Hey Pandas, What Is Something Someone In Your Life Said Or Did That Compelled You To Finally Drop Them? (Closed)

"If I can't have you as my girlfriend I am at least going to f**k you!"
- the man whom I thought of as my best friend, before he put one hand around my throat and the other between my legs.

Not vaccinating.

I was telling my then Boyfriend about a wild mountain bike ride I took with my friends the day before, and he went on saying "I won't tolerate that kind of reckless behaviour anymore. Think about the future, when we're married with kids, how could I rise them alone if you die in a pointless accident?". We we've been dating for like 2 weeks, so naturally I burst off laughing, thinking he was joking. No, he wasn't. He mean it. And then went on on other things I did he didn't believe were an acceptable behaviour for his "future wife and mother of his kids".

I dumped him out on the spot.

July 2019 - Dad underwent an outpatient procedure. Surgeon said all went fine; he would be discharged in 30 min. I had brought him by myself, so I began gathering his things, prepping leave. Last set of vitals, dad tells Nurse something is wrong and goes into cardiac arrest. A code blue ensues. I was off-the-hook horrified, having prepped to take him home. Code Team doc steps out, asks if I'd like to tell Dad goodbye so I held held his hand until he died. So a few days later I receive an email from a family member known to have zero filter. She asks what happened; I give her the nutshell version; told her I was with him until the end. Her response: "Oh for Heaven's sakes, why would you actually CHOOSE to go sit with him while he died?? You're an RN and know how codes work. You knew it would be ugly give you nightmares."

My uncle said he was going pay to take my 2001 GMC Yukon to a garage and have it fixed for my mom and I.
After a month, he said the price to fix was high so he would be paying in payments a few months until paid off then they would do the work and we have a reliable vehicle well after another month or 2, I just had this feelin something wasn't right with how distant my uncle became and barley answer any calls or text so I decided to stop by the garage he took it too and ask for myself.
I was so shocked by finding out that it was no longer there, the guy said it was fixed within cpl days and my uncle had it sold to someone the next day.

According to my mother, my brother was the golden child. He was physically abusive to me as a child, but he never got punished, I did.

The straw that broke the camel's back happened the night my mother died. Her best friend called to tell him that she was in the hospital, and he needed to come. He hung up on her. I lived 2 hours away, and was on my way. I called him and he said he was sick of false alarms, and he would see her in the morning. I called to tell him she had died, but he turned his phone off. He called the hospital to get her room number and was told she wasn't there. Rather than calling me, he called the funeral home and found out that she was indeed dead. There is much more to this story, but my mother took out a mortgage to loan him money. The minute she died he stopped paying. My sister inherited the house but could not afford the mortgage. He didn't care that she was about to be homeless. I ended up going into debt to keep her from losing the house.

I had to put my father in a nursing home, and my stepmother in asst. living. I was in the process of moving them, and I came back to find out that he paid a neighbor to get the locks changed. I called the police who talked to him on the phone as he lived in Rhode Island. They told him that he had to let me back in the house to get more, but not all of their things. I was screaming so loud that the entire neighborhood came out. I got as much as I could, then he changed the locks again, and would not even let us in the house to get a suit for his funeral. I could write a book about him. Funny thing. He is a well known Sci-Fi writer and has lots of money. No he did not come to the funeral. I warned the police that if he did come, arrest me before I killed him. They believed me. I haven't seen or talked to him since 1999. Good riddance to bad trash.

"You're dating a XYZ?! I would never date a XYZ, that's like dating a n-word." I didn't even know where to begin to address the racism; it made my head hurt. BTW, me and that XYZ will soon celebrate our 38th anniversary.

Abusive ex stated that his son and I were not worth him continuing to seek treatment for anger issues and bipolar disorder (and later diagnosed with schizophrenia). I found out I was pregnant 6 weeks later and am glad to say that my daughter has never had to deal with what I'm ashamed to say my son saw.

A friend who was a state beauty pageant winner. She was beautiful but incredibly self conscious to the point where everything was a comparison. If we went out for drinks she'd asks the bartender, "Who's prettier? Me or her?" Which is just awkward and pointless so I'd excuse myself to use the restroom so the poor bartender could say her without offending me. She lied about having hair and lash extensions, which no one even asked about or cared about, she'd just blurt it out. Lied about desserts she made for parties we had, clearly desserts purchased from a bakery. Not big issues at all but just constant little lies that were so silly the friendship just felt like a big sham and too much work. Always wanted me to hang out with her & her husband but they would always end up fighting and screaming at each other over some small thing. Too much drama. I just couldn't do it anymore.

When my mother gave me a crappy present more suited to a 5 year old and cheap card for my birthday,and complains about the cost of posting it to me, yet boasts about going on another interstate holiday. Or talks more about herself and what the neighbours are doing (she’s a notorious gossip, step dad is no better) when I call her because I was feeling depressed. Needless to say I no longer speak to either of them.

"You're fat, and ugly. Why would anyone want you in the front of the stage? Go join the circus, pig." -- My previous ballet instructor, before forcing me to do pirouettes until my feet were bleeding profusely.

My grandmother - I'll try not to make this too long. My grandma has always been toxic, I've seen it, I've heard stories from my mom and other family members. She's been resentful towards my mom all her life and just emotionally and verbally abusive. She also loves shoving religion down others' throats. She always forced me to pray when I was little, even called me a certain R-word when I said something different in my prayer. One time when my mom got home from her job at a daycare, my grandma refused to open the door and threatened to call the police (who knows why she did that). She instead called all her family members in Dominican Republic to drag my mom's name to the ground. She did that in front of me, I was 6 or 7 at the time. In other words, in my grandma's eyes, my mom is irresponsible, a bad mom, etc. She even thought my mom got back together with her abusive ex (which she did not, we were perfectly safe away from him.), that just shows how little faith she had in us. A few years ago we finally decided to cut contact after the years of hurt and pain she put us through. The last text I remember getting from her was wishing me a happy birthday when I turned 16 last year. I never responded. She's controlling, narcissistic, and likes to put other people down. We (my mom, sister, and I) are much happier now, although I do wonder what would have happened if we continued to keep in contact.

I was six years divorced and had lost custody of my children because my ex's lawyers used my deploying to Iraq for 2 years against me. Anyway I'm back from Iraq and two of my children's birthdays are coming up and I have the opportunity to meet up with them and celebrate them. I do so and it was great. They were still minors at the time,min their teens. My best friend who's birthday falls about the same time as my children's has a complete and bizarre meltdown that I spent hundreds of dollars to go see my children and celebrate their birthdays but hadn't gotten her anything but a card and didn't attend her birthday party, because I was with my children instead who I don't get to see. I was floored. I said you can't be serious!? She was. I told her off, said no one is more important than my children, NO ONE! That was the end of that friendship.

This little girl was recording her conversations with people, so if they talked bad or revealed a secret, she could "eXpOsE" them.

I was dating a pediatric neurosurgeon who was a narcissist. No surprise there. We were supposed to go out to dinner, but I had just found out my mom had lung cancer and she didn't know if she was going to let it kill her or seek treatment. I called him crying and his response was, "Oh, yeah. Let me tell you about MY day..." That was it for me.

She cheated on her husband and then told her husband that "I couldn't wait to get with him" after she leaves. Ugh.... He took her back. It's been 12 years and never heard back from either of them after I cut them both off. Side note: I did not find her husband attractive in anyway and even if I did, you just don't do that regardless of the situation.

When I came home after a shift and an hour's drive each way... "Why did you put the dish washer on this morning?" Said in the nastiest way possible. I knew then my marriage was over.

On 11 Sept 2001 (or Sept 11, 2001, as you prefer)... Someone e-mailed me (and yes, this is what they wrote): "Now everyone knows how I feel! Ha ha they're scared!"... Deleted from my life that day, no regrets but not doing it sooner!

My dad has always been abusive. When I moved out my father laughed and said I'd be dead in week. Once I called my dad because my sister broke her neck. He said not to call him until "I've suffered enough."
Years later, after a car accident with the same sister, she was put into a medically induced coma. I let my dad know about it because we didn't know the extent of the damage (she's fine) and turns out he knew about it, was in the actual city we lived in, but only to marry his new wife who is my age and sign documents to cut me out of the will. He then blocked me.
I don't know if I am still blocked. I haven't spoken to him in 6 years.

My friend once asked me to sneak into mini golf without paying with her after spending twenty pounds of my pocket money on herself
I don't even like mini golf