Hey Pandas, What Do You Do When People Misgender You? (Closed)

I ask myself, is this worth correcting? Is it really worth my time? Those who know me know what gender I am and know how to address me accordingly. If they forget, well, they are human too. I give them the same kindness that I would want on committing a social faux pas.

My younger son is a small boy with hair down to his waist. He loves the confusion this causes! My older son used to do historical re-enactment with me - back in the day, boys would wear skirts til they were 6 or 7. He also enjoyed the confusion this caused to the visitors to our attraction. Guess I've got a couple of controversialists on my hands.

I just tell them my actual gender and continue the conversation because it doesn't really bother me. C:

I have been in multiple conversations where people deliberately misgender me (I am a transguy).

To be honest I try to politely correct them the first few times, because I have presented as female most of my life, and I still haven't changed my name, so it confuses some people. But if they keep doing it, I find that I posses my moms fantastic mean-mugging skills.

Or I stare at them until it makes them uncomfortable, and then point out how, it may not be exactly the same, but them misgendering me makes me uncomfortable as well.

was that too long? I haven't done this before. I'm new :P

I work part time at a fast food restaurant, and I often take orders on the drive thru. I’m a guy, but I don’t have a deep voice, and the speaker distorts my voice a little bit as well, so I sometimes get called ma’am. I just ignore it, it’s not worth the effort to correct.

I'm not misgendered, but my older sister is. She has short hair, like "boy" short. People come up to me sometimes and ask, "Is that your brother?" My sister says, "No, I'm a girl." If people say, "But you look like a boy!" (that's only happened once or twice), she says calmly, "I am a girl. I chose this hairstyle because it makes me feel happy. So please, don't insist that I am or look like a boy." I think that she looks like a beautiful, amazing girl. However, not everybody takes the time to think that. (wow, great alliteration there :D)

I just laugh and say no worries. It was a mistake and people are human and humans make mistakes. Nothing to get all bent out of shape over.

I have short hair and I generally dress like a stereotypical boy. So, when someone talks to me as He/him, I just tell them I'm a her/she. I REALLY get annoyed when they then ask me if I am trans. My usual response is a dirty look and reprimanding them for assuming a girl can't have short hair. I could go on and on for how many times this has happened.

Unfortunately the people who misgender me the most are my immediate family. I've spent five years trying to get them to stop and it hasn't worked yet. I've given up on them.

Who’s the cranky-pants who’s downvoting everything?

This only happens when I'm playing on.line games. I just correct them and all is good

This doesn't really happen if the person has met me before or something, but if it's online and I'm acting pretty gender neutral, then people might address me as "he", so I tell them "btw ima girl.". Pretty simple. But I am almost ALWAYS misgendered in roleplays! XD People always say "slashes him across the face with my swaord" or something. It's always awkward when I have to say (oof, I'm female) and then continue, lol

This isn't me but my non binary significant other usually just says "I'm non binary. I use they/them pronouns", and usually the person is just like, "ok" but sometimes people will still ignore that, and at that point, they just correct them every time the person misgenders them. It's really cool how they never loose their cool, and is really patient

I'm in my early 50's and have been dealing with this all my life. I anticipate it and laugh it off. I think I have since I learned as a child I have the male spelling of my name. When I was a little child I had wild hair and you couldn't tell by looking at me what my gender was until it was clear I had grown into a squeaky little girl, small even for my age :) It doesn't matter to me unless I know they are intentionally being demeaning. Then I put them in their place. I may be small and difficult to hear but I have a command of the English language that will def let you know that you made a mistake.

My brother used to have hair that was shoulder length, people used to say, 'You have very well behaved daughters!' My brother would always say something like, 'I'm actually a guy, not a girl' and their faces would look really confused lol

I tell them that I am a girl. They sometimes just wanna be funny and it is annoying.

I've been misgendered a couple times (for some reason it's usually restaurant workers idk lol) but it doesnt really bother me. If you are misgendered, don't go nuts, it's okay, people are going to make mistakes and forgive them for that. If you misgender someone, correct yourself and move on. For example- "He was- She was, sorry, going to the store with me". I have lots of gender-non-conforming (gnc) and non-binary (nb) friends and they have told me how they'd like to have people correct their mistakes. that's my 2 cents. :)

I’m cisgender biologically female but have still been misgendered. I just say “I’m not a ‘sir’, thanks.”

I am often misgendered, but it doesn't really bother me as I'm genderfluid. I like to dress feminine, but have short hair. Unfortunately, people decide that just because i look one way, that they have to treat me a certain way. It also makes it really hard to find people to date. Once a guy I thought was cute, asked my best friend if I was her older brother. I looked at him, and said, "Girl, guy, human shaped being. All the same to me."
My friend decided to add, "Either way she's a good kisser."
Yeah, he stopped talking to me.

I'll just either misgender them back or ignore them

Or just throw something if they are far away, idk