Hey Pandas, What Do You Wish Other People Would Stop Doing?

Everything is so politicised these days. You're either a far right N*zi or a woke lefty tree hugger. There's no longer any middle ground, and there's so much actual hate involved that people would much rather shout (and all too often resort to violence) than admit that, okay, maybe *BOTH* sides have valid points and that the only useful way forward is to compromise on something that is generally beneficial to everybody. But, hey, even thinking like that is woke nonsense these days, isn't it? 🙁

What would I like other people to stop doing? Stop hating people that don't think the same as you, and stop turning everything into a giant drama.

That if you disagree with someone you hate them. Disagree does NOT equal hate.

Being rude and unkind to others. It seems civility, empathy, and kindness have gone out the window in the last few years. You see it in the way people drive, the way they treat people serving them at stores and businesses, and the way they behave and treat others on Social Media. Bullying has been applauded and elevated to an art form.

Stop being so d**n rude. Why do you feel the need to scream and yell at people?

Stop littering. The amount of trash people just throw on the street or out their car windows is disgusting.

Stop saying everything you don't agree with is fake news or a hoax.

Being overly concerned about people's genitals and what they get up to in the bedroom.

Having your phone on speaker in a train or bus or other crowded place, I do not need to hear your conversation.

The one thing I really want people to stop is labelling everything "trauma". Just because something bad happened to you does not make it trauma. My oldest recently found out that the guy she had been seeing, but had already broken up with, was married and began saying that it was traumatic. No child, it's bad yes, but it is not trauma. Calling everything trauma lessens the value of the word and makes it harder for those who experience real trauma to be taken seriously. Bad things happen to everyone and some point in time, but traumatic experiences, real traumatic experiences are not the same thing.

If you've seen any of my comments lately, you've probably noticed me mention this. To use a small scale example, people on here that would rather just downvote you than engage in respectful debate/discourse with you. Wanting to hear why you believe what you believe isn't a trap; it's genuinely a question of "can you justify your opinion? Could you please do so, because I would like to know why you think what you think?". Nobody's going to pop out and yell "gotcha!". On the contrary, I'm quite open to having my opinion changed and admitting I'm wrong if I am. I respect people that are open to discussion like this and have no time for people that downvote blindly without explaining why or shutting down debate because they can't handle the heat.

On a larger scale, respectful debate/discussion is kind of relevant to what @Rick Murray posted above. You *can* (not always, but it's possible) learn from people with whom you don't necessarily agree, and sometimes a compromise with said people is better if you can both move forward together. Probably dreaming here for people to do this in reality, but I still think it'd be nice to see.

being horrible to minors, especially when you're an adult

A few more bugbears:

* Talking about me behind my back. If you have a problem, talk to me. I don't bite.

* Dumb people who think they're smart; and I don't mean like your next door neighbour who fell over her wheelie bin because the physics wasn't physicsing, but, well, a lot of management.

* Lying to me and not even having the decency to try to be convincing about it.

* People who use their emotions as a weapon that they seem unable to control. Do you go home, hit your wife, and say "Look what you made me do"?

* People who kiss ars* at work, and moreso the managers that tolerate this sort of thing.

* People that believe nonsense that is not only painfully easy to debunk, but often isn't even internally self consistent.

* People who think I'm wrong purely because they believe they are right, particularly when it comes to issues that are unprovable such as belief systems.

* People that do the bare minimum to avoid being fired, guess who has to work extra for the same pay to make up for your inability?

Speaking of which, my break has come to an end so I'll stop here and go push that rock up a hill again...

Stop getting into a long conversation with the cashier when people are behind you in line at a store. Saying, “Have a nice day,” is fine, but I don’t want to stand there and wait for 10 minutes while you tell the whole story of Aunt Sue’s foot fungus.

Worshiping, adulating people (celebrities, royalty etc) literally licking the sh1te off their shoes

Blaming others for their own inadequacies failures.

Stop blasting loud music in cars. Stop blasting your phone in public. Use earbuds/earphones. Every single person who blasts music from their car has THE WORST taste in music, and no class whatsoever. I said what I said.

This one is very Caribbean specific. Stop playing your music so loudly from your residence or vehicle. Geezzzz. Some people have to suffer through that day after day. Some bars/pubs do it all night. Police and environmental authority you ask....doesn't make any difference. Apparently we have to accept our "party culture". Absolute rubbish.

STOP THE GENDER DIVIDE! Even here on Bored Panda, there are posts/responses either targeting, putting down or comparing genders! WHY? Everybody brings something to the table, when did it become a competition?

I wish people would stop forgetting their manners. A please, thank you or even a smile goes a long way. Courtesy cost nothing.

Jumping on the trend for health. Ozempic for instance.
My partner had lifelong issues with low sugar levels and I can tell you it causes a LOT of damage.
Quit looking for the quick fix, it took you a long time to get fat, it takes a long time to get back to normal with a sensible diet.

Stop taking all the pavement like a line of chorus girls. We have places to go.

Step aside when the metro doors open. If you block my getting off it's gonna take longer for YOU to get on, I promise. And I really don't want to elbow my way out.

Don't put your feet on the seats in public transport. Disgusting.

Don't blast your music without headphones in public transport. You look cooler when I can't hear the s**t you're listening to.

Basically, we're here crammed in the most densely populated area in Europe, so let's try and make going anywhere a little easier.

When you visit your local public library:
- don’t treat it like your own personal living room. It’s a shared space. Keep noise to a minimum… many people go there to study or just read quietly, they don’t need or want to hear your loud phone conversations or computer games.
- don’t lie down on the sofas or put your feet up on the armrests. It’s inconsiderate and gross.
- encourage responsibility and good manners in your child. Let them take one book off the shelf at a time instead of 10 that they spend 5 seconds on then dump on the floor for someone else to pick up and reshelve. Babies and toddlers may be the exception but YOU are responsible for your child’s behaviour in public. Librarians are not babysitters.
- if you are a smoker, please don’t smoke when reading a borrowed book and wash your hands. I don’t want to read a book that reeks of someone else’s disgusting cigarette smoke.
- practice good hygiene. Again, you’re in a public, shared space. Wear deodorant, wash your hands and understand that if you are a regular smoker, chances are your breath and clothes smell like cigarette smoke.
- most things are free in a Library. Books, DVD’s, magazines, newspapers, wi-fi, computer usage, toys… we only charge for printing and photocopying. A simple “please” and “thank you” goes a long way.