Hey Pandas, What Is The Biggest Thing You Find Attractive About Your Significant Other? (Closed)

Her laughter and she lets me be exactly who I am.

We fell in love over a big pile of comparative language dictionaries looking up all the words for "light" but I stayed forever because he washes dishes and keeps clean bathroom. 23 years next week!

His eyes are what attracted me to him initially. He is also funny, innovative, smart and has a sexy butt, back and arms.

He made me feel more like me than I ever did in my life! And that was a very good thing. I lost him two years ago to brain cancer...I'm not sure how to be happy anymore.

His smile, how sweet and funny he is and how kind he is to others.

I was attracted to his long, lean body and slow cowboy walk. A human diamond in a platinum setting, a gift just for me.

I don’t have an SO but my crush is so damn kind and caring, and the fact that she’s hot as hell doesn’t hurt either.

Hopefully my SO, don't really know what she thinks of me like that, we've been friends for year. I guess I love her mannerisms and way of talking. She's totally inspired me to be a better person. Also, her eyes are gorgeous. Thank god I can still see them over her mask.

her cute little laugh, it makes me feel good and loved

(btw imma girl lol)

There are two things:

We truly enjoy each other's company. We've had our morning coffee together every day for over 20 years, and even when we have nothing to say, we still do it. It's a comfortable companionship that we enjoy.

And he has this talent: he has a broad range of interests, a very Renaissance kind of mind, but even better, he can digest theses topics and make even the most difficult of them (such as nuclear physics, submarine warfare, and many other things that I would find too boring or too complicated) and make them interesting. He should have been a teacher, in my opinion.

when he acts really cute and goofy

We are the exact same kind of silly. Sometimes we meow at each other, and we share a sense of humour. His gorgeous blue eyes are also great, but I love his silliness most. He always makes me smile.

Her heart.

His smile / grin and we had 57 years together.

Kindness. I get weak at the knees. My 2nd husband (and possibly the 3rd) have gruff exteriors, but are capable of incredible small, almost unnoticeable acts of kindness. #2 worked in construction and hired ex icons, then went to court, talked to parole officers, and did the small things they needed. He treated all his employees equally. As a result his team was loyal and hardworking. I didn't know for years. My current serious love pays attention to what makes me happy and what triggers mood swings. At 59 working through PTSD, I never thought I would find a partner.

The fact that he loved me for over 30 years. He died 6 years ago and I miss him terribly. I didn't kiss him when I left for work that day and I still kick myself in the ass for that.

We have the same dumb sense of humor plus she's just as f****d up as I am if not more so therefore she can understand why I act the way I do.

His kindness. Not just that he helps people, helps strangers and all that, but when I met him his long term relationship before me, she had 3 kids from a previous marriage and he helped raise them for the duration of their relationship. Once the relationship ended he still stayed in their lives and refers to them as their kids, now we are together and have been for 4 years and about to be married and they are now my kids too. So all together we now have 7. I knew from day one that if a man stood up to raise kids that weren't his, to STAY when he didn't have to he was the man for me.

He understands that I have issues I've been trying to deal with, and doesn't make me feel bad for them. He does his best to comfort me and doesn't mind giving me space when I need it. And I do the same for him, cause I really care about him and want him happy.

Their boundaries! I've never been with someone so good at saying, "this is not okay" when they need something to not happen, or so willing to listen when I say the same thing! I've never had to repeat a boundary because they get it the first time.

I'm so, so in love.