terminated for the toddler is tied with holding up my own mom as my sister was pronounced dead. There's an abyss we see in those times that never stops staring back at us.

Move myself somewhere I knew no one. Began building a life from the ground up because of an opioid addiction due to an autoimmune disease that makes my entire body hurt all day every day. I’m 3 years into this ordeal and it’s been by far the scariest thing I have ever done. I’m still sober. Growing every day and doing my best to learn to work with my body rather than against it.

I have a gastric bypass. I used to be super morbidly obese. I'm a 5'34 foot in shoes shorty, my highest weight was about 385 lbs, BMI of 65.
The surgery was hard, getting everything approved by different doctors and professionals was hard, but the hardest part was realizing, accepting and admitting that I needed help and was going to die on my own. Deciding to tackle your emotional food addiction and having a perfectly healthy system crippled in order to live knowing you can never eat and drink normal again was extreme.

Honestly, the hardest thing I have ever had to do is a long distance relationship. It absolutely destroys me every single day. I always feel heartbroken. I try to be happy and strong, but in reality I always breakdown and cry at night when I am alone. It just hurts so much. The pain results in anger and attitude, which doesn't help. I try to control my emotions, but sometimes the hurt and pain is overwhelming. I love the quote "I have never missed someone this much who I have not lost." It is totally worth it though. Long distance is temporary, but out relationship is forever.

Gotten a divorce because I was deeply unhappy. Changed careers EVERY time my disability doubles down on the new normal. Choosing kindness and hope in a frightening world

Letting my child live with her father.
We just got divorced, and he could provide a more stable environment than I could at the time.

It was tough, and unwanted comments from others made it worse. My favorite: "only bad people give up their children".

She's an adult now, and seeing the wonderful young lady she's become has convinced me more and more that I made the correct decision.

Blood tests. I have to go to a hospital to have them every couple of months to check I’m doing ok and they FREAK ME OUT. The way my finger scrapes against the test tube to get the blood out…. Aughhh, no, just no. I always end up in tears, but one way or the other I end up doing it.

Say goodbye to my mom while she was put on life support because of a doctor's error.