Hey Pandas, What Has Your Run-In Been Like With Those Kinds Of Men? (Closed)

For all the people victim blaming raped or harassed women. I am a woman who dresses in quite a masculine way according to society (big hoodies, jeans, no makeup, short hair…) and that has been told many times by people how bad I look. I still got a really scary guy once at night (in a very safe neighbourhood around 10pm) to approach me demanding to have sex with me. It’s not about how we dress, it’s about feeling powerful over women.

at work, i was told i look sexy in all black. i work in a grocery store. it was 8pm. this was a grown man. im 16.

The first tjme I saw a penis I was 13yo. Me and two of my girlfriends were sitting in a park (open and apparently safe) when a disgusting degenerate came to show it to us.

This guy in my class came up behind me and just like played with my hair and got really close to me. I have shared like 6 words with this guy in my life and it was rlly weird so I elbowed him in the gut. Hopefully he takes a hint.

Where to start...the mistake disturbing thing is that I had more male attention as an anorexic teenager than at any other point in my life. I was in a day unit for a year to get treatment when I was 15, and had a contracted member of staff pick me up and take me home each day. This guy in his 40s seemed friendly at first but it turned quickly to grooming, texting me at night and buying me phone credit so I could talk to him. Then he sent me a porn link "by mistake". Then it went on to putting his hand on my thigh whilst driving with me in the front passenger seat everyday. When I told the unit staff they asked if I was encouraging it by what I was wearing. I was wearing children's clothing because of how skinny I was....

Ugh! I have so many, the most recent one was a guy I went on a Tinder date with decided he was just going to order my food for me. Not even a meal, appetizers!!! He then said he’d like to take ambien and have sex with me… nah! I blocked him before I left the parking lot